Anger Management / Frustration Problem With Frustration

ANGER MANAGEMENT/FRUSTRATION

The problem with this feeling of victimization is that when you have the belief that this feeling of anger does not originate in you, there is no longer a reason to change the feeling in you. Instead, this feeling of oppression always means that there is someone or something oppressing you. And so the responsibility for your emotion is projected onto someone else. Now that your anger is someone else’s fault, there is no reason to confront your feelings. The action that you will take, or at least want to take, is to change that person or thing that you believe caused you to become angry.

People who chronically suppress their anger carry certain characteristics to their personality. They tend to have at least one addictive behavior, such as gambling, drinking, drugs, etc. They tend to be moody and cope with their moodiness by trying to feel happy, and also try to be around other people who they believe are happy. They try to keep their inner struggle with anger out of their awareness, as well as away from other people’s awareness. This struggle is a constant struggle and so the need to suppress their feelings and redirect their attention is also constant and tends to be impulsive, rising and falling with the tides of their inner struggle. Individuals who chronically suppress anger tend to find others who are going through similar struggles

Level 0. You are feeling totally calm and relaxed. You may feel happy and excited about something or not. You have no anger or irritation at any level.

Level 1. You feel a very slight anxiety or irritability, but it 's not affecting your behavior. You can barely notice it when you try. Your mind is open, and you 're very aware of the "big picture" perspecti...

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...rds. You also might be planning how to abandon, neglect or reject them. At this level, your thoughts are obsessed and totally focused on your pain, fear and anger whether you know it or not. You are ruled by your emotions at this level.

Level 10. At this point you have become dangerous to yourself and/or others. You are in the depths of fight-or-flight, and your primitive survival-based brain has taken over. You have tunnel vision and single-minded thought. All you can think about is how to make the pain and/or stress stop. It is a very helpless feeling. You are desperate, and willing to take desperate action. Your fear and anger are doing your thinking for you.

Rate yourself:
At my best I am--fill in the number(s)_______________________

At my worst I feel in the numers(s)______________________

Most of the time, I feel in the number(s)__________________