Differences Between Men and Women According To Robert Bly
For thousands of years men as a gender have dominated this world, because for the most part men are physically stronger than women. Unfortunately, science and its statistics have proved man to be inferior to women. For example, men have a shorter lifespan than women, men are more likely to have a car accident, and women are safer drivers; some studies have gone as far as to prove that women are smarter than men. Since the 1960s women's rights have expanded broadly in the United States and around the world, narrowing the gap of inequality. Since then, men as a gender have undergone many changes putting their manhood in question. Robert Bly, an award winning poet and writer, became a leader of the men's movement because of his writings focused on the modern male. He illuminated masculine consciousness and men's need to reconnect with themselves and their essential masculinity. In the essay "The Community of Men," Bly effectively communicates the evolution of the male gender through the decades, and what the ideal male should be. Many people disagree with Bly, and the standards he has set for men, but this essay will argue the positive reinforcements that Bly provides in his literature, demonstrating the reason behind his writing.
In "The Community of Men," the controlling idea that Bly argues is that contemporary men are out of touch with their own masculinity, an estrangement that causes tremendous grief and alienation. His categorization by decades of the male evolution, give the reader an accurate timetable of the deconstruction of manhood. Starting with the male model of the fifties who "was suppose to like football, be aggressive, stick up for the United States, ne...
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...ote other books and essays about men and their tribulations. Critically acclaimed by some and denounced by others. These books have influenced the male gender. We are now in the year 2001 a new decade has started and with it comes a new generation; young men that will soon grow up to be the modern man. If by chance they read this essay I'd like to think that it would bring about a change, a new breed of man be born; a man that can balance his masculinity with his responsibilities and that accepts their female counterparts for who they are, and the role they play in this modern world. Maybe by regaining some of the features of the original American man, the modern man can find stability in their daily lives.
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Bly, Robert. "The Community of Men." American Voices. Ed. Dolores La Guardia and Hans P. Guth. Mountain View: Mayfield, 1993
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Mosse, L George. The Image of Man: The Creation of Modern Masculinity. New York: Macmillan publishers, 1996.
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Renzetti, C. M., Curran, D. J., & Maier, S. L. (2012). Women, men, and society. Boston: Pearson.
behaviors, and social conditions that we call masculinities are “hard-wired” into males through biology (see Thorhill & Palmer, 2000) and/or the heritability of human psyche (see Jung, 1959/1989; Bly, 1990). They view masculinity as static, transhistorical, cross-cultural, and cross-situational. From this perspective, gender change is either impossible, or it involves the use of powerful force to constrain what is seen as “naturally” male. (Masculine Self pg. 19)