Can fixing fatherlessness fix our country to help solve other problems; for example, the crime and abuse that this country is facing? Castro shares the excuses his father told him why he was unable to contact him, and how his father still does not contact him. Blankenhorn tells how fatherlessness has affected their children and generations down, because the topic is almost always avoided. In Maldonado shares how he tried to help care for his son though child support, but it made his life harder because he had to make ends meet just to pay for everything. There are possible ways to improve society by fixing fatherlessness; some ways are therapy, affordable child support, and also make fatherlessness a known topic.
Fatherlessness has affected society in many ways; one way is to go to therapy. Therapy can help children dealing with fatherlessness, also for reconnecting the fathers who left with the children they left. Quassan T. Castro shared how his father used many excuses why he could not contact him or did not want to be in his life. If Castro and his father agreed to go to therapy they may have been able to organize a plan so his father can contribute to Castro's life growing up. Even though his mother was able to be supportive, Castro still wanted to know his father. Castro explains,“ Sorry excuses such as I'm going though hard times or I can't provide for my child are nothing more than cop-outs.” Using excuses is not going to be supportive on why the father leaves. Another way therapy can help improve fatherlessness is to help a child cope with life without a father.
Another way to improve fatherlessness is to have a less biased society when it comes to child support the women are usually favored. Child support is more l...
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...r country it can help solve other problems that our country is facing, for example crime rates and violence against women. There are possible ways to improve society by fixing fatherlessness; the ways were therapy, affordable child support, and making fatherlessness a known topic. In each essay gave a point of view about how fathers not being around and being around affected them. In My Father, No Show Castro shares the excuses his father told him why he was unable to contact him, and how his father still does not contact him. In Fatherless America Blankenhorn tells how fatherlessness has affected their children and generations down, because the topic is almost always avoided. In I'm Not A Deadbeat Dad Maldonado shares how he tried to help care for his son though child support, but it made his life harder because he had to make ends meet just to pay for everything.
The role of the father, a male figure in a child’s life is a very crucial role that has been diminishing over the years. An absent father can be defined in two ways; the father is physically not present, or the father is physically present, but emotionally present. To an adolescent, a father is an idolized figure, someone they look up to (Feud, 1921), thus when such a figure is an absent one, it can and will negatively affect a child’s development. Many of the problems we face in society today, such as crime and delinquency, poor academic achievement, divorce, drug use, early pregnancy and sexual activity can be attributed to fathers being absent during adolescent development (Popenoe, 1996; Whitehead, 1993). The percentage of adolescents growing up fatherless has risen from 17% to 36% in just three decades between 1960 and 1990 (Popenoe, 1996). Dr. Popenoe estimates this number will increase to approximately 50% by the turn of the century (Popenoe, 1996). The US Census Bureau reported out of population of 24 million children, 1 out 3 live in a home without a father (US Census Bureau, 2009).
“My father was crying. It was the first time I saw my father cry. I had never thought it possible.” (Wiesel 19) A father for most is a symbol of protection and masculinity, yet oftentimes in society vulnerability is not found to be in association with fatherhood.
In the short story The Father by Hugh Garner there is boy who’s father is not involved in his life. This is mostly because he is always drunk. Because of this Johnny, the father’s son, has not really been able to connect with his father. He is never there for Johnny when he needs him and is always embarrassing him. This made me really sad as I cannot imagine living without a loving father. I do not think that anyone should have to live without the care of their father. I can only imagine how sad that Johnny must have felt to not have a good father in his life. It must have been very hard for Johnny to see all of the other scout and their father’s at the banquet, knowing that he would never have a good father-son relationship with his dad. The fact that he did not feel comfortable asking his dad to come to the scouts banquet himself,
Fatherless has been one of the most important challenges and epidemics in our generation. The effects of growing up...
In America, poverty has been on the rise since the 1970's.(Poverty World Book 723). The family structure has been constantly changing. The presence of a father in the family effects the poverty rate. The presence of a father in the family was higher when the poverty rate was formed. The family is four times more likely not to have a father in it today than it was in the 1950's. (Report Ties 3). Without a father in the family the chance for children to become poor and eventual...
Therefore, due to the growing rate of unpaid child support, I feel that men who do not pay child support should be fixed in a manner in which they are no longer able to have kids (vasectomy). Second, the government has put laws in place in an effort to help mothers collect child support payments for their babies.
Although single parenthood is on the rise in homes today, children still often have a father role in their life. It does not matter who the part is filled by: a father, uncle, older brother, grandfather, etc...; in almost all cases, those relationships between the father (figure) and child have lasting impacts on the youth the rest of their lives. In “I Wanted to Share My Father’s World,” Jimmy Carter tells the audience no matter the situation with a father, hold onto every moment.
Deadbeat dads should take responsibility in taking care of their children. A real man will step up and do what he supposed to do for their children. No mother should raise her child alone. Mothers often ask the father to be in their child life because they fail to do so.There are fully-grown to be in men who abandon their responsibilities . Too many children grow up without a father figure,because the man is not in the child life spending time with them. Mothers should not have to put the father on child support because he is not taking care of child.Men complain when they have to pay child support when all they have to do is: be in the child life, take on responsibilities, and spend time with the child to show that they care. 2011 only 61%
In David Blankenhorn’s book written in 1995, he brings to light what he calls “America’s fundamental problem”: our culture of fatherlessness. Our modern day view of fathers is that they are unnecessary both in society and in the upbringing of a child. Blankenhorn argues the contrary: the only way to solve the multitude of social problems present in America is to address the common denominator, the decline of fathers and the shrinking importance of fatherhood. Blankenhorn’s book is split into three parts: Part I: Fatherlessness, Part II: The Cultural Script and Part III: Fatherhood. In Fatherlessness, he provides the history of fatherhood and includes statistics that help to illustrate the transition of the father from head of the household to being “almost entirely a Sunday institution” (pg. 15).
Dr. Haim Ginott, a renowned Psychologist, mentor and a teacher once remarked, “Children are like wet cement; whatever falls on them makes an impression.” Thus, the effects of absent fathers on children may in fact, shape their perception of the world around them. Even though developing a stronger relationship with one parent is an effect of absenteeism fathers, it also comes with the challenges of engaging in early sexual activities, diminished cognitive development and poor school performance, which are effects exhibited by many daughters.
The Family structure has changed significantly in the last fifty years. With higher percentages of marriage ending in divorce, and higher rates of childbearing out of wedlock, single parent families are increasing rapidly. “Seventy percent of all the children will spend all or part of their lives in a single-parent household.” (Dowd) Studies have shown that the children of these families are affected dramatically, both negatively and positively. Women head the majority of single- parent families and as a result, children experience many social problems from growing up without a father. Some of these problems include lack of financial support, and various emotional problems by not having a father around, which may contribute to problems later in life. At the same time, children of single-parent homes become more independent because they learn to take care of themselves, and rely on others to do things for them.
A father is someone who protects, loves, supports and raises his children, whether they are biologically related or not. Every single person living on the Earth has a biological father. These biological fathers are supposed to take the responsibility of being a father because they did help bring a child into this world. One of the main responsibilities of a father is providing the child with the necessities of life, which include food, shelter, and clothes. Not only is a father responsible for the physical aspect but the emotional aspect as well. Children need to feel loved, cared for, and emotional support from their parents. A child needs to be reassured, so a father must show his affection, both physically and emotionally. A father needs to be involved in his children’s life. He needs to be a problem solver, playmate, provider, preparer, and he has to have principles. A father has to pr...
The role of a father in his child’s life extends past the knowledge of far too many, and can oftentimes be eclipsed by the role of the mother. Although the mother’s role is essential and greatly valued in a child’s life and development, the father plays a significant role as well. No mother can fill the father’s place in a child’s heart, for fathers nurture and play differently than a mother. Several studies show that an attendant and highly involved father is critical, especially in the early stages of a child’s life. The absence of a father during this stage can lead to “impaired social and behavioral abilities in adults” (Robert, 2013). But what is the role of the father? This paper discusses the role of the expectant father, the birth experience for him, the transition into fatherhood, and the rise of single fathers.
Growing up without a father can have a big effect on children and the way that they act as they get older. It has an effect on their behavior, how they treat others, how much they really care about life, and the list goes on and on. The U.S department of Health has stated that children living in a household headed by a female with no spouse present had a poverty rate of 47.6%, which is over 4 times the rate in married coupled families. Which means that children in a father-absent home are 4 times more likely to be poor, it is also said that children of a single-parent home are more than twice as likely to commit suicide. Also, they are at a dramatically greater risk of drug and alcohol abuse. Although there are a lot of effects of not having a father in the house, some effects can depend on whether you are a girl or boy. A fatherless daughter may result in picking the wrong men to deal with because she
A mother does not think a father role is important to as a they say because a mother could do everything as male as care for the child could be there as a father figure as a single parent. A mother would not think that a father is a major part in the child lives because she have to do as much as a father. It prove that a mother is a big part of taking care of the child because she