The prise from parents is very important for children. It makes children's confidence. Mother and father's reactions, words, and opinions affected to their children so much even if it is not good for children. Parents can create first children's idea that would be base idea of children. If parents always against them, they won't have confidence in themselves. Sometimes, children struggle between their opinion and their parents opinion. When children have own opinion that against their parents, they wouldn't be happy, and they lost their original idea. Most of the parents hope their children follow their ideas or opinion. However, sometimes children can't do this, so it would make the conflict of between the parents and their children. A book, Bitter Melon written by Cara Chow shows conflict between mother and her daughter. They weren't understand each other. Mother pressed own opinion to her daughter. Then her daughter's idea was enforced her idea at all.
Ching Tai Tai wanted Frances to become medical doctor for her because she had a physical problem. She didn’t have other family member except Frances because she divorced. She was still cursing her husband because he betrayed her by unfaithful. So, she taught to her daughter Frances to the real world wasn’t easy. That wasn’t wrong, but that too much true always take her daughter's dream. Even Frances tried too hard she didn’t trust herself to she could success. When Frances told her to story of “ The Little Mermaid”, she remind her daughter to the real life wouldn’t be like that story. " 'That's nice,' Mom says.'Just remember, it is only a fairy tale. In real life, by venturing outside to get this prince, the mermaid would have lost her prince, her voice, and her life' "(135). She...
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...lly want to do. Her future's ideas were come from her mom. Therefore, they were always upset when each other did something that weren't in their plan. To independent each other, I think they shouldn't interfere each other too much. For example, Frances's mother shouldn't decide what Frances going to be. To decided what she going to be is Frances's work. In the other hand, Frances shouldn’t care about her mother’s word each times. Then she should tell what she really want to do. It shouldn't affect her mother's word, it will be her own word. I think Ching Tai Tai couldn’t gave “unconditional love” to her daughter, so I think Frances need to be adult, and she can give “unconditional love” to her. It will make her mother’s dark to be lighter. These action would help for they understand more and more. Understand each other could help to their relationship's improvement.
Caramelo has been quite an interesting novel. It describes a Hispanic family to the tee. Sandra Cisneros chose her title perfectly for this book. Life’s hardships and possibilities are explored throughout this fascinating novel.
The mothers really struggle to transform their daughters, but the daughters finally realize that they want to be Chinese, not because it is cool, but because they come to understand who they really are. All four daughters are able to learn something from their mother that can be used to further their relationship and bond. Despite the differences first presented, the girls each find ways to bond with their mothers and make a happy connection between their American lifestyles, and their Chinese backgrounds.
In the beginning paragraphs of Mrs. Spring Fragrance, Sui Sin Far introduces readers to the Chin Yeuns and their beautiful 18-year-old daughter, Mai Fwi Fan, who goes by her American name, Laura. Sui Sin Far describes the Chin Yeuns as living “in a house furnished in American style, and wore American clothes, yet they religiously observed many Chinese customs, and their ideals of life were the ideals of their Chinese forefathers” (865). Abiding by Chinese tradition, Laura’s parents have “betrothed their daughter” (865) to the son of the Chinese Government school-teacher. Laura confesses to Mrs. Spring Fragrance that she is actually in love with Kai Tzu. Mrs. Spring Fragrance is the only person who knows about the relationship between Laura and Kai Tzu. Unfortunately, for Laura, her betrothal is quickly approaching. Mrs. Spring Fragrance, trying to cheer up her young friend, quotes the famous l...
see Jing-mei struggles with her identity for over 30 years, but it finally is resolved once
From the beginning of time, mothers and daughters have had their conflicts, tested each other’s patience, and eventually resolved their conflicts. In the story “Two Kinds,” written by Amy Tan, Jing-Mei and her mother are the typical mother-daughter duo that have their fair share of trials. Jing-Mei is an American Chinese Girl who struggles to please her mother by trying to be the “Prodigy” that her mother wishes for. Her mother has great ideas to make her daughter famous with hopes that she would become the best at everything she did. Throughout the story, the mother and daughter display distinct characteristics giving the reader insight of who they are, how they each handle conflict, and helps define how their relationship changes over time.
“The most beautiful thing in this world is to see your parents smiling and knowing that you are the reason behind that smile.” Our parents’ first concern; which parenting style to follow in order to raise up a well-developed, and well-mannered person. Matter of fact, a huge debate went over this particular issue, whether strict parenting is the right method, or being leant is the correct method. "There is clear evidence that parents can and do influence children." (Maccoby 1). Although, there are numerous factors that can affect the parenting process, or affect the way the parents treat the child (Bossard 333) (Maccoby 1). For instance, different home circumstances... the divided home, or the neglectful home, or the mother-controlled home, or may be the overly demanding home, or the home with too many bosses, so all these different home atmospheres are major factors that affect the development of any child (Bossard 333). In addition, the parents’ attitude towards the child is mostly effective in the formation of the child's personality (Bossard 334). Furthermore, the genetic effect of the child is very important, researches proved that genes are one of the most effective factors in the parenting process, and genes affect the child's own behavior characteristics, and also influences the way the parents are tending to treat their son/daughter (Maccoby 5). I will explain the three major parenting styles and will prove that it is not possible to assume that there is one best style to follow, because each home or family have their own special cases or circumstances that will affect the parenting process
can cause the relationship among parent and child become better as the conflict residing within
In many homes parents establish moral assumptions, mandates, priorities. They teach children what to believe in, what not to believe in. They teach children what is permissible or not permissible—and why. They may summon up the Bible, the flag, history, novels, aphorisms, philosophical or political sayings, personal memories— all in an effort to teach children how to behave, what and whom to respect and for which reasons.
Children are expected to obey their parents, and parents do not usually share the reasoning for their decisions. Children in protective families generally behave in accordance with the family norms. Protective families usually lead to a situation where children from these families do not learn to trust their own ability to make decisions. Laissez-faire families value neither conversation nor conformity. Not much is discussed among members of the family, and parents often don 't have an interest or investment in the decisions made by their children. Children in Laissez-faire families do not learn the value of conversation. They may question their ability to make decisions because they have little
...ith Jing Mei and her mother, it is compounded by the fact that there are dual nationalities involved as well. Not only did the mother’s good intentions bring about failure and disappointment from Jing Mei, but rooted in her mother’s culture was the belief that children are to be obedient and give respect to their elders. "Only two kinds of daughters.....those who are obedient and those who follow their own mind!" (Tan1) is the comment made by her mother when Jing Mei refuses to continue with piano lessons. In the end, this story shows that not only is the mother-daughter relationship intricately complex but is made even more so with cultural and generational differences added to the mix.
The behavior of a child grows in a patterned manner just as the body. Like the physical growth, behavior too is strongly influenced by the home and other surroundings in which the child grows up. While we all have a lifetime to develop varying aspects of ourselves, it is the childhood period that is the most important in acquiring many tools. The strongest and the longest environment to affect the child are the parents. Most parents consider it their responsibility as well as the privilege to provide the best possible environment favorable to child's physical growth. However, often they tend to forget about the behavioral aspect in a child's development. The more a parent knows about the changes that take place in a child's behavior when he grows up, the more successful they can be in guiding the child along the complicated path leading to maturity. The attitude of the parents towards a child is what can make all the difference.
I believe that parents play a vital role in influencing children during the development process as they create a lasting impact on the child’s overall development as well as on the socialization development. As children grow, they encompass a number of factors influencing their attitudes along with the behavior of that child. These attitudes and characteristics are learned initially from their parents. I also believe that when we are in middle school is when we want to be different to fit in with our peers. We see our peers and believe that the things they are doing are cool; we also want them to like us so we start to do the same things as them, which shows then that friends start to influence us more than adults.
Children are influenced by their parents’ action. If the parents are not teaching his or her child what is right from wrong, then it may leave the child to experiment for themselves, like becoming involved in bad activity. If a child commits a delinquent act his or her parent should be held accountable.
To begin with, each parent has their approach to parenting. As far as I’m concerned, it is not the strict or the kind attitude that matters. Good parents are not afraid to have their own opinion when they need to give good results at moderate severity, and moderate softness. On the other hand, the strictness emanating from coarseness, or softness emanating from shyness or lack of principle, can lead to poor results (Spock, 1988). Result of education does not depend on the degree of strictness or mildness, but rather on feelings of the child and from those principles of life that parents are planting it. Strict upbringing is not bad, it makes children independent and disciplined, but if such education goes into the category of authoritarian, independence speech cannot justify it. Authoritarian parenting method generates complexes and nervousness in children. Very strict parents and authorities, carrying a ...
Children sometimes get away from their parents. Meaning, children that do not follow instructions or rules grow up to be disrespectful and have bad attitudes. Parents that do not focus on their children behavior will cause problems for them as an adult. For example, if one is not taught to speak