Ted competent in that idea that Bob’s cheating was wrong, but presents himself intrigued as to why Bob would tell his wife, calling it pure “dumbness.” This scene begins to show the clash between what is morally and rationally correct versus what physically correct in regards to only sex and marriage. Alice promotes the thought that regardless of Bobs “needs” he made an overall poor decision while Ted concludes that Bob was okay in fulfilling his “needs” and wrong for telling the truth. Teds thinking would actually be the opposite of what Bob and Carol would believe. In this scene, Ted is portrayed as confused on what is right and wrong in marriage, he amongst everyone wants to act on what Bob an Carol would find okay in marriage, yet is conflicted …show more content…
Carol said that she was sorry that Alice felt that way. The two literally kiss and make up. Alice at this point simply tolerates Bob and Carol’s behavior for the sake of the couples “philia” love towards each other (7). The couple then goes to a night club and there the couples see the woman Bob had an affair with. Bob and Carol, in Alice eye, are both “sick” since they bond over the attraction of his fling Alice losses it. Alice is then seen at a therapist, where she express how she does not want to be touched by her husband blaming this on her dislike of Bob and Carol’s relationship. The constants discussion of “sex sex sex” is an annoyance to her. She also accidentally express that she only likes her husband. After the therapist mentions this, she begins to become defensive yet almost unsure of her love for her husband and ultimately begins to reevaluate your judgments. She seems to suggest to herself that she does not trust Ted and is perhaps jealous of Bob and Carols trust excitement and openness. Janice Moulton, a philosopher presented in Halwani book, expresses how excitement is a possible part of to sex (154). Her distrust and lack of excitement in her relationship interferes with her satisfaction for sex. As well as this, after her therapy session, Alice’s entire beliefs on her relationship and her friends seems reverted. Later at a pool party at Bob and Carol’s, Alice expresses how she has not any “animosity” towards the unconventionality of Carol and Bob’s relationship. Alice seems to tolerate her friends’ relations yet still believes that they are “crazy.” Ted and Bob, however, discuss ideas on “prurient” thoughts. Ted confesses his desire to have sex outside of marriage but has guilt and has ambivalent
Even after Mary agreed to speak with Alice, she faced the wall, and was hesitant to look at Alice when they spoke. ” I don’t know how you’re being so strong. She looked at me, tears on her cheeks” (57). This quotation, spoken by Mary, is a perfect example of Alice’s ability to be strong while others are weak. Of the two siblings, it is clear that Alice is far superior at containing her emotions.
The first theory to explain some of Ted's behavior is that of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs which focuses on describing the stages of growth in humans using the terms physiological, safety, belongingness, self esteem, self actualization and self transcendence. Ted had the necessities of life and shelter, and was therefore satisfied in his physiologi...
All he wishes for is a carefree life, where no one judges him and he can be himself. Unfortunately the way he decides to achieve this and also relieve his horny loneliness is by meeting a male prostitute and paying him $200 for company. This decision causes readers to raise an eyebrow, but it isn’t until one knows why, that we begin to understand his actions. First of all he is hurt and angry at the fact that after his parents’ divorce his father has abandoned him, and he blames his depressed mother. “Looking back at her in the lamplight as she peered into the trees, her head covered with a rain hat, Brendan felt the anger flaring again, that leading edge of the bitter promise to himself never to become her, never to stay in the middle of nowhere as she had…” (Haslett). He is afraid of becoming a bitter and miserable person who doesn’t do anything to change his depressing life. The mother, along with his language arts teacher, are a representation of what Brendan doesn’t want to become, which adds to his neediness of meeting with the male prostitute. In addition, the main character simply wants to feel accepted. “On the kitchen table he 'd see the literature she brought back, encouraging people to support the marriage amendment because homosexuals were trying to undermine Missouri families” (Haslett). Living in a judgmental
... ahead of his men ever again, the letters he carried were only ten ounces but probably felt like a 1000 pounds. The morning after Ted was shot, Cross-burned his letters and even though he knew that he would always remember Martha, it meant a passage a lifting of the burden. No more wanting at night, no more wishing he was with her, no more letting his men die because of his love. He decided that he would become straighter, harder, a real leader even if his men didn’t like it. He would move on to the next village and after that the next until his tour was up and never again did he want to lose another man.
...ted an unfixable rift between them that Hawthorne always regretted. God was another a big part of his life, so much so that the main ideas of his religion weaved their way into his writing. He wrote of ministers, good men, and a man who tried to play God; moreover, not only did he write of these men, but he showed their flaws and how no one is perfect. He addressed what God already knew because God himself is perfect in the ways he forgives everyone and allows them to redeem themselves even after they’ve sinned. No matter what anyone believes in for a religion that religion is very important to them, and even if they do not have a religion, the fact that they do not have a religion is very important to them. Everything they do is more or less in the name of what they believe in. Their relationships with their family takes precedent over anything else in their lives.
Ted died of a sniper shot in his head and that was the day irresponsible, daydreamer and careless Jimmy changed into a more responsible man focusing on war. At the beginning of the story Jimmy Cross was a dreamer and dreams about dating Martha. The author writes, "He would imagine romantic camping trips into the White Mountains in New Hampshire" (409) telling us about the small world of dreams Jimmy has made in the surroundings of war. In the nights he holds the picture of Martha and rejoices in every moment he spends with her. He keeps thinking about the little things that might have improved his chances with her.
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In the story, evidence claims that Alice is rejecting and opposing to the religion. In reality, religion can be overwhelming to a lot of people, and Alice is no exception to this. Alice has her own way of thinking and throughout the book there are several examples where the other characters get angry, offended, or become afraid of Alice. Alice does attempt to offend fewer characters as the story progresses, but doesn’t fully accept their way of thinking. Throughout the story, Alice is rejected by the Mouse, the Duchess, the Mad Hatter and the March Hare, and the Queen and King of hearts. This line of rejections continues to build up in Alice, and she gets frustrated. Finally at the courtroom scene in the “Alice’s Evidence” chapter, she continues to build up this frustration until it gets to the point where she grows in size uncontrollably, (the only time where she can’t physically control her growth,) and unleashes that anger on the Queen of hearts by saying “Who cares for you? You’re nothing but a pack of cards!) (Carroll 95.) When Alice experiences this outburst, she finally completely rejects their “religion” or their way of
She spoke about how life became so different, and having to live a life without Charles took years to learn. The number of life lessons she needed to learn without Charles was overwhelming but Alice showed a lot of self-awareness, explaining that she understood life needed to keep going, and that she needed to be there for the people still in her life. The interviewer was flabbergasted on how insightful and humble Alice was throughout this sensitive subject. Alice also spoke highly of her children as well, but also lost one of her daughters from breast cancer in the early 2000's, which she stressed really challenged her religious values and taught her how to accept that things are out of her control, and in God’s hands. Alice has outlived her great-grandson, who passed away in a car accident a few years past, which made her
Once Ted woke up, he consulted his friends about what had happened the previous night and none of them knew that he had a girl in his room. They all were making guesses as to who it was in the room and they all came to a consensus that it had to be Robin. This made Ted extremely excited, however; as soon as Ted walked into the room to wake “Robin,” Robin called him and told him she was on his way over to talk. Ted instantly tells the
Communication is something important in any kind of relationship, but not conversations that degrade one another. Ron and Sarah had a hard time engaging in meaningful conversations. “When he returns to the kitchen, the woman is putting away her groceries, her back to him. ‘You sure are quiet today Sarah,’ he says in a low voice. ‘Everything ok?’ Silently, she turns away from the grocery bags, kisses his mouth, rolls her torso against his hips” (11). They’re always uncertain of what to say to each other. They feared they would run out of things to talk about, so instead they would fornicate. Since they started of with sex, Ron saw nothing more. “‘ Friendship you owe me. And respect. Friendship and respect. A person can’t do what you have done with me without owing them friendship and respect’” (14). Sarah did only want friendship she wants to have the p...
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Alice’s interactions with the characters of Wonderland reflect her struggles with adults in real life. Naturally curious as she is, Alice asks questions to learn from the adults. Since they understand the subject at hand well, they do not need to express their thoughts in order for them to understand themselves. However, Alice does not see this internal
Ted is deeply in love with his wife Elsie, and the reader sees this through his thoughts and actions throughout the story. Ted feels sexual lust every time his wife walks in front of him. The reader sees this at the beginning of the story:
...inal realization that she is growing up and that is normal, therefore, she accepts it. In brief, Alice in Wonderland is a book about growing up, and Alice definitely has grown up since the beginning of her journey and she has entered the adolescence phase when she rebels against everyone. Although she is not able to control herself when she gets angry, in other words she is behaving like a normal adolescent, she has gained a new “power” from this confusing experience: being a person with a voice to say something that matters.