Analysis Of Beating The Domestic Violence

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Beating the Domestic Violence Stereotype Threat In society stereotypes are thinking mainly of; race and gender differences. As Claude M. Steele explains in, Whistling Vivaldi, stereotypes can be anywhere and affect anyone. I grew up as a Caucasian female in the suburbs of California. Stereotypes; for the most part, was not directed towards me. After high school, I entered an unhealthy, turned abusive relationship. I stayed in that relationship; no one would want me after having two kids, and there was no way I was going to be able to support myself plus my children on my own. These reasons for staying were not my own, but the product of my community. The thought of leaving the relationship was taken out of option, because of the stereotype…show more content…
I have always been a strong woman, but my qualities were looked at in a different light. I was strong for staying in the relationship for my children and I was looked at as dedicated to my family. Though, I was also perceived as inadequate and miserable. All the qualities I had then, I still have now. Coming out of the relationship and into the world of single moms, these qualities are still here. They are now just looked at in a different way. Like in the book when the change was made to the Sonics coach and the team players were viewed differently. “What’s interesting here is how the team was written about before and after its turnaround. Before the turnaround, the local sportswriters described player characteristics in the worst terms”. (45) The characteristics were the same, but the positive turnaround in the team’s games made these traits something worth bragging about, instead of bashing. My negative traits were turned around to be positive in the act of leaving an abusive relationship. I was strong now for leaving an abusive relationship for my children. I was strong for dedicating myself to my family, which consisted of myself and my…show more content…
This consisted of, living off the system; because I wouldn’t be able to make the money I needed to care for my children. I had an identity contingency to face. I could take the risk, accept the much needed help from my local welfare agency and be perceived as a lazy mom who cannot support her children. Or, I could struggle with feeding my children while I work overtime just to pay rent. At this point I knew once I accepted the government help I was a product of that stereotype. “We know that anything we do that fits the stereotype could be taken as confirming it. And we know that, for that reason, we could be judged and treated accordingly”. (5) For example, as a birthday gift I received an expensive appearing dress. This dress was never worn by me in public. I had accepted the help from my government. With this I knew that if someone saw me in that dress I would be preserved as the mom who takes money from the government that is for her children, and spends it on

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