Mariam Vaid
12/21/2017
Anger Management I’m sure you’ve heard people saying, ‘so and so has anger problems’ or, ‘so and so really needs to figure out how to control their anger.’ But the real question is, what is anger? Anger is a natural, wanted, or unwanted emotion that all of us experience from time to time. It is usually triggered by some type of pain, or hurting. When we get angry, we tend to get aggressive and we can probably hurt somebody else, either by feelings, or physically. What happens inside our brain that causes us to be angry? This is a question I had always wondered about, one that kept pestering me. It turns out, that there are two almond shaped structures in our brains called amygdala. These structures are responsible for identifying threats and sending alarms out when these threats are
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And those who avoid the greater sins, and illegal sexual intercourse, and when they are angry, they forgive.” (Quran 42:36 & 37). This ayah says that paradise is more lasting for those who forgive when they are angry. Anger can also be a substitute emotion. This means that anger can be just a replaced emotion from sadness, pain, or hurt. This can happen consciously, or unconsciously. Basically, what happens is that you become angry just because it feels better to be angry than hurt. Anger causes you to blame somebody else, usually, and sadness or hurt usually is just blaming yourself. This is why people tend to switch the two around. Another reason for people to get angry is the feeling of power, or superiority. It makes them feel like they are higher than everybody else, and they may think, “the person who did this should be punished,” and then their mind starts focusing more in how to punish them, then on their own
important, to pick your battles wisely. Anger so often leads to violence and violence is never the
Seneca who was a Roman philosopher between 4 B.C and 65 B.C has given his opinion about anger in his essay 'On Anger '. This essay will illustrate his views on anger by looking at his definition on anger, the discordances of anger with nature, the decision and causes to start anger, his argument on anger and the remedies of it.
If anger were a disease, there would be an epidemic in this country. Road Rage, spousal and child abuse, and a lack of civility are just a few examples. Emotionally mature people know how to control their thoughts and behaviors how to resolve conflict. Conflict is an inevitable art of school and work, but it can be resolved in a positive way.
According to Seneca, anger is a bad thing that can destroy the universe, and he argued that one had to be reasonable and get rid of anger in order to achieve a state of mind not subject to emotions (Kim 2). To Rene Descartes anger is the most dangerous emotion, and it is more violent than other emotions(55).
from anger, we can never rid our minds of it. We can however, as all
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...e person feel better at a certain point. The amount of anger a person feels at this stage is inexorable. Doctors, nurses, closed ones and every other person; are victimized by the person’s anger whether or not they are at fault. Even the law of nature is faulty of completing its course. Kubler-Ross and Kessler defined anger as being an anchor and “giving temporary structure to the nothingness of loss.” Anger is meaningful in the light of darkness. Anger encompasses feelings such as love, regret, guilt and hope.
and pleasure, the body changes into a relaxed state. When an individual is angry different
People who chronically suppress their anger carry certain characteristics to their personality. They tend to have at least one addictive behavior, such as gambling, drinking, drugs, etc. They tend to be moody and cope with their moodiness by trying to feel happy, and also try to be around other people who they believe are happy. They try to keep their inner struggle with anger out of their awareness, as well as away from other people’s awareness. This struggle is a constant struggle and so the need to suppress their feelings and redirect their attention is also constant and tends to be impulsive, rising and falling with the tides of their inner struggle. Individuals who chronically suppress anger tend to find others who are going through similar struggles
Anger is normal. Everybody gets angry sometimes, but you don't want to live there. How do you do that? When you find your frustration ramping up, when you really want something to happen and it's not going the way you want, right then and there you need to become more solution focused instead of problem focused. Right at that moment, you break into the pattern. Maybe there's something you can do about the situation. If there is, take action. If there's not, then you need to get over it right then and become solution focused. Move on. It is your choice!
Anger increases attention to the frustrating events and therefore improves recall of those events. Thus, anger allows one to return the state that was present in the originally provoking situation.
Expressing, suppressing and calming are the three ways of dealing with anger. The healthiest way is to express your feelings in an assertive - and not aggressive - manner. Suppressing your anger and then converting or re-directing it to other positive ways, is another way. This way of handling of anger can cause hypertension, high blood pressure or depression. You can defuse anger through diversion, distraction, humor or by talking about it, so as to calm you down. The third way is to force you to calm down inside, by controlling internal responses. You can be angry every day but learn not to show it so as to minimize the problems it may create, by any strategic manner. Culture does not allow one to show anger. If anger is not allowed to express, it stays in disguise. Anger built up over years can break even
When we act out of anger, causing another person pain... what happens? Well, most of the time that person not only lashes out in response, but they also pass it on to the next person causing this never-ending domino effect. That is where we have to break the cycle. We need to learn how to act out of love and compassion even though we are suffering and even bigger - we need to recognize when others are suffering by responding to their anger with love. By saying "Hey, what 's wrong? What can I do to help?" or even just a simple "Hey... I understand."
After the birth of my first child, I had to learn to develop constructive ways to vent anger. One of those ways was to go off alone, count to ten, and think about what it was that made me angry. After I discovered the root of my anger, I often asked myself, "Will it do me or anyone else any good to be angry?", and, "Will being angry do anything to solve the problem", and the answer to both questions was usually no. By the time I had done the walking and thinking, I was usually not angry anymore.
This can either be a positive or negative thing and how you act on it, or do not act, can show how in control and effective you are with your feelings. According to the text, “just because you feel a certain way does not mean you have to act on it” and that “people who act out angry feelings actually feel worse than those who experience anger without lashing out” (Adler, Rosenfeld, Proctor II, year?). Even though acting on your feelings may seem uncontrollable, it is important to deal with them in a different and more productive way. Recognizing how you feel and using the right approach during a constructive conversation is always better than quickly lashing out without completely understanding the situation or how you feel besides angry. Furthermore, “recognizing the difference between feeling and acting can liberate you from the fear that getting in touch with certain emotions will commit you to a course of action” (Adler, Rosenfeld, Proctor II, year?). Understanding your emotions is important so that you will be able to experience feelings that may upset you and still be able to deal with them from a positive standpoint. Once you can separate your feelings from actions you will be able to make more rational