Relationship goes the wrong way. In your mind with all the different thoughts that you have going thru all at once, ever think about the relationship that you have with your mother? Well some people end up losing their relationship with their mom just over something really small or even being forced to do something that they did not want to do in the first place. Well there a story named “Two kinds” by Amy Tan. This story is about a young girl named Jing- mei along with a mom that wanted her to be the best she can be and not be the type of child that stays home and has to talent.
The detachment between mother and daughter in “I Stand Here Ironing” is understandable. The mother struggles daily with the decisions she made while her oldest child Emily was a young baby and toddler. Obstacles in Emily’s life have made it hard for her mother to forget these decisions, and life with Emily only reinforces these decisions. Emily’s mother struggles when asked to help an outsider understand who Emily is. Her thoughts are perplexing; she tries constantly to accept the relationship between herself and Emily, the distance between them emotionally.
Emily is taught that women stay in the house and iron; she is not encouraged enough by her mother early on. The mother regrets her failure to teach her daughter that she can make her own path through life, claiming her “wisdom came too late” and that she can only hope that Emily “ know[s]- that she is more than this dress on the ironing board, helpless before the iron” (Olsen 298). The narrator failed to guide her daughter through life and to help her avoid some of the mistakes she made. Emily will likely fall down the same path the narrator has taken, because of the perpetual nature of
When Jing-mei’s mother pushed her to become a prodigy, she refused to try because she believed that she could not, and as a result, became very stubborn. In the beginning, Jing-mei believed her mother about being able to become anything she wants in America, the land of opportunity. However, after screaming at herself in the bathroom mirror for constantly raising hopes too high and failing expectations too miserably, Jing-mei changed her attitude. “I won’t let her change me, I promised myself. I won’t be what I’m not” (Tan 477).
Although Rose believes that she has "no hope," inside she has a nengkan as powerful as her mothers, which makes her wish her marriage would last, just as her mother wishes Bing would still be alive. Overall, each mother in The Joy Luck Club went through something emotionally exhausting and saddening in her life. The mothers use their experiences to try to direct the course of their daughters' lives, to make them simpler and more carefree. Initially, however, the daughters only see that their mothers want to make decisions for them, not to help them. Ultimately, the daughters realize their mothers' intentions, but not all accept them.
Because you not trying.” Here, her mother doesn’t really answer her question, instead wants her put more effort on trying, neglecting how much she has tried before. However, in her mother’s perspective, she has never tried hard enough. By narratively stating the conversations she has encountered, readers perceive a strong implication of the reason for a future conflict between her and her mother.
The narrator felt as if she disappointed her mother many times with the way she choose to live her life. To the narrator, a good life was not being talented or following what her mother asked her to do. The narrator believed that a good life was doing what she independently wanted to do without having to follow the expectations of her mother. Both the narrator of “Two Kinds” and Laura had to strongly go against the beliefs and ideas of their mothers, although because they were so young and had little power in their family, both Laura and the narrator had to follow what they were told. Although both Laura and the narrator shared an alternating belief system, they didn’t share a similar social status with each
She was an irresponsible mother who didn’t let her children to make their own choices in their lives. The best way to describe Amanda is Domineering, to summarize it all up, Amanda Wingfeild was not such a good mother, expecting to much. Not just accepting her children for who they were and loving them for being all they could be.
With reasons stating that the mother’s tone is too harsh, or that she doesn 't listen and address her daughter when she speaks out, or even that the mother seems to rush through all that she has to tell her daughter. While all of those points may seem valid they can be refuted by exposing that two of the arguments made against the original point, that the mother is loving, can be based on a person’s view and opinion. As one reads the story their minds goes to assumptions based on past experiences and those can cloud their mind. The tone and the speed how the mother tells her daughter all of this information is based on a reader’s assumptions and/or interpretation of the story, not facts. To refute the other argument that the mother does not specifically address her daughter’s outburst is that in the story she does address the outburst, just not in the ways that would seem conventional.
Walker shows that in mother and daughter relationships adaptation to change can be hard in a variety of ways. First, Dee, Mother's oldest daughter, comes home to visit her mother and little sister Maggie. When she shows up, she introduces herself as "Wangero Leewanika Kemanjo" (416). Her mother is confused about why she wants to change her name, since it was the one that was passed down. Dee explains that the other name did not suit her.