There are many of us that take others for granted, and we at times don 't realize we are doing this to each other. Those closest to us are the ones mostly affected and taken for granted such as a significant other. Couples sometimes assume the other knows what each other means or trying to say without a genuine understanding of the conversation. While studies may state communication is not as strong as we would like them to believe, society at times is too blame for this misconception. The article, Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication will describe some concerns and ideas of how we as couple interpret ourselves. The paper will support ideas and focus on how to handle communication when misunderstood. It will also show …show more content…
People may know more of each, but the fact is that may not be true, again taking things for granted. This kind of thought process refers to the "closeness-communication bias" (Close Relationships, 2011, para.3). To further investigate how well couples knew each other; a research study exercise was completed. Couples had to participate by saying phrases without the ability to see each other while still being able to hear each other. The results surprisingly showed no difference between knowing someone against a stranger. According to one author, he states some couples is on the right path. It is also not unusual for a couple to get side tracked and absent-minded. Lastly another author states; "we have an illusion of insight" (Close Relationships, 2011, para.8). With this in mind, one can easily take the other for granted. It 's probably best not to assume we know what the other is saying and always go in with good …show more content…
Nine years ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I remember telling him over the phone that I had bad news, and he said "you 're always thinking the worse" and that I was just overreacting. I get home, and I started getting upset because I wanted him to come up to me to have a heart to heart conversation but he pretty much ignored me instead. To be honest, I was devastated at the news I had received, and all I wanted was for him to console me. The one person I believed would be there for me no matter what had shut the door on me; I felt alone. I finally went up to him after days of going through this by myself and asked him what his problem was, and he looked at me with confusion what do you mean. I said well I told you I had some news, and you wouldn 't give me the time of day to talk to you. I began to cry, and I started to tell him I had cancer. The misunderstanding was on other occasions we had communicated. If I I had bad news it wasn 't bad to him but this time, it was bad. So bad to him was not bad until he stopped and listened to me. When I think back to this day, I probably should not have said anything on the phone. Instead, I should have sat him down and just tell him face to face. The sad thing today is that we are divorced, and we live separate lives, we are trying to rebuild our relationship in a healthy manner now, and communication was
For this paper, we will be talking about relational communications and Goffman’s terms. The definition of relational communication is “communication processes in personal relationships such as romantic, family, and friendships. We assess the role of communication in developing, maintaining, and dissolving relationships, how communication impacts partners and their relationships, and how to improve relational quality or individual well-being through communication. Recent topics examined include conflict mediation, relational standards, relational uncertainty in dating relationships, and communication environments in families” (n.d.). As it has said, it is about the relationships in our life. Goffman also stated that there was a front and
Petersen, J.C. (2007). Why don’t we listen better? Communicating & Connecting in Relationships. Tigard, OR: Petersen Publications
Effective communication is one of the most important things to maintain a happy relationship. Communication will help to create a better atmosphere and to know what are the interests, thoughts and feelings of your loved one. All romantic relationships need a lot of communications from both sides. The main factor is interpersonal communication, which couples are able to overlap environments and create a relationship. We reviewed the movie “The Breakup” and have found the concepts of Integrating, differentiating, and terminating. This movie shows how ineffective communication can dissolve a relationship. The lack of communication is the main factor why Brooke and Gary break up. This couple tends to rely on other people instead of trying to solve their problems talking to each other. They avoid talking because every time a new conflict will begin. In many of the scenes the couple creates big arguments from small issues. In this paper, we will explain the scenes of the movie that can be compared to the interpersonal communication concepts.
If man and the woman both had the same communication ways they would be more successful in marriage. Many of the communication issues are brought up in the article “Sex, Lies, and Conversation by Deborah Tannen.” Tannen states that men and women argue with one another over communication which leads to marital problems and divorce. Men and women have different viewpoints on communication. Women see bad communication as the one of the major reasons for divorce. Also the way men and women communicate are very different. Men are very different than women they do not like to communicate as much like women. Men don’t talk about their problems and women love to talk about them. Communication is seen as one major cause leading to a relationship failure. When couples get married the women is always looking for a good comuincator.
“Hush” is a popular episode of Buffy the Vampire Slayer. This is due to the twenty-nine minutes of the characters not speaking because their voices are taken away. The characters see the value of communication to solve their issues. Buffy the Vampire Slayer is related to real life problems such as insecurities and weaknesses. Some of these insecurities and weaknesses involved are identitiesidentity, relationships, and responsibilitiesduties. Also, adolescence because it is a time of growing and realizations. They mature through their experiences and battles of everyday life. and fighting. This occurs in a place called Sunnydale ,where during this time of the episode which monsters lurk around and are hunted. In the episode “Hush”, the voices taken away from the residents of Sunnydale represent the theme that communication is needed for understanding and solving problems.
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The article “Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to EachOther?” by Deborah Tannen talks about the possible reasons as to why it is difficult for men and women to communicate with each other in their everyday lives. She begins by explaining about a gathering that she addressed in which woman attended with their husbands. During the gathering she experiences a man who was chattering the whole time yet stated that his wife is actually the talker in the relationship when it comes to nonpublic communication. Tannen than begins to analyze as to why, in the modern world, men prefer their wives to be the talker in their relationship, and how could miscommunication, lead to divorce. Tannen addresses multiple causes about why men and woman react so differently when it comes to talking to each other, such as childhood conditioning, different attention processing, and misinterpretation when speaking.
Miscommunication is a struggle that lives within the world everyday. Being able to understand what another person is trying to convey is an essential part of the way humans interact with one another. When a message is not translated correctly from person to person conflict arises and heated battles rage within a relationship; whether it is a mother and daughter, or two quarreling lovers, or strangers upon the street. All humans are created differently, with diverse upbringings, perspectives, and mindsets. Particular forms of communications may mean different things to various people. When talking about the concept of miscommunications, one must also address the concept of communication itself.
James Petersen’s book, Why don’t we listen better? Communicating and connecting in relationships, outlines the requirement for a continual use of good communication, through a series of actions and steps, by the practice of comprehending, dynamic listening, and actively perceiving. Listening then becomes a creative force that creates a context in which the development of a communicative relationship can foster.
Despite having settled with a second husband, the wife continues her regular correspondence with the blind man, distancing her second husband in the same way she had distanced her first. Her husband’s agitation at this constant correspondence is evident when he states, “She and I began going out, and of course she told her blind man about it. She told him everything, or so it seemed to me” (185). From the onset of the story, the wife 's actions cause the husband to feel alienated. Additionally, she fails repeatedly to confide in her husband. A study on the functions of communication in marriage reveals that, “Quality communication depends equally on the capacity of a spouse to both send and receive communicational cues,” neither of which the wife seems capable of employing (Montgomery 22). What few words she does speak to her husband are harsh, rude, and antagonistic; she is constantly either questioning her husband or shouting at him: “[The blind man 's] wife’s just died! Don’t you understand that? The man’s lost his wife!,” and later, “Are you crazy? … Have you just flipped or something? … What’s wrong with you? … Are you drunk?” (Carver 185). Although her husband acts in a less than plausible manner, the wife 's continuous stream of insults and criticism suggest that she is
When I began to comprehend the faults within our relationship, I knew it was time to act. Focusing on the Struggle Spectrum by the National Communication Association, I noticed that we were repeatedly climbing the struggle ladder and falling off the edge only to repeat it again. My younger, less educated version of myself would never have seen the problems but now, after years of college and my Interpersonal Communications class, I could see what needed to be done. I b...
Communication is important in relationships as it allows us to share our interest, concerns, support each other; organize our lives and make decisions; and it allows us to work together. Effective communication is based on the way we talk and listen, how we respond and our body language. We can all learn how to improve the way we communicate.
Intimate relationships are a lot of times used for one’s personal needs. Relationships are being created with significant others for many different reason. I have never experienced being in a relationship for the wrong reasons, so I cannot talk much about this. However I can tell you a common issue I personally notice in today’s relationship struggling is the partners don’t talk about their feelings with one another. “Difficulty articulating what you feel; many adults don’t know to express what they feel. Instead, you communicate what you think” (Sachs, 2005). I believe this statement has a lot of truth to it because a lot of couples will not talk things out hoping that they will reside, when in reality that doesn’t happen. Tony and I could definitely work on this factor in our relationship, I have a hard time opening up and telling him my feelings about stuff that may be going on. Tony is really good about telling me how he feels at any time. I struggle with this because I push it off not hoping it will reside but because I feel like it is something I will get over and move on with. This is something we both are willing to work on and it will take time to accomplish
The success of any relationship relies on the ability to communicate well. Communication is important in all relationships as it allows us to share our interests, concerns, and support of each other. It helps us to organize our lives and make decisions; and it allows us to work together. Effective communication is based on the way we talk and listen, how we respond as well as our body language. We can all learn how to improve the way we communicate because it takes more than words to create a safe, exciting and secure relationship. All too often the signals we send are not those we intend to send, and when this happens, both the connection and trust are lost in our relationships.
When there is a lack of communication, relationships seem to fall apart. So for that matter, two people who were suppose to be partner, eventually end up going to court for to get legally separated. After all, when there is little to no communication or any other type of emotional connection, divorce seems to be the only way to resolve the problem. “Many couples marry because they share similar beliefs, but as time changes so do people.” (Odinity.com). Another problem that led to lack of communication is that everyone is so busy working; they don’t feel they need to talk to their husband or wife. Some couples are often quiet even when they have problems with each other, but decided to not deal with it instead. As a consequence, little problems will begin to expand to become bigger problems, resulting in divorce. This does not happen in a happy marriage because the partners in a healthy relationship seem to have a more open way of talking with each other. They discuss everything to be sure that they are on the same page, so to speak. Divorce is commonly done because of this lack of being able to talk openly to each other, and express their feelings and emotions. Nevertheless, this is not the main problem as to why people are getting divorce. As the economy grows, so does the human’s intellectual. Couple therapy is a very popular solution to most marriages problem nowadays. If people feel like their marriage is at risk, many chooses the option of going to couple therapy. It not only is effective, many stated that it is satisfying. “Over 98 percent of those surveyed reported that they received good or excellent couples therapy, and over 97 percent of those surveyed said they got the help they needed.”