Most people fail to realize is that true love is not always accompanied by romance. Romance is different from love. Romance is the emotional part of love that adds the sparkle in your eyes. Sometimes people mistake romance for love. It may even become a substitute for love.
Love of affection is where one loves for the right reasons and in the right ways such as a man or woman who loves their partner for who they are. On the other hand, love of non-affection is love for the wrong reasons. An example is a woman or man who is in love with a person due to his or her wealth. This general conception of what love is, is often confused by many people. There is not only one defined love of affection, but there are many subgroups of love such as brotherly love, puppy love, maternal love, and so on.
In ordinary terms, love is an intense feeling of affection towards another person, object, or anything for that matter. An average person typically refers to love as an attraction to another person so strong that one begins to develop an inability to feel a romantic passion for anyone else. However, in psychoanalytical terms there are multiple ways to describe the characteristics of love. In actuality, love is not a feeling. The only accompanying feelings that come with love is anxiety.
What does the word “love” mean? Love is one of those things that means different things to different people. If you would look the word love up in the dictionary, you would find this: “an intense feeling of deep affection.” For some people, love can be purely romantic or even just purely sexual. For others, real love can only exist between family members or between people and a god. For some people, it is felt for your partners, family, pets, or even inanimate objects.
Time and value play huge roles in these loves. They all contain some aspect of affection, but they are examples of what happens if affection grows. Romance is what happens when affection is reciprocated with sexual intent. Friendship is the product of when affection is reciprocated with the intent on bringing happiness into the relationship. Unconditional love includes affection, but it is mainly the love than cannot be unshaken.
However, this falling in love is not permanent, since it is based on the meeting of strangers. Once you stop being strange with this person, the feeling of falling for them, and its feeling of excitement, will stop too. The miracle seems to be over. Standing in love vary from falling in love, because standing in love is premised on the fact that the lovers are not strangers to each other anymore. Standing in love is to love a person because probably they are as well known to you as you are to yourself.
Sexual desire can be stimulated by the anxiety of being alone, the wish to conquer, vanity, or the wish to hurt or even destroy someone. Some people mistake sexual desire with the idea of love, they are easily misled to conclude that they love each other when they want each other physically. Fromm states that if a person’s desire for physical union is not stimulated by love, and romantic love is also not coupled with other forms of love, it will never lead to a union more than an "orgiastic, transitory sense." So what will end up happening is the person who gets scarred by love will begin to destroy or sabotage love in the future, in order to avoid the painful feelings associated with love gone wrong or to avoid vulnerability and basically not surrender to love. Fromm asks, is love an art, or is love a pleasant... ... middle of paper ... ...n my mother was.
Yet love is one of the most misunderstood concepts of all. What people really want more than anything else is to be loved unconditionally; to be accepted for who we are, and still be loved. Sometimes we will do some crazy things, "in the name of love." Love is actually the choice one makes to put someone's wishes, desires and needs above our own. Many people confuse the word "love" with the meaning of the word "want" or "desire."
Love is defined as, “an intense feeling of deep affection or a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone”(Merriam-Webster). This definition excludes those such as asexuals, aromantics, the love of strangers as well as the love animals show. A more accurate definition of love is wanting the best for someone knowing it may cost you something and expecting nothing in return. This revised definition is based off of inclusivity, while Websters definition is one of exclusivity. Affection is a gentle feeling of fondness or liking.
Love today is nothing the way it was before, people define love into many different categories, it is so hard to keep up with. I know that love is not about what someone must offer, love is about the way you feel towards someone, the connection you both bring out of each other, the value of the friendship, and the constant struggles you both go through with each other. Love is valuable not just something you can pick and choose