When a majority of the public thinks about winter they think of words like freezing cold, snowy, and dreary. But when I think of winter I think of such things as outdoor activities, entertainment, snowboarding, fun and memories. I used to think like the majority of the population and not like winter but, then in the winter of 2009 that completely changed because, I learned how to snowboard. Snowboarding taught me various lessons like: practice makes perfect and don’t quit after you fail, stand up and try again. I have snowboarded at countless hills around Michigan and Wisconsin but I remember the first time I ever snowboarded at Ski Brule and learned that you shouldn’t quit after you fail, you should stand up and try again.
I found my day of nonconformity to be partially interesting and difficult. I found it perplexing to think of new ways to influence myself instead of following in the footsteps of others simply because I’ve been a participant of nonconformity my entire life. From my anti-social behavior to the brushing off of any religious belief that comes my way, nonconforming with society’s norms should be nothing new to me. Nonetheless, this experiment did get quite compelling by assisting me to realize all the norms I usually abide by within my individual lifestyle. In a way, this experiment altered my insight on what it truly means to be yourself.
But recently many of the people that we usually shove have ben saying that they have gardeners to do that. It is so de-motivating why all you do is get rejected by people when they don't want you to shovel their walk, and drive. During the night it snows about a foot. Perfect for snow shoveling. So I meet my friend at his house.
The first experiment yielded predictable results that happened exactly as I thought, while the second situation completely surprised me with the outcome. I never saw that coming. In performing these societal norm violations, I had a hard time because I was always taught to show respect for others and to always do the right thing. I don’t think I will be going shopping anytime soon, but I did learn a lesson from this rather interesting assignment. Social norms, I discovered, are the glue that keep certain behaviors under wraps, and when unraveled, the experience can either be unpleasant or unexpected!
From a young age we are all taught or have heard of the “Golden Rule”, which is to treat others the way you want to be treated. This rule is not set in stone, but rather is unspoken universally among all people. What would the world be like if everyone treated everyone else badly, or put them down, or did not give them respect? It would not be an ideal world, but that is why we as humans strive each and every day to better ourselves and to treat our fellow people with the same level of respect and kindness that we think we deserve. By doing this, the hopeful outcome will be that they will wish to better themselves and pay it forward.
Lessing uses the fact that because of western societies are well educated in different ways, free to make choices that this makes the individual, but people never think to look at their lives and see that they are no longer and individual because they are conforming to the pressures of society. She uses the fact that people often socialize with “like-minded” people often forces to make decisions that our peers make. She declares that, “We find our thinking changing because we belong to a group. It is the hardest thing in the world to maintain an individual dissident opinion, as a member of a group.” She goes on to review several experiments that involved conforming to groups. Stanley Milgram’s experiment shows that people many times conform to do what an authority figure says or orders.
To me happiness goes hand in hand with my family’s well being and having good relationship with others no matter their beliefs and culture. I try to enjoy every moment I get with my family and friends. But I was not always like that. For example, when I was younger, if I went to a party and people of my culture weren’t there or they didn’t put the kind of music or food from my culture I would practically die of boredom at those get togethers. After I took sociology 101, I learned that intelligent people tried to be open-minded and that only ignorant people would close their minds towards other cultures and new people.
I think that if everyone knew this, we would all have a lot more friends and less enemies. Another example of what I learned is that no matter how good it seems someone has it, that they have problems and conflict too. No one has it perfect, and no one ever will. I am very content about my choice in theme because as I dug into it more, i learned about the real world. Unlike other essays and projects that I have done, I can take away lessons and skills that I can apply to the world we live in
It was so cold, yet still I played with the snow until my hands went numb, and even then I didn’t stop. Leaving the airport, I could hear all the different accents. They sounded nothing like mine. I guess to them hearing my family speak, we sounded just as eccentric as I thought they did. I was at the tender age of eight when my mom enrolled my sisters and I into elementary school that week.
For the past 18 years, I have focused on doing everything adults tell me to, I can’t resist the temptation to obey their commands. As I get older, I see the value in conformity, and how it holds our society together. Without it, everything would break into chaos. Simply abiding by social constructs has had an incredibly profound impact on my life, even abiding by those which I may not whole-heartedly agree with has benefited me. After all, these choices are so common and accepted because they will likely lead to happiness and success, not because they are known for having a negative impact on the lives of those who choose these paths.