While many adults would argue that hitting people is wrong, spanking children continues to be used as an acceptable form of discipline. Many parents think spanking will teach children not to do things that are forbidden, stop them quickly when they are being irritating, and encourage them to do what they should. So what do children learn from being spanked? The hitting itself doesn’t teach them anything. How contradictory is it for you to say that your child cannot hit or hurt anyone else—but that you can hurt him whenever you think it's appropriate?
Typically a parent would not endure in such actions, but it varies from parent to parent. When left with the situation of discipling their kids, some parents feel guilty for taking measures into their own hands, and other parents feel no remorse. The whole purpose of discipline on children is to set them in place. By that I mean to help guide the child down the right path to a prosperous life and responsible adult. If it means physical or verbal discipline, then it is all for the greater good.
Internationally, there is increasing assent that physical punishment of children breaks international human rights laws. Most of children don’t follow what their parents said, so their parents use physical punishment as a solution to make their children more dutiful, but parents should stop using physical punishment as it has many psychological, physical, and mental effects on the children’s future. It is easy to find reasons to allow some physical punishment. Unfortunately many parents find it very difficult to give up physical punishment completely, as they find it the fastest way to teach their children what they need. Parents think that this was the way they were brought up their children and that it didn’t cause any harm to them.
They were told “This is the Titanic, the unsinkable ship,” but what were they saying as the ship broke in two and began to sink. Did they all still believe that nothing could sink the magnificent Titanic? Or was the reality of the ship finally “sinking” in? These are questions today that people are still asking. The sinking of the Titanic was a tragic accident that still affects culture today.
Hitting a child is not the way parents should deal with a child’s naughty behavior no matter the circumstances. I know sometimes children can be very disobedient and stubborn, but when you present corporal punishment to a child what we you are really doing is hitting a child’s subconscious self-destruct button. There are many ways to discipline a child. Punishments like time outs, taking away toys, and denying them certain privileges are better forms of discipline. Many children suffer every day due to parents who practice, or abuse corporal punishment.
A child needs to feel safe having his friends that they can trust not friends that they choice for them. There 's a point where every parent worries about their kids friends, but parents need to learn how to trust them to do the right thing with their friends. The most thing that kids love anything in this world is their parents, kids like when parents show them love without that love can mess up a kid. The reason emotional abuse can happen in a home is because of tension, like money problems or unemployment. When problems like this happens in home, parents take their anger out at their kids.
﻿“Can parenting or child rearing be non-punitive?” Is one of the most common questions that parents ask. If spanking is so effective, why do most people have such an uneasy feeling about it? Some how we cannot silence our inner doubts about the long term effects of physical punishment. We are a little embarrassed by the use of force and we keep saying to ourselves, “”here ought to be a better way of rearing children.” Another reason is, within ourselves, no one wants to be hit. While hitting releases anger and frustration, and might work in the short-term, what parents really want is for children to be self controlled and disciplined.
People tend to forget that verbal abuse can scar children and diminish their self-esteem. Children do not deserve to be treated with verbal abuse, instead one should speak kind words of encouragement. Encouragement is an element that can be used to lighten a child's emotions. Reassuring a child is an aspect of positive discipline; however, some children live a lifestyle where encouragement is not accustomed to them. "I was an only child, and her constant criticism and putting me down made me feel terrible about myself, and it made me double my efforts to please her" (Aileen).
No I’m not saying you should spank them. I’m saying that there are many other ways that you can discipline your child. The most common way besides spanking is the method of grounding. Some say that the most important thing to remember about grounding your child is that you are also grounding yourself. When grounding you shouldn’t yell most people think that this means that when you yell about the issue you’ll be on the losing end.
Anger ranges from mild irritation to rage (What is Anger) knowing this parents and teachers are safe when it mild because it can easily be control but are they willing to take a risk with surround students or kids when its rage. Personally the author wouldn’t take that risk. The surrounding children should be blamed or at fault when a child acts out. Every person has pet peeves so this obviously means that something can tick them off. Some people just have a better handle of their emotions compared to others.