In the story, “I Stand Here Ironing,” Tillie Olsen portrays the life and regret of a young single mother struggling to raise her daughter Emily. Olsen points out through uncontrollable circumstances in society, Emily’s mother is forced to become a working-class mother who must hold down a job and care for her child. To many the ideal mother-daughter relationship is not like the one we find is this story. This is neither the fault of the mother nor daughter. In the beginning, while she is ironing, the mother of a nineteen-year-old girl reflects on her daughter’s childhood.
This failure is heightened because of her previous experience of self-object failure in her role as a daughter when Vicki dropped out of school when she was only sixteen years old. She felt that her parents never accepted her and gravitated more toward her brother and sister, which generated the damaging effects on Vicki’s self-esteem and identity as a daughter (Cooper & Lessler, 2015). Now, Vicki feels inadequate in her
Analytical Essay on “I Stand Here Ironing” “I Stand Here Ironing” by Tillie Olsen, is a story about a mother's struggle to balance the demands of raising children and having to work to make ends meet during the Great Depression. The story’s primary focus is on the relationship between the narrator, a mother, and her first child, Emily. Throughout the story, the narrator reflects on the decisions and mistakes she made while raising Emily. The narrator was detached from Emily almost completely during her younger years, but she desires an emotional connection to her, like she has with her other children. She also wants Emily to have a better life than she had.
Eliza's children were not fond of Betsy and she did not care much for them either. Those children watched out for each other and Elizabeth, Mary's oldest sister, took on her mother?s role. Mary started to become more independent just like her older sisters.Soon the Todd family moved into a new home in Lexington, which was yet another difficult change for Mary. Mary found an escape from the family problems in 1836. She was 18, and had completed boarding school and was now leaving home.
The characters very seldom complete a sentence. They never complete a deal and the play does not really complete itself. The readers are left wondering about things that might happen. It is incomplete. There is no growth or resolution by any of the characters.
The short story “I Stand Here Ironing” by Tillie Olsen is an example of a mother daughter struggle. From what I took from the story, the young mom herself had an extremely rough life. She had her daughter Emily at a young age and it did not end up picture perfect like she might have thought it would. Her mother had to work to support them, so she always sent Emily off to be cared by others. Sometimes she was sent far away and for a long period of time.
After Emily was born her mother, “with all the fierce rigidity of first motherhood, (I) did like the books said. Though her cries battered me to trembling and my breasts ached with swollenness, I waited till the clock decreed.” (Olsen 174). Then when Emily was two she went against her own instincts about sending Emily to a nursery school while she worked which she considered merely “parking places for children.” (Olsen 174). Emily’s mother was also persuaded against her motherly instincts to send her off to a hospital when she did not get well from the measles and her mother had a new baby to tend to. Her mother even felt guilt for her second child, Susan, being everything society deemed worthy of attention.
Sometimes children complain about their mothers, each wishing they could have different type of mom. The lives and situations of each mother were different, but in my opinion, both mothers were a bad model for parenting. "I Stand Here Ironing" by Tillie Olsen shows us a mother who is struggling through her own life and does not pay any attention to her daughter. The mother in this story happens to be the narrator, and we get the indication that she isn't a very good mother. To start, she was very young when she first had Emily.
These early years are the most crucial times in a child’s life, the years that attachment and bonding happen. Emily’s not being able to live with her mother inevitably limited these connections from forming. Emily’s mother recalls a time having to leave her with a sitter while she went to work and when she returned from work; the response was crushing, “when she saw me, she would break into a clogged weeping,” (Olsen). Clogged acts as the visual word here. Emily was unable to cry the tears she should have cri... ... middle of paper ... ...ving to raise a child on her own was not the life she had imagined.
The mother said, “When she finally came, I hardly knew her, walking quick and nervous like her father, looking like her father, thin, and dressed in a shoddy red that yellowed her skin and glared at the pockmarks. All the baby loveliness gone. (302)” Nevertheless, the mother is never there for Emily as she grew up. Emily tried to show her mother in different ways that she needed her, but she never seemed to catch the hint. For example, when Emily was two her mother sent her to a nursery school.