After the loss of their beloved son, the Jarrett family experiences the struggles poor communication causes, in the award winning movie Ordinary People. The Jarretts begin to break apart as they develop dysfunctional relationships, conflict management acts as a facilitator of expression, and would have helped the family to resolve their problems. Conrad, Beth and Calvin Jarrett display silence or violence actions, which results from the lack of use of management strategies to create safety and the free flow of emotions. Subsequent to the death of his brother and suicide attempt, Conrad reveals his struggles in unhealthy ways. Conrad expresses withdrawal when he gives quick, brief answers to his parents, choosing to keep his feelings locked inwards. He also indicates avoiding, when he averts from the topics of Buck’s passing and how he copes with his grief. When confronting Conrad, people must use AMPP (Ask, Mirror, Paraphrase, Prime) in order to evoke his true pain, in a safe environment. Conrad needs sincerity from his parents as he feels his mother neglects him, causing him to lose the importance of the relationship. Beth must …show more content…
Beth exhibits silence when on the plane returning home she withdrawals and avoids her husband's company. When one confronts her they must use S.T.A.T.E in order to keep Beth from feeling she must defend herself. The same can be used when she acts violent, Beth often times tries to control the situations or mask her feelings because she wants her family to appear “perfect”. She exemplifies these violent actions when she criticizes Calvin for telling a friend Conrad sees a counselor and becomes defensive when others try to talk about their or her emotions. Beth needs the family to create safety by stating their intentions and also relay the idea that they share the same pain and want to aid each other in such a difficult
In the movie Ordinary People, the Jarrett Family seems like a normal family with the Mother Beth, Father Calvin, and their son Conrad. Even though they seem like a happy family, in reality they have lost a family member and have unresolved issues and conflicts. Conrad’s brother Buck died in a boating accident and Conrad survived and feels major guilt that he is alive and Buck isn’t.This results in an overall awkward/uncomfortable and cold environment especially for Conrad. If they had used conflict management it could’ve helped resolve the issues and possibly kept their family together. The Jarrett family seems to either act out in fight or flight on each other and others. Conrad and his parents could have used conflict management strategies like mutual purpose to help resolve the tension and keep the family together.
In the movie Ordinary People, Beth Jarrett is unable to cope with the loss of her eldest son, Buck who died in a boating accident. This situation creates a strain on her relationships with her husband, Calvin, and her youngest son, Conrad. Moreover, Beth is bitter towards Conrad because she believes he is the sole cause of Buck’s death. Meanwhile, Conrad begins meeting with a psychiatrist named Dr. Berger to help deal with his suicidal tendencies. Unlike Beth, Calvin Jarrett longs to connect with his son and give him the love that he needs. The Jarrett family could have avoided these problems if there had been stronger communication and conflict management skills. All the main characters deal with conflicts in one of two ways: silence or violence.
After coming out of the hospital, Conrad is forced to relearn how to deal with every day situations. Learning how to establish routines and manage his own life is Conrad's first step on his way to recovery and self-discovery. Beth deals with Conrad's suicide attempt in a very different way, she is very enclosed and in a constant state of denial. This is just the first of many actions until she reveals her true colors. "Will you talk to him this morning? About the clothes. He's got a closet full of decent things and he goes off every day looking like a bum, Cal" (7).
...lt that he caused problems to everyone with whom he had contact. After much struggle, however, Conrad realized that he was not the problem and that he did not need to hold back his feelings. Calvin originally thought that Beth was perfect and was confused as to the extent of his responsibility as a father. With Dr. Berger's help, Calvin came to understand that Beth was not the ideal mother and that the things he blamed himself for were not really his fault. The conclusion can be drawn that one needs external help in order to develop psychologically. Calvin and Conrad voluntarily met with Dr. Berger in search of assistance while Beth refused his aid. This may be the reason that Beth was not able to reach emotional maturity while Calvin and Conrad matured greatly.
In many cases, the raw emotions felt by the characters as a result of Susie’s death help better their relationships. To begin with, Jack Salmon’s relationship with his youngest son Buckley is enhanced because of the cruel reminder of mortality that Susie’s death emphasizes. When Buckley attempts to comfort his heartbroken father, Jack clings to Buckley and says “‘you are so special to me, little man,’…Buckley drew back and stared at [his] father’s creased face, the fine bright spots of tears at the corners of his eyes” (Sebold 47). By expressing his affection for Buckley, Jack acknowledges the fact that Buckley is alive for him to cherish – something that he cannot possibly do with his deceased daughter. With his emotions array, Jack uses Buckley to steady himself and remind himself that he has two surviving children, and the depth of their relationship grows with their physical and emotional connection. Secondly, the impact of Susie’s death on her younger sister Lindsey brings her and Samuel, a boy she first met while in middle school, together with a tightknit bond. In reflecting on their relationship on the day of their college graduation, Susie notes that Samuel “had pressed himself into her need, and the cement between the two of them had begun to set immediately. They had gone to Temple together, side by side. He had hated it and she had pushed him through” (234). When Lindsey was in an emotional state as a result of her si...
She requests that Arden’s body be brought to her and, upon seeing him, she speaks to Arden and confesses to the murder, and expresses her guilt, wishing he were still alive, by saying “...And would my death save thine thou shouldst not die” (“Arden” 8). Though she previously conveyed how free she felt, the combination of the hand-towel and knife used to kill Arden, his innocent blood stains on the floor, and his distorted, unmoving body triggers Alice to feel an overwhelming and unbearable sense of guilt. Once this guilt comes upon her, she cannot stop herself from begging her dead husband for forgiveness, though he cannot offer it to her now. The guilt of her actions causes her to expose the people who helped her enact this heinous crime. Because Alice reveals the truth behind Arden’s murder, every character pays a penance for their
Elizabeth try’s the easiest way out of things. She cannot control what she does. She’ll have the loud cry for help without saying the words. Her actions speak so much louder than her words. Elizabeth had never once told someone to help her, she would just be screaming crying throwing a fit on the bathroom floor, almost killing herself.
Conrad gets so depressed that while his parents are away he tries to commit suicide. He doesn’t succeed because of his parents early coming. He is then sent to a hospital to heal the wounds and mental damages. After he gets out of the hospital is faced with the real world situations. When his mother and father are talking, his mother says, “He has escaped this time but even the smallest, most insignificant encounter is alive with complication and danger. He wishes himself, for a moment, back inside the hospital where things were predictable. Mercifully dull.”(Guest 114). Holden wishes that he had never gotten out of that hospital, he wishes that he wouldn’t have to deal with his mom and other people. The only person Conrad is really able to talk his feelings with is his therapist Dr. Berger. Berger is what Conrad would call a trustworthy man. In one of Conrad’s session Berger asks what the overall problem of Con’s life is, Con says, "There 's a guy in the closet. I don 't even know him, that 's the problem."(Guest 146). Conrad can 't go into the closet in order to figure out who he is running from. Berger is trying to get at the point of, how can there be a problem if there is
She locks the door behind her and waits for several seconds starring in the darkness trying to hear any movements. Kelsey walks across the room with her pistol ready, finger on the trigger. Just as she gazes out the window watching flames arise on the horizon, spot light's beam the building causing the room to shine bright. Kelsey turns around and glimpses the Nazi Leader pointing a handgun at the pimple between her eyebrows. Kelsey lowers her pistol to the ground and holds her hands to the sky. The Nazi Leader speaks in some form of German which becomes inaudible for Kelsey to understand. Then a water droplet falls from Kelsey’s face and she begins to say a prayer. She speaks aloud to cause the leader to lose his focus on what he should be doing, killing her. Conversation comes up through the question of Kelsey asking the leader why he has started this movement once again. The leader replies “I chose to eliminate the weaker humans in our society. With those people gone, our community and world can develop to the next level.” Kelsey decides to yell at the leader while tears running down her face that the leader is wrong to think like that. She believes that everyone was put on this planet for a reason to contribute to society. And that the purpose of the jews might not be prevalent right now, but they will find their spot in society soon. As soon as the argument ceases and tension in the room intensifies, the family Kelsey saved in the woods barges through the door and open fires on the Nazi Leader. Multiple bullets slice through the leader’s body like tissue paper. His body collapses to the ground with a bang and silence strikes the room. Everyone looks around and checks themselves for unnoticeable bullet wounds that might not have stricken them. After all body parts are clean of bullet scratches, they all surround one another with tears of joy knowing
Conflict is something that arises in any workplace and that is particularly true when speaking about healthcare and the nursing field. Conflict by definition is competitive or opposing action of incompatibles and a mental struggle resulting from incompatible or opposing needs, drives, wishes, or external or internal demands. If these conflicts are managed correctly the results can be positive as opposed to negative.
The film Ordinary People is a well-known drama genre film directed by Robert Redford in 1980. The motion picture is based on the Jarrett’s family. The storyline is constructed on that the family lives an affluent lifestyle and struggling to manage with two grief-stricken incidents in their lives. One of the adolescent children, Buck, perishes in a storm accident at sea, the other incident comprises of a tried suicide by Conrad, one more of their kids. The family is well-known for their planned interactive relations which is accedited to the nature of the family. Buck was an individual idolized by others for his positive and pleasant way and was a well-known athletic swimmer at his school. Buck sustains a positive rapport with Conrad, his brother,
The other theme, forgiveness, also plays a crucial role in Ordinary People. One of the main places we see forgiveness represented is in the relationship between Beth and Conrad. You see the strain on their relationship from the very beginning as you see that Beth is significantly less impressed than Calvin is by Conrad’s small victories like good grades and just getting ready routinely. She also is more cold and less loving than you would expect a mother would be to a child who was depressed. Beth’s coldness towards Conrad leads to a huge setback for him, and he feels like she does not love him and can never forgive him. He has an epiphany about this, however, when he says, “‘I am never going to be forgiven for that, never! You can’t get it out, you know! All that blood on her rug and her goddamn towels’... ‘I think I just figured something out,’ he says… ‘Who it is who can’t forgive who’ (Guest 119-120). While talking to Dr. Berger he realizes that yes, maybe Beth is having
Conflict management is a strategized approach to understanding the complexity of conflict within any environment. Sources of conflict can derive from many avenues and include such things as scare resources to personal beliefs and work styles and lack of communication. Conflict is said to be inevitable and subjected to time and change. However, many organizations, including the federal department, have created functional methods through the use of historical theorist to become better aware of contribution and resolutions into conflict management. The criminal justice system within the United States have been subjected to many conflicts that hinder the progress of adaptability. What has been uncovered throughout decades of research is that human conflict is intertwined into the very fabric of our society, making it a formidable adversary.
When considering your conflict management style with others, be it; personal or professional, we tend to use the style that seems appropriate to the conflict.
In order of being able to analyze the sources of conflicts regarding the clothing manufacturer, I will present the Conflict Process Model according to McShane and Von Glinow. Therefore, I will first define what conflicts are, and second present the different sources of conflicts and carve out which conflicts are involved regarding to the given case. The third step is to explain two different strategies to minimize these conflicts in future. Finally, I will provide a recommendation and conclusion.