BOYS vs. GIRLS
A Parent's Point of View
"Aaaaakkkkkk!!! You got mud on my Barbie Dolls! You got cake batter on my G.I Joe!" Sugar and spice and everything nice...that's what little girls are made of. Rats and snails and puppy dog tails...that's what little boys are made of. Physically it is obvious to see the difference in boys and girls. It is even semi-obvious to notice the social and emotions differences. But when it comes to parenting boys and girls, it is pretty much the same. Oh don't get me wrong, there are some differences, but the love and adoration is still the same.
Society, in the past has stereotyped little girls into a frills and lace, prim and proper, almost doll like personification. Girls, at one point, were known for being the emotional, compassionate, care givers. Society, at one time, viewed little boys as "Tonka" truckin', dirt and mud lovin', ornery little monsters. Boys were typically seen as: adventurous, rough-housing, don't care about anything type of attitudes. Today we still see some of those characteristics. However, some of those listed have actually crossed over into the other. With having two girls and one boy in the house, I can tell you the cross over of characteristics is very evident.
My oldest daughter, you would probably classify her as a "tomboy"; does not care for all of the frills and lace. As a matter of fact, she hates having to "dress-up", unless it can be dress slacks or better yet, dress jeans. She has always been more adventurous than most little girls. She has been the one to climb trees, play in mud, and care for horses. However, as she is in the middle school now, she has taken an interest in cooking and in instrumental music. What is very nice is th...
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... oldest daughter. A lot of the same attitudes that my little sister acted out, I am now seeing in my younger daughter. However never having a boy around, having our son is a totally new adventure. I remember praying that God would send me a little brother. After seeing how my girls respond to some of the things their little brother does to them, I can see why I didn't have one. I probably would have tortured him.
As a parent, seeing the differences in my children are easy. People ask me if I love any of my children different from the other. That answer is easy. That answer is no. As a parent God blesses you with the gift of unconditional love. As a parent, sometimes you may have to offer tough love and other times words of affirmation. In any case, love and care for your children is one of the greatest gifts and responsibilities that God gives to us.
Gender roles have been the one of the longest conflicts since the creation of man. Females have been struggling to gain way in the country since the foundation of the United States. For most of our country’s life up until the 1940’s women predominantly were supposed to stay at the house and do all the house work. For a fictional unnamed female child in the short story “Boys and Girls” by Alice Munro, the life of the average woman is not the life she wants to live. She wants to work the hard labor with her father who sells fox pelts but, she is constantly getting “harassed” by her mother to do lady like work. The women’s struggle for rights can be divided up into centuries starting with the 19th and continuing to present day. At the end of the story the girl finally accepts her role as a female because she messes up and her father says, “She’s only a girl.” Men on the other hand, have had always had any opportunity they wanted but, generally their role is the
First off, I will describe the role the toys are playing when it comes to the socialization process for boys and girls. The masculine wrestling action figures and construction vehicles are showing boy 's their gender roles. In the book, “You May Ask Yourself”, defines social roles as “the concept of gender roles, set of behavioral norms assumed to accompany one’s status as male or female” (Conley, pg 130). In the store it is fairly easy for parents to find which part of the store will fit their kids gender roles. For parents with young boys, all they have to do is look for the blue in the store. When looking for the girl toys, parents just need to find the pink. Parents are actively doing gender in their child
Gender socialization between boys and girls have been a topic of controversy for years. With views varying from supportive to disproving, one general consensus can be drawn from either side: gender socialization is the foundation of how children are brought up and is the primary reason for how boys and girls view the world in different ways. In Michael Lewis’s “Buy That Little Girl an Ice Cream Cone”, the reader is given personal anecdotes about Lewis’s family vacation trip to Bermuda, followed by an event that shaped the way he viewed both his two young daughters and the socialization of parents towards their children. Society’s differentiation between how boys and girls should act and behave is the main indication that children are socialized
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From the time their children are babies, parents treat sons and daughters differently, dressing infants in gender-specific colors, giving gender-differentiated toys, and expecting differe...
...child. I had no choice but to shape up and make a way for the both of us. Having a child made me realize that life is not all fun and games as my mother would say. I learned that in life there are responsibilities. I truly believe that had I not had a child at an early age, I would still be a wild absentminded party girl and who knows what else may have happened.
I got my first baby sibling when I was 5 years old. It was amazing because I really needed someone to play with at the time due to the fact that my two older brothers never wanted to play with me or when they did, they found ways to get rid of me really fast. I thought that she would catch up to me and we would be the same age, kind of like twins! It did not work that way. She never caught up and I just kept getting older and older. By the time she was 5, I was no longer interested in the Barbie
Tannen does a great job linking the differences in communication and her points do feed into and support one another. She argues that boys play with a hierarchal structure and often play games that have winners and losers, while girls tend to play in small groups doing activities that do not have winners or losers. However, beyond statements and description there was very little evidence to back either of these. I also found myself
Over the decades, a significant mark of the evolution of gender is the increasing social phenomenon in how society conceptualizes gender. Gender is a system of social practices for characterizing people as two different categories, femininity and masculinity and arranging social relations of inequality on the basis of that difference (Ridgeway & Correll 2004). Gender-neutral parenting (GNP) refers to raising children outside of the traditional stereotypes of girls and boys. It involves allowing children to explore their innate personalities and abilities rather than confining them into rigid gender roles that society has shaped. It can be argued that it is through socialization children discover how to operate in gendered structures, learn
In this era, males and females both uphold household duties. Children watch and learn from their environment. A boy watching his father care for an infant is going to want to imitate his father. Playing with a doll is simply following what he has seen his father do. Taking away the doll is taking away that child’s future as a nurturing father (Gioia, 2010). Many men feel that their male child playing with a doll is not teaching him to be tough and will negatively impact their future, when in fact the boy will learn how to care and use their imagination by playing with dolls (Epand). Females are often praised when they are gentle and nurturing, while boys are not- causing boys to r...
Every parent has different skills that they use when dealing with their child. Growing up I had two parents with completely different techniques on how to handle situations with me. Both of my parents love me unconditionally, and would give me the entire world if they could. For every parent, teaching lessons and earning respect is a very important aspect to them. Each of my parents love me so much, but both have very different ways of showing affection, discipline, and communication.
The issue of single- sex education and mixed- sex education have occupied the minds of almost all the professors of the educational process all over the world for centuries. To deal with this issue, there must be many sayings and arguments. Also, other studies related, should be put into consideration. There are many more opinions that support single-sex education, others support co-education. Most world countries are following the opinion that says that coeducation is better and more effective than single sex education. Theoretically, co-educational process is more fruitful than single-sex education that's because of three main factors that affect greatly; firstly, the students' behavior; secondly, the educational level; thirdly the socialization in society and how students emotionally affected..
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