The novel indicates that her mother, from the early part of her life, felt a sense of separateness and unworthiness and that she "never felt at home anywhere, or that she belonged anyplace" (111). Consequently, from Pecola's birth, her mother placed upon Pecola the same shroud of shame, weakness, and inadequacy. The circumstances surrounding Pecola's first period are consistent with the vulnerability of her position. Pecola is not even with her own mother when it happens. There is a real sense that Pecola cannot participate in traditions, or receive wisdom from previous generations, because her family life is so unhealthy.
The weeks seemed to blur together waiting for her doctor’s appointment to confirm my worst fear. The doctor walked in with a big smile on his face he said “ congratulations you’re going to be a mom” My friend's face fell we walked out of the doctor’s office in a daze; I had to be the one to ask the hard question of what in the world are you going to do? My friend stared at me and gave an answer I least expected she said, “I’m going to have this baby despite all odds. The night after the doctor's appointment she called to tell me she and her boyfriend broke up and she was going to need me more now than ever. I ask why they break up.
For the first time, my mother relied on me for approval. I took on the parental role and, therefore, terminated any unapproved relationships, since her date could end up as my new father. I finally decided to introduce her to one of my friend’s fathers of whom I did approve. I had no intention of them getting married. I just wanted her to date someone who would treat her right and I knew he would.
Along with her father’s drinking problem, her mother’s lack of rules and parental skills are out of the norm. She believes "people worry.... “people worry too much about their children. Suffering when they are young is good for them”(28). Her mother believes that they can learn on their own, showing that she does not care about the hardships her children are constantly dealing with in their environment. With this negligence the children are often forgotten about as well.
Tess was criticized for being a single mother, she wasn’t even allowed to baptize her child because of its illegitimacy, nor was she allowed to give it a proper religious burial. Furthermore, Tess also had to live with the guilt of being impure because society said that she was wrong, and had done a terrible thing, even though Tess herself was not to blame. Tess also lost the love of her life because the man she loved was more in love with his cultural beliefs than Tess. When a woman becomes impure she is exiled from the community and lost of any chance to lead a normal life. For men, the consequences of becoming debased are not nearly as severe: “He then told her of that time of his life to which allusion has been made when, tossed about by doubts and difficulties like a cork on the waves, he went to London and plunged into eight-and-forty hours’ dissipation with a stranger” (220).
It was difficult for Addie to understand why her mother was always upset. Leah faced many issues and arguments with her parents and even financial issues because her boyfriend Jeremy left her after the baby 's arrival and would not help pay to support their child. Jeremy was not willing to help work out the situation where Addie could have normal parents who lived together and were married. “Eight out of ten fathers do not marry the mother of their first child” (Slocum 3). This episode expressed how difficult it is to raise a child at a young
Her Auntie Doll was her only possible female role model in her life, but Hagar did not have much appreciation or respect for her. It seemed as though she was moving in on her mother's territory. Without a mother figure in her developing years, Hagar had to learn things for herself when it was not appropriate to talk about something with her father; this caused her to make more mistakes along the way. She holds a strong resentment towards other women, especially her mother. Hagar believes her mother was weak for dying during childbirth, in reality it was a situation entirely out of anyone's control.
Quote 2: “Since the day I’d left Yorido, I’d done nothing but worry that every turn of life’s wheel would bring yet another obstacle into my path” (Golden 419). 1. S/W: Chiyo is having a hard time pleasing her new family and is fearful of ending up in places like Satsu is. iii. Quote 3: “But to learn in a single moment that both my mother and my father had died and left me, and that my sister too was lost to me forever… at once my mind felt like a broken vase that would not stand I was lost even within the room around me” (Golden 103) 1.
You are making this up so you won’t have to have sex with me! !” A month after this happened my grandmother Emma called my mother at her office, and said she didn’t need to pick up my father after work due to he had already called my grandmother to have her pick him up for he had gotten himself fired by his family. As soon as my mother arrived at home, my father, he told her all about how his family fired him, then he said “Elizabeth, my buddies, and I are going to the mountains to rock climb to help me get over it.” Still such young newlyweds, and wanting to be considered a wonderful wife, he didn’t seem to see, she didn’t mention it to my father how upset she felt he would get fired, and then up, and leave on a fun trip with his buddies. While left at home, my father’s brother Wade came over to pick up something out of my parents garage. My mother stayed inside the house, and didn’t traipse out, and talk to him for the sake of she thought he fired her husband.
She gave birth to her baby in a shed and soon after left her baby in a telephone box. When Julie first abandoned her baby, she seemed to be very confident of her decision. When she left her home five months earlier, it seemed like she wanted to keep the baby and that's why she left, but after living with Debbie she changed her mind and decided to abandon the baby. At her parents' house, she saw her baby, Rosie, on the television and got a little jealous of the nurse holding her. I defiantly think Julie made a mistake abandoning the baby; already when she got home, just a few hours later, she seemed to be upset and regretful for leaving the baby.