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Cycle 4

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Understanding the definition of conflict, along with the approaches to conflict that should be avoided, and effective conflict management strategies would allow one to use effective interpersonal communication skills to address conflicts effectively.
When two (or more) individuals who must interact together, have different goals or ideas, a conflict arises. Although DeVito does provide a decent, summarized definition of interpersonal conflict as a “disagreement between or among interdependent individuals who perceive their goals as incompatible,” (DeVito, 241) it is important to include Dr. Hamlet’s expansion that “concern[s] scarce resources or mutually exclusive goals” (Hamlett, Interpersonal). Including this expansion broadens the definition of conflict and allows for added conflict management strategies.
An interpersonal conflict may not be immediately thought of as such in certain events, especially involving “scarce resources” (Hamlett, Interpersonal). For example, two good friends may want to buy the same used car. They are good friends and would never undermine each other’s chance for happiness and could not imagine a conflict between themselves. Yet, there is only one car available. In order for either one to obtain the car, the other cannot. Therein lies the conflict. One individual must go without realizing their goal or interest for the other to realize theirs.
Even traditionally strong relationships, such as marriage, are prone to many instances of interpersonal conflicts. Home buying; what is important to each in a home? Career choices; does one career affect the other, if so, which one is more important to each? Holiday plans can involve conflict. Oftentimes during the holidays I would like to visit with my family...

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...f your emotions. Your ability to recognize and manage your own emotions can increase your ability to recognize another’s emotions and what part these emotions may be playing in the conflict.
It is important to realize that interpersonal conflict exists in every instance of interpersonal relationship. It is equally important to understand that conflicts in a relationship are not always a detrimental thing. Conflict resolution involves several aspects of effective interpersonal communication. Self-disclosure, messages (and message meaning), and transactional communication not only contribute to the solution, but can be by-products as well. Relationships are dynamic (Hamlett, Cycle 3). So too will be the conflicts that arise. Our ability to adapt and implement effective conflict resolution can actually strengthen a relationship and make the relationship more valuable.
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