Both Lindo and Suyuan expect their children to be the model of their Chinese ancestors while living in the United States. However their rivalry pushes both mothers to thrust their daughters out of their trust, a mistake that costs them dearly. The daughters also fail to recognize their parents past and their current motivations. These three differences force the conflict seen in the novel between these two pairs and cause their lifelong separation.
The Chinese life is strict, more so than the American life, and that was the only way the mother knew how to raise her daughter. The mother seemed to be the villain in the story, but she was only trying to be the caring parent the best way she knew how. She only wanted her daughter to be the best, but a conflict started when the daughter failed to meet her expectations. In the beginning Jing-mei, th... ... middle of paper ... ...he wanted to see her daughter become something better than what she had become. Instead of encouraging her daughter to become someone who she wanted to be, she ends up pushing her in the wrong direction.
Her aunt had two sides to her, a calm woman and a wild woman free with sex. Kingston was actually shocked by this and says, “Unless I see her life branching into mine, she gives me no ancestral help.” Despite the fact that Kingston ... ... middle of paper ... ...er ancestral culture in order to adapt to American values which still remain here in America. While at school she was practicing this “American- Feminine”, she was shaped as a child to respect honor, family and Chinese culture itself. Consequently, Kingston still started to steer off of her family beliefs. Even writing this book is ironic because even though she was told by her family not to tell anyone about her aunt, here she is writing a book about it.
Mothers and Daughters in Amy Tan’s The Joy Luck Club Throughout Amy Tan’s novel, The Joy Luck Club, the reader can see the difficulites in the mother-daughter relationships. The mothers came to America from China hoping to give their daughters better lives than what they had. In China, women were “to be obedient, to honor one’s parents, one’s husband, and to try to please him and his family,” (Chinese-American Women in American Culture). They were not expected to have their own will and to make their own way through life. These mothers did not want this for their children so they thought that in America “nobody [would] say her worth [was] measured by the loudness of her husband’s belch…nobody [would] look down on her…” (3).
Most parents want what is best for their children even if that means pushing them to their limits. Every parent is different in how they raise their child, some are strict, some are carefree, and some try to act like best friends to their children. Amy Chua is a mother of two girls and she chose to raise them like a chinese parent instead of an american parent. Chua wrote an article called Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother which explains how she raised her children and how different chinese parents are from american parents. In the article Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother the author Amy Chua states that “ Chinese Parents” are vastly different from “western parents.” Wester parents are too concerned with their children's self-esteem and are
This promise shows the value she places on autonomy and personal happiness two qualities that Lindo associates with American culture. As the daughter mature, they begin to feel that their identities are incomplete and become interested in their Chinese heritage. One of Jing-mei’s greatest fears about her trip to China is not that others will recognize her as American, but that she herself will fail to recognize any Chinese elements within herself. Waverly speaks wishfully about blending in too well in China now that it’s in fashion, Waverly likes to think that being Chinese is part of her identity, and doesn’t appreciate it when her mom points out how American Waverly.
Mothers and Daughters in The Joy Luck Club Although mothers and daughters are genetically related, sometimes they seem like complete strangers. When immigrants raise their children in America, there is a great concern for these parents that American culture will negatively affect their children. In the novel, The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan, four mothers try to instill their Asian culture into their daughters' lifestyle; however, these daughters rebel against them, due to their desire to assimilate themselves into American culture. Early in the novel, the Joy Luck Club members discuss the different types of mah jong; it is then that Jing Mei realizes how oppositely she and her mother spoke to one another. While these women are explaining the differences in Chinese and Jewish mah jong, Jing Mei plays back the conversations that she and her mother used to have regarding the same topic.
They see daughters who will bear grandchildren born without any connecting hope passed from one generation to generation"(Tan). Chinese mothers were "taught to desire nothing, to swallow other people's misery, to eat my own bitterness". Yet, the daughters do not have this blind obedience to their mothers. After the piano talent show fiasco, a quarrel broke out between June and Suyuan. June did not have this blind obedience like a Chinese daughter, " I didn't have to do what my mother said anymore.
If Castro and his father agreed to go to therapy they may have been able to organize a plan so his father can contribute to Castro's life growing up. Even though his mother was able to be supportive, Castro still wanted to know his father. Castro explains,“ Sorry excuses such as I'm going though hard times or I can't provide for my child are nothing more than cop-outs.” Using excuses is not going to be supportive on why the father leaves. Another way therapy can help improve fatherlessness is to help a child cope with life without a father. Another way to improve fatherlessness is to have a less biased society when it comes to child support the women are usually favored.
For many years, the mother did not tell their daughters their stories until they were sure that their fractious offspring would listen. By then, it is almost too late to make them understand their heritage that their mother left behind in China. It seems that their family's legacy cannot seize their imaginations after years, decades, and centuries of blissfulness and sorrow. Through the eyes of the daughters, we can also see the continuation of the mother's stories, how they learned to cope in America. With this, Amy Tan touches on an obscure, little discussed issue, which is the divergence of Chinese culture through American children born of Chinese immigrant parents.