Robert Frost's "Home Burial" is a masterfully written example of such works, conceived from his and his wife's anguish at the loss of their first-born son as well as from the estrangement between his sister-in-law and her husband due to the death of their child. In Donald J. Greiner's commentary on Frost's works, "The Indespensible Robert Frost," it is revealed that "Mrs. Frost could not ease her grief following Elliot's death, and Frost later reported that she knew then that the world was evil. Amy in "Home Burial" makes the same observation". "Home Burial" illustrates the cause of the failing marriage as a breakdown of communication, both verbally and physically, between two people who adopt totally different views in the midst of crisis.
Emily Brontë's Wuthering Heights displays several characteristics of destructive relationships. Three of these are uncaring parents, marriage without knowing the person, and jealousy. Uncaring or unsympathizing parents are shown throughout this story to be an element of destructive relationships. Because Heathcliff gained all the attention from Mr. Earnshaw, Hindley became disassociated from his father. This separation continued until after Mr. Earnshaw had died.
Children with divorced parents are often left feeling neglected by the parent that has chosen to move out, unloved, and often times burdened with feelings of guilt. The poverty rates of single parented households are alarmingly high, and are often the result of divorce. With all these factors added together, divorce is a dangerous and scarring event in a child’s psyche. Recently, with the no-fault laws, it has been easier to dissolve a marriage for any reason or for no reason at all. In the past, divorces as well as marriages had to occur as an agreement or as a contract of responsibility.
That factor of a divorce could lower a person’s self-esteem, and make them feel like they’re worthless. That person will always have the memories of when both them and their ex-spouse were happily in love, and the mere thought that they’ll never s... ... middle of paper ... ... broken homes” (Horn). Parents sometimes forget to consider the child’s wellbeing after experiencing a divorce, they feel since the children say that they don’t care than everything is alright. When in actuality that child is very distraught and torn apart completely inside. Divorce in a home often teaches children bad habits; children tend to quit more in life when their parents are split up.
The husband can divorce the wife when his wife violates any of the following seven conditions: failure to give birth to a son, disobedience to parents-in-law, outspokenness, stealing, jealousy, adultery, and hereditary disease (Yu, 1987). In contemporary Korea, the major reasons for divorce include extra-marital affairs, spousal abuse, neglect or abandonment of the family. In particular, divorced women report spouse abuse as the leading cause of divorce while divorced men report extra-marital affairs (Yoo, 2000). Social and Self-Perception of Single-Mother Families in Korean Society Traditionally, divorce brings “shame” to the entire family (Im, 2003). Since the powerful Confucian patriarchy as a sociopolitical system since Chosun era has emphasized the importance of the family unit and its harmony, divorce is viewed as social failure and a stigma to avoid.
Probably the biggest piece of evidence is when her father tells her the reason he has been so sad and angry is because he loves her. She is shocked by this confession because she had thought all this time that he hated her and she had done something to make him angry. When he kills himself a few hours later and leaves only a note for explanation, she breaks down. She then secludes herself from everyone because she becomes so depressed by all the guilt and sadness she feels. Mathilda then appears to be very content, and the guilt seems to go away for a while.
He specifically describes how McCandless’ mother reacts saying “As she studies the pictures, she breaks down from time to time, weeping as only a mother who has outlived a child can weep, betraying a sense of loss so huge and irreparable that the mind balks at taking its measure. Such bereavement, witnessed at close range, makes even the most eloquent apologia for high-risk activities ring fatuous and hollow.” (Krakauer 132) Another approach Krakauer takes that makes me feel a bit emotionally unstable is when he talks about his dad and his relationship with him. A lot of the ways he portrays his dad remind me a lot of how my dad is. It gives and deep connection to what I am reading. Also the entire story is sad due to how he starts off by spoiling to you that he dies and then he starts skipping around.
Stereotypes are also evident when Louise begins to break down immediately after finding out that her husband has died and everyone assumed that she was crying because she was upset over the loss of the man she’s spent her whole life with. Although she was actually crying tears of joy because she secretly hated her husband. Other gender stereotypes are depicted when her husband acts the role of the tough/strong, independent, hard-working man who only thinks about himself and making money to provide for his family. Gender stereotypes force an individual to become someone that they’re not and who they really are becomes lost. Once that happens, they lose the ability to resolve their problems in a healthy manner and see who they really are.
American Journalist, Helen Rowland said, “ When two people decide to get a divorce, it isn’t a sign that they don’t understand each other, but a sign that they have, at last, begun to” (1). Divorce means the ending of a marriage by legal separation, thus, a couple that were once bonded together have now separated for opposing reasons. Divorce has hurt and destroyed many families across the world and can cause a lot of negativity. Teens often do not know how to deal with the fact that their family is no longer whole and they will transition into a depression. Teens may experience emotional damage by seeing the two most important people in their lives fight constantly.
The Selfish Misery of Home Burial Robert Frost's poem "Home Burial" is an intriguing portrait of a marital relationship that has gone wrong. Though at first glance it may seem that the cause for the couple's trouble is the death of their child, closer reading allows the reader to see that there are other serious, deeper-rooted problems at work. The couples differences in their approach to grieving is only the beginning of their problems. Many of the real problems lie in the wife's self-absorbed attitude of consuming unhappiness and anger. Her outlook on her life and marriage is so narrow that she winds up making both her husband and herself victims of her issues.