In the book Arranged Marriage, I was intrigued with all the short stories it had. It was difficult to concentrate throughout the book without the interruption of tears in my eyes. Most of the stories deal with the experiences of the Indian women in arranged marriages. I did not admire any of the stories since most of them ended in a depressing marital experience. While arranged marriage is not commonly practiced in the United States, the women in both cultures deal with controlling husbands that reprimand their wives when they do not meet their expectations. The first story of the book, “The Bats,” focuses on a women who is fed up with her husband’s behavior. Through a child’s account we learn about the nightly beatings of her mother. The mother has it tough and one day when …show more content…
I understand the mother has no option but to leave for a while. In my marriage there have been times I want to run away with my babies but I know this will only bring trouble. When I got with my husband I was the happiest person in the world I thought all my horrible experiences from the past would disappear as if they never happened. When I found out I was pregnant I was so excited and could not wait to share my news with everyone. My husband was happy as well he told his mother and she got angry, so my husband could not enjoy the happiness as he should have. As soon as I was six months pregnant my husband’s mother convinced him to leave me and he did. I was having a very hard time, I would cry the whole day until one day I could not help it and I sent him a letter pleading him to come back with me. This is where I can relate with the mother “I couldn’t stand it, the stares and whispers of the women, down in the marketplace. The loneliness of being without him.” (12) I felt lonely as well,
feeling detached from their child and significant other, mothers often don’t want to be around
According to the author, Lizette Alvarez, in the article “Arranged Marriages Get a Little Reshuffling”, Arranged marriages are better than modern marriages and parents can choose good mates for young. First, the arranged marriage has changed a lot in modern time. Arranged marriages are more flexible because young people can meet several times in some public venues without family members. Parents and elders have become more lenient. Second, arranged marriages have more advantages than modern marriages. Arranged marriages can preserve religion and identity and help people to find their mates in the same social class. Arranged marriages can outlast modern marriages because couples can avoid social and religions disharmony. Finally, young people prefer arranged marriage to modern marriage. Young people would spend less time to find their mate because their parents, chat rooms and dating websites help find mates for them. Young people can easily find their mates who have the same education level and social status. As a young person, I do not agree with the author because other people migh...
In the book "The Norton Anthology of short fiction" by Richard Bausch and R.V Cassill you can find a varieties of writes with different way of writings. There are some stories which the protagonist are involved in marriages and are addressed in different ways. In some cases these marriages ends correctly with happiness and love. Even though some of them don't end correctly, we can learn from them and avoid to happen something similar to all of us as a readers.
Imagine being a child stuck in a dark hole alone, and having to face terror for many years. Well A Child Called It shares the everyday battles of a child, David Pelzer, and it reflects the inhumanity of someone who’s supposed to be loving and caring. The story of the abused child, Pelzer, not only tells the insanity of humankind, but show how easy it is for child abuse to be hidden behind walls. At a very young age Pelzer started to suffer and live such a miserable life. Pelzer faced battles where he not only learned to stay strong, but survive the games from the abuser, his mother, the abuser. Throughout the book, Pelzer shares his experience as an abused child, and reveals such extreme mistreatment from his abuser. In this case, as a reader,
Once they arrived here in America, their mental image of how life was supposed to be accruing soon came to a halt, when the men they thought they would be marrying only became a figure of their imagination and the lifestyle they thought they would be living hardly ever occurred in any of the arranged marriages. Even as women of this time era continuously faced hardships in their home life, there were many other social prejudices and oppression against the picture brides that they had in to endure around the United States.
In “Another Evening at the Club” Samia a young, poor, Egyptian girl is forced into an arranged marriage with a much older man and does not have much decision making power. In “The Story of an Hour” Mrs. Mallard is miserable with her marriage but is unable to secure it. Like Mrs. Mallard, Elizabeth in “The Leaving” is also unhappy with her marriage because she is not respected or treated fairly by her husband. Lastly, in the “Same story, different ending”
However, there is evidence of a positive correlation between love and the length of an arranged marriage (Epstein, Pandit, & Thakar, 2013). Furthermore, the authors summarized previous research findings in which researchers found arranged marriages had a higher level of satisfaction than love marriages in modern civilizations. The fact that both of these trends have come up shows that some western arguments against arranged marriages are founded upon inaccurate
Modernized views of marital roles have led many to believe that married couples who equally split household responsibilities are happier and more content, but research shows otherwise. Statistically, traditional marriages are less likely to end in divorce and actually show more contentment. A traditional marriage can be characterized as when a couple takes on specific gender roles that currently many people believe are outdated. The traditional role for the husband would include taking care of the financial aspect of the house and doing chores that are viewed as masculine such as yard work, car repairs, and paying the bills. The wife 's responsibilities would entail taking care of the home, raising the children, and chores that are viewed
“Arranging a Marriage in India” by Serena Nanda is a well written, informative article aimed at sharing the view of the Indian culture on arranged marriages and also showing how much effort is put into the process of arranging a marriage. Our own culture has evolved into accepting the fact that we are all independent individuals who could not imagine having someone else make such a significant decision for us. Serena Nanda does an excellent job of using her sources within the society as evidence of the acceptance of the arranged marriage aspect of their culture.
In the article Arranging a Marriage in India, Serena Nanda, a professor of Anthropology at John Jay College of Criminal Justice, writes about what she learned about arranged marriages in India from interviewing informants and participating in arranging a marriage herself. Nanda brought in some American biases about how marriage and love are “supposed” to work. She initially had trouble accepting why someone would want or let another arrange their marriage instead of seeking a partner themselves. Nanda’s difficulty understanding arranged marriages, is a result of having grown up in a culture that leaves such decisions to the individual. Furthermore, if the quotes given in the article are an indication, Nanda let her biases influence her conduct
Overall, this story was very interesting. It explains how marriages were back then, how they
How would you feel if you were marry a person your parent choose not just to get married but used as a form of currency? Many arranged marriages from Elizabethan England were arranged for children to be married to another family of similar prestige. There are mainly two different type of arranged marriages, forced and traditional. Arranged marriages from Shakespeare's time to modern days are viewed differently from parent's, children's, and society's perspectives.
Marriage a la Mode, by John Dryden, is an ode to the concept of marriage and love within the period of Restoration England. Dryden, presumably, presents two pairs of couples, Rhodophil and Doralice, as well as Melantha and Palamede, in a way that expresses an imperative tone towards marital relations. Throughout the playwright, he uses these couples and their mistresses to allocate the issue of broken, miserable, thorny marriages. Although marriage was common, there was a strong presence of moral emancipation, which Dryden presents through these relationships. These themes of dissatisfaction and obligation towards the concept of marriage are noted throughout the playwright, as Dryden uncovers how each character feels.
The story I have chosen for my assignment is `Everything's Arranged' by Siew Yue Killingley. It is about arranged marriages practised by the Indian communities.The story is centered around Rukumani, a young maiden from the Ceylonese Tamil community whose family has settled in Malaya. Probably her father or grandfather was brought to this land by the British those days. Though Rukumani, is sent to study in the university (`MU' as stated in the story ), the thinking of her parents is just like how it was back in their motherland, Sri Lanka. The Ceylonese, however educated, still hold to their tradition, beliefs and family values so adamantly. Education failed to change their thinking. Social life is a taboo for their young sons what more for a daughter.
Each marriage comes with a different perspective and story, whether it is an arranged marriage or love marriage. Arranged and Love marriages are very similar yet different. Love is the pure feeling of attachment. Arrange marriage is like a blind date in hopes to find love. It could be love at first sight or love after a while so in somewhat way they end up being a love marriage after all because the end result is the same as they get married or find love. In this essay there will be comparison done on love marriage and arrange marriage. Each country has a different perspective on each type of marriage. I will be comparing both marriages in America and India. Love Marriages come with a responsibility of their