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Co-habitation Before Marriage is an Advantage or Disadvantage

Cohabitation, or living together without being married is a significant change in the way the majority of adults evolve from being single to being married in the United States. More marriages in the U.S. involve cohabitation before a wedding. “It is estimated that about half of the population has cohabitated at some point and approximately 9 percent of those age in 15-44 are currently cohabitating (Martinez 2007).” In addition, studies show that men and woman actually favor cohabitation before marriage. People believe that it is a good idea to live someone before marriage in order to find out if they truly get along or not. Despite these beliefs, cohabitation actually increases a couple’s chance of getting divorced.
Why would anyone consider cohabiting? There are many reasons why couples choose to cohabit before marriage. Couples say they do it for convenience, or to lower the cost of living. If they have only one apartment to pay for or clean, it’s going to make it easier than having two. Couples also cohabit for sexual or emotional intimacy without the responsibilities of marriage, to learn their partner’s habits and characteristics, and to prepare for marriage by practicing living together.
Although people believe that cohabiting is ideal before marriage, it has many disadvantages. There are several reasons why it will increase the chance of getting a divorce. The biggest attraction to cohabiting is the easy exit out with few responsibilities. “People willing to live together are more unconventional than others and tend to be less committed to marriage as an institution. These factors make it easier for them to leave a marriage later if it becomes unsatisfying (Jossey-Bass, 2000).” People who are scared of committing and perm...

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...ith marriage, most of these issues are left at the door. I understand that there are still going to be issues and hard times, but couple’s that are married are more likely to resolve them. The main reason why marriage is better for people is not a matter of statistics or human studies. We can be sure marriage is better for us because God says so.

References:
Cox, F.& Demmitt, K. (2014) Human Intimacy: Marriage, the family and its meaning (11th ed.). Santa Barbara, CA: Cengage Learning.

Cohabitation | For Your Marriage. (n.d.). Retrieved from http://www.foryourmarriage.org/catholic-marriage/church-teachings/cohabitation/

The Marriage Problem: Why Many Are Choosing Cohabitation Instead - Alice G. Walton - The Atlantic. (n.d.). Retrieved from http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2012/02/the-marriage-problem-why-many-are-choosing-cohabitation-instead/252505/

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