It was hard for her mother to have a baby at a young age herself and try to make ends meet was not easy. She needed to lean on others for help, which she thought at the time was right thing to do, but got caught up on her new family. This is why Emily had so much resentment towards her mother. This story is a great example of a dysfunctional mother-daughter relationship. The story does great job showing the mother’s anguish over her daughter, and a depressed teen that needed her mother and is struggling to overcome a very unhappy childhood.
For a child, having only one parent is tough but can be understood if that parent is missing due to divorce or death, as bad as those reasons are; yet the psychological effect for the child who is purposely betrayed then abandoned by a parent is devastating and can last a lifetime, affecting every future relationship. In this story, the father is that parent. Lau doesn’t give us the girl’s name. Perhaps it is symbolic of the girl’s feeling that she hates her body, and that she really is no good, as her mother said (160) and therefore she doesn’t deserve a name. She becomes a non-entity, a thing despised by her mother and herself.
Mother’s in the novel are responsible for determining their daughter’s identities through their upbringing. The first set of flashbacks is when Ruth is in the first grade, when Ruth fell on the slide and everyone started treating her nicely which was something that she was not used to. This flashback is used to show Ruth’s relationship with LuLing when Ruth rebels from her mother’s orders. This emphasizes that their relationship has always been different. Ruth describes LuLing’s death threats as “earthquakes” where she will be “upended and flung about, unable to keep her balance”(Tan, 2001, p.59).
In actuality, she is the pathetic tragic figure, unable to see how her children have helped her financially. She takes her disappointments and failed dreams and puts them onto the girls, as though it is their fault. Simply due to their existence, Edna often seems annoyed with the existence of her daughters. Kay's realization of this fact so early in life is the most distressing part of her story. Bearing the weight of this burden takes away the possibility of the children having dreams and fantasies of their own.
Throughout the short story, one sees the internal issues that Akiko faces as she goes further into motherhood. At the beginning of the story Hatsuko, Akiko’s daughter, reveals how she knew of the dislike that her mother had on her during her childhood and adolescence. In the letter that Hatsuko wrote to her mother questioning her, why “she disliked her” (1). Akiko then responds to herself by saying that “her feeling[s] about her daughter [are not] abnormal” (2) which is an example of how she is denying the societal roles. Entered in the role of a mother Akiko longs to escape out of the role as seen as her constant rejection of her daughter.
The two common threads that connect Charlotte Perkins Gilman and the narrator in her story are depression/postpartum depression, and entrapment within their roles as of women. Specifically, Gilman and the narrator are trying to escape the function society has placed on them. First, after fulfilling their expected duties as wife and mother, both Gilman and the narrator become depressed after the birth of their child. It is this depression that leads them to the infamous rest cure... ... middle of paper ... ...ness in the form of all "of those creeping women" trying to escape from the oldness that trapped them, acted as a premonition for changes in women’s rights movement (Gilman 89). For Gilman and her story "The Yellow Wallpaper" life is imitating art.
Born in Livermore Falls, Maine, Louise Bogan 's early life was tainted by turbulence and instability. Her mother was liable to to erratic and often violent behavior and would sometimes abandon her family, at times to take part in illicit affairs. By age eight, Bogan had become what she once described as "the semblance of a girl, in which some desires and illusions had been early assassinated: shot dead." Throughout the 1920s and 1930s, Bogan experienced severe depression, for which she endured psychoanalysis and was voluntarily institutionalized more than once. Louise Bogan’s well-known reserve about the details of her personal life extended to her poetry.
Sometimes children complain about their mothers, each wishing they could have different type of mom. The lives and situations of each mother were different, but in my opinion, both mothers were a bad model for parenting. "I Stand Here Ironing" by Tillie Olsen shows us a mother who is struggling through her own life and does not pay any attention to her daughter. The mother in this story happens to be the narrator, and we get the indication that she isn't a very good mother. To start, she was very young when she first had Emily.
She mentions that she got into trouble when she was younger, which the audience can imagine that being her getting pregnant without being married first. Today this is a common occurrence, but in Anne 's society this is deemed as a terrible thing and hurts her place in that society. She can no longer keep her daughter and has to give her up for adoption and she becomes Nora 's nanny and then Nora 's children 's nanny. In other words, she had to give up her own daughter and mother someone else 's children. Anne even mentions, "A poor girl who has got into trouble should be glad to" raise Nora 's children (Ibsen 1378).
After Emily was born her mother, “with all the fierce rigidity of first motherhood, (I) did like the books said. Though her cries battered me to trembling and my breasts ached with swollenness, I waited till the clock decreed.” (Olsen 174). Then when Emily was two she went against her own instincts about sending Emily to a nursery school while she worked which she considered merely “parking places for children.” (Olsen 174). Emily’s mother was also persuaded against her motherly instincts to send her off to a hospital when she did not get well from the measles and her mother had a new baby to tend to. Her mother even felt guilt for her second child, Susan, being everything society deemed worthy of attention.