Correlations between Happiness and Positive Illusions of the Self and Relationships

This paper explores my own theory that having a partner makes one view themselves through positive illusions and ultimately has higher self-confidence. Such a hypothesis was detected through the idea that people view both their partners and themselves as more attractive than others see them. This can be both self limiting and an advantage for relationship and self worth. It has been found that people like others who they can find themselves in, which would make it important, if such is the case, that people positively view themselves. Time plays an effect on the outcome of positive illusions to show that long term effects may differ from short term effects. Positive illusions on the self may lead to narcissism and positive illusions in relationships may either be detrimental or may assist salvage the relationship. Contrary to the effect of positive illusions on the self, they can help the relationship thrive. The opposing side to such claims is that positive illusion can exhibit negative effects, despite the benefits of such tendencies.

Positive illusions refers to ones tendency to overstate, enhance, or add to a quality of another to make them appear to have a higher trait quality than they actually do. In the sense of partners happens more frequently. Sometimes it is natural and other times it is linked to other levels of appreciation in a partner. Research has shown that positive illusions are linked to relationship longevity, increased satisfaction, trust, and help dissolve conflict and debates among couples. It has also been related to levels of intimacy, passion, and commitment. These illusions can help resolve conflict in multiple ways, provide a sense of security, and altogether stabilize a relationship and rea...

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... other positive association are welcomed in intimate relationships. Both can be true, people can desire realistic ideals from their partners based on their own self perceptions and still want their partners to have some positive illusions about them.

Sandra L. Murray, John G. Holmes, and Dale W. Griffin also explain the results of positive illusions effect in relationships in their article, “The Benefits of Positive Illusions: Idealizations and the Construction of Satisfaction in Close Relationships.” Despite the tittle, the also present the negative effects.

Counterpoint: Positive Illusions May be Negative

Murray, Griffin, and Holmes write about the opposing side of positive illusion and how they can hinder relationships in their other article, “The Self- Fulfilling Nature of Positive Illusions in Romantic Relationships: Love Is Not Blind, but Prescient.”