In one story, it is the son who chooses to marry the one whom he loves, being disowned by his father. The other story is the opposite; the mother follows the traditional marriage, which she ends up losing her true love. The story “Marriage is a Private Affair” introduces a conflict between tradition mind-sets and modern mind-sets. The father, Okeke, is towards tradition, supporting the arranged marriage, but the son, Nnaemeka wants to marry whom he loves. This, then, leads to a quarrel within the family having two opposite mind-sets.
This caused parents to feel betrayed by their children, when they married whom they desired. In the two stories “Marriage is a Private Affair” and “Love Must Not Be Forgotten,” the main characters face challenges’ involving their arranged marriages. In “Marriage is a Private Affair,” Nnaemeka, the son of Okeke, falls in love with a woman named Nene, who was not his suitor. (The person his father picked for him) Okeke felt betrayed because of his son’s decision to marry Nene. Nnaemeka tried explaining to his father all the qualities Nene had, but Okeke didn’t want to hear it.
Marriage is not always a private affair, but it should be. In Chinua Achebe’s “Marriage is a Private Affair” Nnaemeka, a young Nigerian man is troubled. He has found the woman his heart desires, Nene, and has asked her to be his wife. What should be a joyous occasion is clouded by the despair and heaviness of knowing he will disappoint his family, particularly his father. Nnameka was raised in a culture in which spouses aren’t chosen by the heart’s desire but by the parents of those to wed. Okeke, Nnaemeka’s father, disowns his son and cuts off communication with him after hearing the news that Nnaemeka won’t be marrying the brute of a woman he chose for his son.
Marriage is a private affair is about a young man name Nnemeka who is in love and plan to marry. Okeke has surprised his son with an arranged marriage but does not know his son is already in love with a girl and plans to marry her. Nene is Nnameka girlfriend, she is not a part of the tribe and she knows his father will not approve of this marriage. Nnameka is too nervous to tell his father about Nene. Nnameka finally decides to tell his father, and his father is highly upset at him and doesn't want to see him anymore.
The story, “Marriage is a Private Affair” by Chinua Achebe arose a very interesting subject in which I wanted to research and analyze. It highlighted the old and more traditional way of the adjoining of two families through marriage and the more modern and “private” love-based marriage between two individuals who chose each other with no outside influences. It was a story about a man named Nnaemaka who married a girl named Nene from another tribe in Africa. They loved each other and decided to disregard their own culture because they knew that their cultures traditional ways of marriage would never allow them to be together. When his father Okeke found out he did not approve of this marriage because Nene was from a different tribe and was not
When the father chooses a husband for his daughter, she has no say over whether she marries him or not. In this play, the reaction of Juliet towards the arranged marriage would have come as a shock to Shakespearian audiences, as they would find it hard to understand why she is disobeying her father, but to a modern audience this would be seen as an acceptable reaction as she is sticking up for herself. The father would always choose a groom who had a high social status, with money and power. When a marriage was to happen it was not only a ... ... middle of paper ... ... Romeo. The reason I have chosen to portray this scene in the way I have is because I think it is necessary to show all the characters emotions as clearly as possible.
In the story, after Modou and Binetou’s marriage, the guests go to Ramatoulaye’s house for a surprise visit. Tamsir, Modou’s older brother tells Ramatoulaye that “God intended [Modou] to have a second wife” and that “there is nothing he can do about it” (Bâ, 2008, p. 38). He soon continues by saying that “a wife owes her husband [happiness]” (Bâ, 2008, p. 38). This speech of his reveals that both wife and husband have the obligation of supporting the polygamy. Modou’s obligation is to God as he intentionally wanted Modou to marry again while according to Tamsir, Ramatoulaye’s obligation is to allow the marriage to occur and accept the situation as it is her duty to support her husband’s decisions.
She doesn’t want to shame her father, however, she wants to ultimately be with the man she loves. In the novel, Kristen is almost raped by a man; nevertheless, she is afraid to tell her family because she fears she will be seen as a slut. Women did not have the right to choose the life they wanted for themselves their life was already planned for them as young girls. True love did not exist in the 14th century; fathers usually arranged the marriage of their daughter in order to maintain a good position in society. If wo... ... middle of paper ... ...ced with deciding between being unhappy or shaming their family and community if they chose to marry someone else.
At some point in our life’s we come across our parents judgments when we get married to a certain someone we chose or simply choosing to live a different life than what we were raised in. In the two short stories “Everyday use” and “Marriage is a private affair” we come across those similar situations where the grown child takes his or her decisions in life without their parent approval. I will compare and contrast those two short stories and show you the similarities between them. As we read in the story “Marriage is a private affair” a father has plan a surprise for his son named Nnaemeka to give him the best wife he could find, only to be at his likings and not Nnaemeka. What the father doesn’t know is that Nnaemeka already found a wife and believes to be perfect for him.
The story follows Nene, Nnaemeka, and his father. Nnaemeka, from the Ibibio tribe, currently lives in Lagos, the capital city of Nigeria, where he (I assume) met Nene, his soon to be wife, who is not a member of the Ibibio people. Nene asks Nnaemeka to tell his father of their engagement, which her fiancé dismisses. He believes that his father will get angry that he didn’t marry a woman of his choice and, more importantly, a woman not belonging to their community. Nene seems shocked at the thought that the father might reject her because of her not being an Ibibio.