Funerals are always so boring. That may sound cynical but it's true. We wait around with a group of people we barely talk to- what are we even waiting for? Closure isn't something that will be found at funerals, if anything your mind will feel even more scattered. All around people were crying, hushed murmurs about how amazing she was. Tales of all of her adventures floated around quietly like a rumor being spread. Was this suppose to make us fell better that she was dead? Silence enveloped the group of people as the casket was carried into view. There she is laying supine-I suppose. Former pink lips tainted with blue. But we would hate for anyone to see how truly dead she is. How she is now only a hollow corpse. So we apply a bright red
It is not easy to cope after a loved one dies. There will be lots of mourning and grieving. Mourning is the natural process you go through to accept a major loss. Mourning may include religious traditions honoring the dead or gathering with friends and family to share your loss. (Mallon, 2008) Mourning is personal and may last months or years.
“I still recall… going into the large, darkened parlor to see my brother and finding the casket, mirrors and pictures all draped in white, and my father seated by his side, pale and immovable. As he took no notice of me, after standing a long while, I climbed upon his knee, when he mechanically put his arm about me and with my head resting against his beating heart we both sat in silence, he thinking of the wreck of all his hopes in the loss of a dear son, and I wondered what could be said or done to fill the void in his breast. At length, he heaved a deep sign and said: “Oh, my daughter, I wish you were a
...ed to confront the deep pain that she has carried in her heart; she must give an account of her life as she comes closer to the shadow of death.
...lows us to feel a different sort of grief, because we do not have personal attachments to her. It is only shock and helplessness that we are forced to feel.
Death, dying, funerals, are not your typical dinner conversation. But for someone like me who has grown up in the industry, quite literally, it is not unusual. My father is the owner of three funeral homes in Virginia, Hibbing, and Tower, Minnesota. I may not have realized it, but I have seen several trends in funeral services. For this paper, I will be enlightening you with a brief history of funeral service, the types of funerals, and the cost of funerals.
Funeral do not happen till 2 or more weeks after someone has died. It can even be over a month. This is because they need to get money together to pay for all the food that is needed, plus everyone must be notified. When someone dies the immediate family is told in person and not over the phone. They will call them and tell them to come quickly or tell them that the person is sick. When a woman who is married dies, it is often the job of her in-laws to tell her family that their daughter etc. has passed away.
This is crazy. Why am I afraid? I’m acting as if this is my first funeral. Funerals have become a given, especially with a life like mine, the deaths of my father, my uncle and not my biological mother, you would think I could be somewhat used to them by now. Now I know what you’re thinking, death is all a part of life. But the amount of death that I’ve experienced in my life would make anyone cower away from the thought. This funeral is nothing compared to those unhappy events.
During the past few days, many of our friends and family have come to our home to show their love for us and for Arlyn. I have been especially moved by the fact so many of her teachers and principals have shown up and cried with us. I am also touched by the love her young friends had for her. Our memories of this sad time in our lives will therefore not all be bad.
During the last moments of my mother’s life she was surrounded by loved ones, as she slowly slipped away into the morning with grace and peace.
Imagine that the person you love most in the world dies. How would you cope with the loss? Death and grieving is an agonizing and inevitable part of life. No one is immune from death’s insidious and frigid grip. Individuals vary in their emotional reactions to loss. There is no right or wrong way to grieve (Huffman, 2012, p.183), it is a melancholy ordeal, but a necessary one (Johnson, 2007). In the following: the five stages of grief, the symptoms of grief, coping with grief, and unusual customs of mourning with particular emphasis on mourning at its most extravagant, during the Victorian era, will all be discussed in this essay (Smith, 2014).
Death is something that no one wants to go through or have to deal with, especially concerning the loss of loved ones. Unfortunately, it is not possible to go through life without experiencing this loss. Throughout the past several decades, the way that we view death and the funeral industry has changed significantly. Recently, it has seemed much more apparent that funeral industries are using death as a means of getting rich. But why?
The loss of someone you love will leave you feeling empty inside, I know because I felt like that when my
funeral. I don't like to say goodbye to anybody that has shared a lot time with me. These are some of the occasions when I cannot be in school.
By this time I lost three of my grandparents and a couple close friends. I became accustomed to going to funerals. This one was no different. The only thing that was different was it was my father. I got over it rather quickly.
Losing a loved one is one of the hardest experiences every person must go through. The experience does not end with the loss though, but begins with it. The loss of a dear person leads those left behind into a downward spiral of emotions and memories. A poem entitled “Lucy Gray” by William Wordsworth focuses on that loss and the emotions that follow it. By reading the poem one can objectively experience both the grief that Lucy Gray’s death brings on but also her parents’ acceptance of her death.