English actress Francesca Annis said, “However successful you are, there is no substitute for a close relationship. We all need them.” Close relationships are vital to the well-being of all humans and include friendships and romantic relationships (Miller, 2015). According to Intimate Relationships, the difference between casual relationships and intimate, or close, relationships are evident in seven specific ways: knowledge, interdependence, caring, trust, responsiveness, mutuality, and commitment. Although all seven of these components are not needed for an intimate relationship, the more qualities a relationship has, the stronger and longer the relationship will last (Miller, 2015). Several of these characteristics are present in my relationship …show more content…
This means more than a casual knowledge of what a person likes to do or what their favorite color is. It means sharing stories, feelings, and desires with their partner that they would not normally share with a casual friend. As Hailey and I became better friends, we would talk to each other often. Most of the time what we talked about was not personal or of significant importance in our lives. In general, we would discuss the surface level of our lives, never delving into deep or sensitive topics. However, on long, late bus rides home, we would sometimes find ourselves discussing more personal and delicate topics. These conversations never continued into the day. During these times, we learned more about each other and got to know each other on a deeper level. Compared to most intimate relationships, we have an intermediate knowledge of each …show more content…
Interdependency in a friendship is the amount of influence each friend has on the other and the amount of need they have for each other. This is measured by the frequency, strength, diversity, and endurance the relationship has (Miller, 2015). Hailey and I are independent people and do not rely heavily on each other. We talk and spend time together, but the need for each other is not strong. We both depend on our families greatly and therefore, never needed to depend on each other for the tough times in life. Mutuality is the amount the partnership views their partnership as “us” or “me” (Miller, 2015). There is often high mutuality in romantic relationships. In mine and Hailey’s relationship we have a low mutuality. In high school if we decided to hangout, we included each other in our plans. We played volleyball together our freshman and sophomore year. Instead of continuing to play, we decided together to run cross country. Although we are best friends and included each other in several decisions in high school, I am attending college here in Arizona and she is moving to Idaho. As we’ve grown older, our mutuality has
Never become complacent and let my interpersonal relationship becomes stagnant, which can lead to resentment and conflict. Weighing the cost verses the rewards may not always be the solution for my relationship; simply, because the cost may ultimately outweigh the rewards. The need for autonomy can have reverse effects and may not lead to the closeness that’s expected. In, turn the very thing that, I try to be open about in my relationship can inadvertently cause me to protect my feelings in the
Chapters 5 and 6 in Extraordinary Relationships gave a good introduction into new concepts relating to Human Interactions and Relationships. These new concepts give a better idea in understanding relationship patterns and the various emotions that come along with relationships. Two concepts that stood out to me that were discussed throughout the chapter were relationship patterns and relationship emotions. Over time many relationships develop their own unique patterns. In many cases these patterns have been part of the individual all along. Gilbert (1992) states “Usually what people do in a relationship crises is more of the same thing they have been doing, only more intensely and more anxiously” (pg.36). When individuals go through relationship
In this companion book you will find out why it is important to keep your closest relationships in check because you can lose them over the smallest things.
From a young age most people have gone through many relationships with other people who were not their family. Thus, we often acknowledge these relationships as friendships. But the word friend is too broad, so people categorize their friends to several types. In her book “Necessary Losses: The Lovers, Illusions, Dependencies and Impossible Expectations That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Grow”, Judith Viorst divided friendships to six types. Those are convenience friends, special Interest friends, historical friends, crossroad friends, cross-generation friends and close friends. In my life, I have been friend with many people since I was little. Although I have met all six kinds of friend of Viorst, convenience friends and close friends are two important kinds of friends in my life.
The most supportive of friends are manifest during life’s toughest of obstacles. They are the ones that help us power through the storm. Karen Karbo claims, “Most of us would prefer to think that we love our friends because of who they are, not because of the ways in which they support who we are. It sounds vaguely narcissistic, and yet the studies bear it out.”(156) while Yvette and I stated off as simple associates, she was soon to be reviled as my most supportive friend. She was just another co-worker. However, after our bosses went through a divorce, our most dependable co-worker moved, and another reunited with her drug habit, Yvette was the only one I could depend on. Together we became an unbreakable team. We could run the front office without any flaws. Since our friendship was growing we became even more supportive of each other, if one was slacking the other would step up and make sure the task was completed. We would switch off on answering the phones and taking on a challenging customer. Occasionally we would go out for a drink to destress from work. We had just started taking our girls out on play dates, and hanging out on weekends. One night my mom called me to let me know she had made other plans for the following night and I needed to figure out another arrangement for my daughter. Most nights I depend on my mom to watch my daughter so I can go to class, and when she is unable my sister will step in. In
Miller, Rowland S. Intimate Relationships. 6th Ed. New York; The McGraw- Hill Companies, 2012. Print.
An intimate relationship is those which include romantic partners. These relationships expected to last the entire life of the two parties, especially where it leads to marriage. In such connection, utmost trust, faithfulness, and fidelity to the other parties play an essential role.
In addition to romantic partners, other age peers such as friends and family have the potential to become dominant attachment figures for adults. Throughout adolescence and early adulthood, friends and romantic partners gradually replace parents as the preferred source of emotional support and proximity seeking (Freeman & Brown, 2001; Hazan & Zeifman, 1994). Shifts in attachment tend to be a function of the relationship length, and only longer lasting friendships are likely to create close attachment bonds (Fraley & Davis, 1997). Enduring close friendships have the potential to
"Interpersonal attraction refers to positive feelings about another person. It can take many forms, including liking, love, friendship, lust, and admiration" (spark notes). Sometimes these kinds of relationships can happen between individuals that people meet throughout their daily lives. For any relationship to exist or last,last there has to be effective communication. Communication is a major factor used to either build up or tear down interpersonal relationships. Also, having effective listening skills helps the relationship become stronger. In the movie, 50 First Dates, there are many instances where interpersonal relationships are illustrated. This paper will discuss the different types of interpersonal relationships that are found in the movie, as well as how important communication is in a relationship to keep that bond strong and last.
‘Every day we create relationships by means other than formal contracts... As individuals form relationships they necessarily bring their accumulated experiences and developed personalities with them. In ways unknown to them, what they expect from the relationship reflects the sum total of their conscious and unconscious learning to date.’ (Spindler, 1994, p328)
Being in a relationship, we build particular kind of feelings, which are based on trust, friendship and true love. However, a relationship can give us many feelings which we can’t get from friends or family. A good offers you all the wonderful things of friendship, but with a special closeness and intimacy. A good relationship will teach you to work as a team, and hopefully both people being to...
The more you get to know someone, the more you are able to make better decisions and judgments for not just yourself, but for your partner as well. How a couple handles issues while
The physical distance between friends, family, or lovers, equals to the amount of strain that the relationship is put under. In a way, physical distance can directly affect the emotional bond between two people. For most people, miles between their loved ones and themselves would only become a problem if the traveling distance to see each other accumulated to hours. The key phrase in the last sentence would be ‘most people’. For me, something as trivial as a new conflicting schedule can cause a catalytic change in my friend group. After some analyzing, I’ve realized this is because I start too many relationships of circumstance. This type of relationship is formed because of life circumstances, typically these are
During our lifetime, many relationships are formed with family, friends, and significant others. These relationships are key to forming friends, work bonds and intimate connections with others. Family, friends and intimate relationships are necessary for everyday life, below I am going to discuss interpersonal relationships with each and challenges that may come.
A special bond is shared and a sense of comfort and togetherness is felt in most any situation. This attachment is very normal in close relationships and healthy to a certain extent. Many times one person becomes more dependent on the other and this can be very unhealthy because everyone needs their own sense of identity. Without your own sense of identity, you might feel smothered or unable to function without your mate. Either way, it is a lose-lose situation.