Attachment: Love And Love Between Parents And Children

Some narcissistic parents are emotionally and mentally abusive to their children, this can often make the child question their worthiness. Since some parents are dependent on their child and form a dependency bond between them, it affects and strips the child from having a normal childhood. Most who suffer from narcissistic parenting are left wondering why their experiences are much different than their friends. Some parents would also pretend to be sick or unhealthy in order for the child to continue taking care of them; this cripples the child from developing their own independence. The effects of this tactic can last through adulthood, taking away the individual’s ability to move forward and starting their own life.

Whether it’s biological or environmental, personality disorders including depression, narcissism, and anxiety in parents directly affect their children. Everyone has someone they looked up to as a kid; children look to their parent to see how they should behave in society. When a parent has a psychological disorder, they have an inconsistent parenting style that can confuse the child as to how adults want them to act; a depressed parent can express anger one day, urging their child to get away from them, and sadness the next, looking to their child for comfort. Other symptoms are withdrawal, and a sudden lack of interest in things they used to enjoy. Depressed mothers view their surroundings negatively, which causes them to see negative characteristics in their child, making their parenting style cold, detached, and inconsistent.

They end up not having enough money like they once had, and the love and affection for their child is lost. The child of neglect or abuse in their own home from a parent is a child’s worst nightmare. Their parent is the person they are supposed to go for love, protection, and support against the world. To have a parent beat them, or not feed them or to have their parent mentally degrade them is something that happens. Unfortunately, sometimes this is a result of the parent having a drug problem, or they were abused themselves, or they are depressed (Healy, 2013).

What did they do? Therefore, it is an inequity for parents to divorce with children, because their kids' lives will be impacted tremendously. A separated mother and father has a dissatisfying affect on children. It is very hard for a child, who has been raised by both parents; to one day only have majority access to one parent. This is a situation through which kids develop inaccurate thoughts as to why their parents are not together.

People do not realize the pain, not just emotionally but physically as well, that young children go through when they lose a parent, or both. What goes on inside a child’s mind is something some will never understand because at a young age everything is a blur. When the loss of a parent takes place involving children under the age of 18, they are either placed temporarily with family members or worse, put in foster care. The emotional trauma this creates is just overwhelming and devastating. A child feels like they are being punished even more when steps like that are taken, making them feel useless, and hopeless.

For example going from living in a married household to living in a divorced household may cause a child to resent their parents putting a strain on the relationship between the parent and child. Both culture and lifestyle has an affect on the relationship of parent and child. The different aspects of both culture and lifestyle such as food, travel, religion, single-parent households, employment etc. can negatively or positively affect a parent child relationship. The development of families and individuals in the family affect parent child relations.

It can throw the child's entire life into a whirlwind. Young children, up to age five or six, are the most confused and the most disoriented by their parents’ separation. They often fear they are going to be abandoned by their parents, which causes great anxiety. The loss of a parent is extremely sad to a child of this age because they feel that their needs are not going to be attended to as well as they had before, when their needs are not going to be attended to as well as they had before, when their family was together. Many of the children in this group are worried that they will be left without a family or their parents might have money troubles and they will be deprived of food and toys.

Many divorced parents nearly set their children up for failure by raising them in a clearly dysfunctional environment. Coping with their parent 's divorce causes unnecessary stress, depression and anxiety. They are forced to choose which parent to live with and this decision ultimately puts a strain on their relationship with the other parent. If either parent decides to remarry, adjusting to a new life with a step-family becomes rather difficult. Children must reluctantly welcome new family members when they were already accustomed to their own.

When abuse takes place the children are often scared to establish a bond with either parent and they feel that they are being neglected. When children feel neglected they begin to act out in school and in the home to receive attention. It is important to understand that children are silent victims and that their voice needs to be heard as well. I have watched many women in my family suffer from domestic violence. I hate to see women in an abusive relationship remain.

Dealing with conflicts between parents during divorce causes children to lose their sense of security. Children feel secure when they are with both of their parents. If this feeling of security is diminished, children will have a slight possibility of developing psychological disorders. Children with divorced parents tend to be alone or have fewer friends because of the separation of their parents. Divorce and separation are emotional processes in which the child is affected just as much as are the parents.