Childhood And Child-Rearing In 'Because My Father Always Said'
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Childhood and child-rearing is the physical, emotional, and mental active presence of a parent or parental figure in a child’s life until they reach adulthood. This includes financial, moral, educational, and informational support from the day a child is born until the day a child has developed into an adult. Problems in society often seem to articulate around issues of race, gender, or religion; but with consideration to the issues of childhood and child-rearing these issues articulate from a different source. Alexie, Wideman, and Erdrich clearly portray conflicts for various cultures and issues in acceptance of community but, from a different angle and with consideration of childhood and child-rearing issues, each novel serves as evidence …show more content…
In this essay, the author
- Explains that childhood and child-rearing is the physical, emotional, and mental active presence of a parent or parental figure in the child’s life until they reach adulthood. problems in society often articulate around issues of race, gender, or religion.
- Analyzes how alexie's the lone ranger and tonto fistfight in heaven serve as evidence to the issue of absent parenting and, maybe unknowingly, the problems that it can create.
- Analyzes how victor's father spent two years absent from his life and in jail, and when he was released, the mental presence as a father is replaced with excessive drugs and alcohol.
- Analyzes how the narrator in "jesus christ's half-brother..." stepped in as a parental figure, but did anyone else question their ability to properly raise and provide proper parenting?
- Analyzes how alexie's the lone ranger and tonto fistfight in heaven provides an example to issues that have always occurred in society and raising new generations with the assumption that a child learns on their own.
We are thoroughly introduced to a parent or parental figure of Victor in the third chapter, “Because My Father Always Said…”. Not only did his father spend two years absent from his life and in jail, but when he was released Victor was not a top priority in his father’s life. After being released, the first thing he did was head to Woodstock to see a famous performance. Did anyone else wonder, why his child wasn’t the first thing on his mind after being apart for two years? When he returns the mental presence as a father is replaced with excessive drugs and alcohol. Although Victor recalls many important memories with his father they are all of the past. Victor goes on clinging to anything good he can take from his relationship with his father and lives his life ignoring the neglect that he receives from his father. Since Victor is still a child it is common that often times children in this situation turn to things as their parents did. Drugs and alcohol become an outlet throughout the entire novel to distract them from the parental figures they long …show more content…
Although a reader may not immediately identify the conflict in this story to be child-rearing, it most definitely is an underlying issue that has more of an influence that one may think. This is true even of our society today as people take on responsibilities before they are ready. Without a physical, emotional, and mental presence of a parent or parental figure this book supports as evidence that the outcome of a child’s life and paths they take are of high influence from their parent’s and the way in which they take on
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