Her response was short and curt, “He didn’t have any good qualities.” In hindsight, I think that my inquiry aroused her face need to be without flaw. By asking about him, her constitutive filter assumed I was pointing out what a poor choice she made in marrying him. This insulted her face need of being without fault and in turn, she completely shut down the conversation. I attempted to ask two follow-up questions, padded heavily with statements affirming that I was making no judgment of her. However, her response remained the same and she just shut the conversation down. Another face need for my mother is to the consummate volunteer who sacrifices self in service of others. For the most part, this is a quality I am thankful she possesses. However, it causes conflict when I see that she is serving others in lieu of self-care. This is particularly evident in the constant messy and overstuffed state of her home, car, and yard. During my last visit, I grew increasingly frustrated when each morning I had to clear new piles from the breakfast nook to eat. Though she has two separate dining tables, they are both covered with stuff and not used for serving meals. On the third day, I passive-aggressively asked her if it bothered her to move things back and forth all the time. Though this was not the best approach, it did allow a small discussion about her hoarding. My mom does not see keeping an organized and clutter-free home as more important than serving her community and she is unlikely to change that behavior. However, when I visit I am anxious in her home and feel like I can never fully rest or relax. I do not feel like I can safely share these feelings, but hiding them makes me feel inauthentic. As a result, vis... ... middle of paper ... .... Laursen, B. (2005, October-December). Conflict between mothers and adolescents in single-mother, blended, and two-biological-parent families. Parenting: Science and Practice, 5(4), 347-370. Pearce, W. B. (2004). The coordinated management of meaning (CMM). Retrieved May 16, 2014, from http://www.pearceassociates.com/: http://www.pearceassociates.com/essays/cmm_pearce.pdf Rath, T. (2007). Strengths finder 2.0. New York, NY: Gallup Press. Walker, L. J., & Henning, K. H. (1997). Parent/child relationships in single-parent families. Canadian Journal of Behavioural Science, 29(1), 63-75. Zambianchi, M., & Bitti, P. E. (2014, April). The role of proactive coping strategies, time perspective, perceived efficacy on affect regulation, divergent thinking and family communication in promoting social well-being in emerging adulthood. Social Indicators Research, 116(2), 493-507.
You’d be the best mom EVER!” If I were to straightforwardly ask my mother if I could go to the lake, it would leave her with the responsibility to bring up the burden of me needing to cleaning my room on her own, making her feel like her desires and requests meant little to me. However, since I brought up the topic of the chore on my own and recognized that I feel guilty for not doing it, the ploy makes her respect me and feel confident that I am aware I still have chores to
A Separate Peace, written by John Knowles is a flashback of the main character, Gene Forrester’s schooling at the Devon School in New England. During this flashback Gene remembers his best friend Finny, who was really athletic and outgoing. Gene and Finny’s friendship was a relationship of jealousy. Gene was jealous of Finny’s talent in athletics, and Finny was envious of Gene’s talent in school. In the end, Gene’s jealousy of Finny takes over and causes him to shake the tree branch that makes Finny fall and break his leg. The break was bad, but it was not until Finny fell down the stairs and broke his leg again, that he had to have surgery. The surgery that Finny would undergo would cause more complications and heartbreaking news for Gene. During the surgery Finny would lose his life due to some bone marrow that escaped into his blood stream and stopped his heart from beating. “As I was moving the bone some of the marrow must have escaped into his blood stream and gone directly to his heart and stopped it” (Knowles 193). Although people do not normally think about bone marrow as being a huge part of the human body, it can cause some major issues if it has to be replaced or escapes into the blood stream.
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I remember my father handing my mother money regularly to put toward the utility bills while she would scrub the kitchen floor. By the end of the day, my mom was usually too tired to cater to my father because of the attention she gave to her home duties during the day. At the end of the day, my father didn’t understand why my mom didn’t have energy to fulfill his needs.
Brenda Shoshanna once stated, “All conflict we experience in the world, is a conflict within our own selves.” This quote recognizes how much conflict influences our everyday lives and personality. The wise words were especially true for Gene, the main character in A separate peace, who let his battles with other characters and the society of his time become his own internal battles. In John Knowles’s novel, A separate peace, all the types of conflict are shown through the main character Gene.
Families are becoming more diverse and they come in all shapes and sizes. Some people consider families to be strictly biological, while others consider people they love to be their family. Although two-parent families, also known as a nuclear family are the majority, one-parent families are becoming more common in today’s society. A sole-parent is considered to be a parent without a partner or spouse who is the primary care giver of one or more children in a household (Ministry of Social Development, 2010). From the age of 14 onward I was raised by m...
Single Parent Struggle For many years, children growing up in a single parent family have been viewed as different. Being raised by only one parent seems impossible to many yet over the decades it has become more prevalent. In today’s society many children have grown up to become emotionally stable and successful whether they had one or two parents to show them the rocky path that life bestows upon all human beings. The problem lies in the difference of children raised by single parents versus children raised by both a mother and a father.
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In the year 1962, a child would have had an 86% chance of having both parents present and living in the home. Many children in today’s generation do not have that privilege. One of the largest shifts in the family structure is the percentage (34%) of children and adolescents living with an unmarried parent. What exactly defines a single-parent household? “A single parent household can be defined as families where a parent lives with dependent children, either alone or in a larger household, without a spouse or partner.” This is an issue that continues to rise progressively each and every year, which in result has become a major concern to social scientists, child psychologists, and public officials across the nation. The effects of adolescents growing up in single-parent homes could be detrimental to their future if it is not handled properly or in a Biblical manner.
Everyone has a family, rather it is with your biological relatives or long-time friends. A lot of people have been raised in different types of households rather it is with a grandparent or a foster parent. Everyone has their own individual story of their particular support system. In most cases, people have been raised with both parents, which is ideal in this society. As years gone by, a lot of changes have occurred within raising a family, whether it be getting raised by a LGBT couple or being raised by a sibling. The most common change that has occurred is single-parenting. A lot of children are being raised by either just their mother or father. In most cases, the mother is the single parent. Being a single parent can be a blessing and a curse at the same time. In this essay, I will explain the ups and downs that come with being a single-parent.
The hoarder’s homes are dangerously cluttered and are often safety hazards. According to, Cleaning House, “Hoarding can also lead to serious public health and safety violations, think newspapers piled near kitchen stoves or rats infiltrating apartment complexes.” (Webley, 2010, p.43) From first responder’s experiences, “many homes look like ant farms, with only narrow pathways visible through the stacks of clutter.” (Kirk, 2011, p.234) This shows that there are very high risks to not only the hoarder but the people who live with or near them. This is a small idea of the potential health hazards hoarding can have on the
The Family structure has changed significantly in the last fifty years. With higher percentages of marriage ending in divorce, and higher rates of childbearing out of wedlock, single parent families are increasing rapidly. “Seventy percent of all the children will spend all or part of their lives in a single-parent household.” (Dowd) Studies have shown that the children of these families are affected dramatically, both negatively and positively. Women head the majority of single- parent families and as a result, children experience many social problems from growing up without a father. Some of these problems include lack of financial support, and various emotional problems by not having a father around, which may contribute to problems later in life. At the same time, children of single-parent homes become more independent because they learn to take care of themselves, and rely on others to do things for them.
Realistic Conflict Theory As one of the oldest social psychology theories, the Realistic Conflict Theory deals with the conflict and hostility that is projected to arise between individuals or groups competing over the same limited resources. Therefore, as a resource, opportunity, or even goal, becomes harder to obtain, the amount of aggression is projected to increase as well. This theory is not only visible in many everyday situations, but it also establishes a basis for which discrimination and prejudice can be partly explained. The initial study of this theory was conducted in a three-step experiment.