The idea of providing the upmost success to a child varies depending on the parent. For example, a parent can raise a child to become a young prodigy in his or her grade school and continue to become a success over a period of strenuous work which would cause anxiety and stress to both the parent and child. While another parent could let the child independently work their way to success. It’s less stressful but, not as successful compared to the parent who forcefully works their child to the limit. Amy Chua and, “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior,” implies both sides of the argument but, takes wing to the first idea for it does provide positive results. However, Janice Mirikitani and her poem “Suicide Note,” describes what effects apply with …show more content…
What if, Sophia was called garbage because she got an 84 on her exam and, the reason she received that grade was because she felt sick in the middle of the exam or she felt extreme pressure and/or anxiety? How could Chua know if she didn’t ask? There can be situations where she can disapprove by mentioning that “there aren’t any excuses,” while there others situations that she could sympathize with such as, being sick in the middle of the exam. Showing no sympathy however is the main name in the game according to, Mirikitani’s poem which is based off a true suicide note. Whether if you’ve “worked very hard,” you’re “not good enough.” If you’d given all of what you’ve got “bone by bone, perched on the ledge…,” you’re “not strong enough”. Mirikitani uses a those characteristics repetitively in a melodious tone that would immerse almost anyone reading it. Her way personifying that the character is a botched bird signifies that the person is a failure to her parents and, he/she hopes that they would one day have their sorrows …show more content…
Chinese parents believe that there children can get those grades. If they couldn’t achieve a perfect grade they understand that they either, didn’t push the child hard enough or that there child isn’t fully disciplined. They follow by taking a course of action and hope that it would increase their child’s performance. This is what makes a Chinese parent believe that their kids are permanently indebt with their parents. The similar ideal goes with other Asian parents but, Westerner’s from what Chua perceives have a different view on this idea. A westerner believes that it’s the complete opposite. The parents were the one that choose for children not the children. Which is why they shouldn’t be forced to be
Amy Chua utilizes evidence to verify that Western parenting practice is wrong and not as effective as Chinese parenting practice. In her article, Chua comments, “Chinese parents can do things that would seem unimaginable-even legally actionable-to Westerners, “Hey fatty-lose some weight.” By contrast, Western parents have to tiptoe around the issue” (Chua 54). She also gives her observation as evidence to convince Westerners treat their kid wrongly. She adds her observation in her article “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior,” “I also once heard a Western father toast his adult daughter by calling her “beautiful and incredibly competent.” She later told me that made her feel like garbage” (Chua 54). Brooks, in opposite, does not fight against to prove Chinese parenting techniques are completely wrong. However, he just want to give evidence so that Chua and Chinese, in common, understand Western parenting practices are good in some ways. In Brooks’ article, he clears, “So I’m not against the way Chua pushes her daughters” (Brooks 59). Furthermore, David Brooks writes in his article “I wish she recognized that in some important ways the school cafeteria is more intellectually demanding than the library” (Brooks
The Wall Street Journal published an article by Victoria Ruan that was titled “In China, Not All Practice Tough Love”. In her article, she briefly discusses what we think of as typical behavior between children and parents in China. She describes the brutal relationships between children and their parents when it comes to schoolwork and being the best possible student in the class. Ruan states how in years past children have been pushed in their studies by their parents to the point in which children start to lose their individuality and love for “not so important” hobbies. According to Ruan, chinese parents don’t just push their children to extremes in order for their children to be as smart as possible, the main goal of this “tough love” mannerism is to ensure that their children have a happy and successful life. However, Ruan believes that in recent years we now have less reason to believe in these stereotypes about chinese parents and their children.
Chua believes that Chinese parents force their children to be academically successful in order to reach “higher” goals in life. She emphasizes this when she states “…Chinese parents have … higher dreams for their children…” (Chua 8). Although Amy set higher s...
To begin with, while Western parents ' primary concern is their children 's self-esteem, Chinese parents plainly assume their children are strong. These opposite mindsets lead to different behaviors. For instance, when a child 's grades are low, Western parents will challenge the educational system. In contrast, Chinese parents will make
As the four women entered America, which is far from their motherland China, they experience a change of culture, the American culture, which was dominant than the Chinese. The Chinese mothers are faced with a difficult task of how to raise their American-born daughters with an understanding of their heritage. The daughters clearly show a gap in culture between the Chinese culture and American culture. The mothers wanted their daughter to follow the Chinese traditions, but the daughters followed the American traditions and even some of them got married to American men. The mothers tried to tell their daughters the story about the Chinese ancestors but the daughter could not follow them and the daughters thought their mothers were backwards and did not know what they are saying. As much as the mothers tried to show love to their daughters, the daughters usually responded negatively. They often saw their mothers’ attempts to guidance as a failure to understand the American culture. Being Chinese and living in America, both the mothers and the daughters struggle with many issues like identity, language, translation, and others. The mothers try to reconcile their Chinese pasts with their American presents; the daughters try to find a balance between independence and loyalty to their heritage
Amy Chua (2011) names off three reasons that support her argument in why Chinese children are more successful. First, she mentions that Westerners worry too much on how their child will accept failure, whereas Chinese parents assume only strength in their child and nothing less. For example, if a Western child comes home with a B on a test, some parents will praise the child on their success and some may be upset, while a Chinese parent would convince their child they are “worthless” and “a disgrace.” The Western parents hope to spare their children’s feelings and to be careful not to make their child feel insecure or inadequate, while Chinese parents demand perfect grades because they believe their children can get them (Chua, 2011). Secondly, Chinese parents believe their chil...
Should successful parents give up everything, including their happiness for their children? Some parents do this way, but the answer should be no because it is human nature to love their children, but it is inevitable for people to spoil their children. In Amy Tan’s Rules of the Game, it tells the story between a traditional Chinese mother from rural China who emigrated to the United States around 1950s and a daughter who grew up in the United States. Tan describes in detail the way the mother educates her daughter Waverly as an oriental female. Cormac McCarthy’s The Road is also telling a story about a parent and his child, and it reflects how a father teaches and takes meticulous care of his son in a harsh and dangerous environment. Both
“Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” is a segment of the novel Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother by Amy Chua, author and professor at Yale Law School. “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” was printed on the Wall Street Journal and caused a great deal of controversy. When mentioning “Chinese mothers” Chua refers to mothers who are remarkably strict in the way that they raise their children; regarding their academics and extracurricular activities. Contrastingly she also refers to “Western parents” who Chua believes are greatly more lenient with the way that they raise their children. The controversy came about because there was a great deal of disagreement with the way Chua admits to treating her children. People really disagreed
Tan communicates that her mother’s “limited” English also limited her perception of her mother’s thoughts. She stated, “I believe that her English reflected the quality of what she had to say.” This statement struck a relatable feeling within me because I too have grown up with a mother whose English is limited. Unlike the author, however, my mother is American but with little education. I often find myself spelling everyday words such as “Success” or “accommodate” and the gut wrenching feeling of guilt that ensues because I feel a superiority of intelligence over her. The way that Amy explained how bank associates or department store associates did not take her mother seriously hit home in the fact that due to my mother’s shortage of intelligible words, she too is never taken seriously or given good service. It is then that I find myself telling the associate the educated version of when my mother would say, “yawl need to fix that, uh uh!” in her heavy southern drawl and they’d follow with, “excuse me?” However, in all my hesitation, I feel as though I have a responsibility to enlighten my mother of the “proper” way to speak, all while harboring feelings of
Parsasirat, Z., Montazeri, M., Yusooff, F., Subhi, N., & Nen, S. (2013). The Most Effective Kinds of Parents on Children’s Academic Achievement. Asian Social Science, 9(13), p229.
However, she never considers the long term effects that Western style parenting has that is superior to her tiger mom parenting style. "Western parents seem much more concerned about their children’s psyches, their self-esteem, whereas tough immigrant parents assume strength rather than fragility in their children and therefore behave completely differently” (Luscombe). The Chinese parents ' lack of consideration for their children 's feelings put their future well being at risk. In fact, "suicide in China accounts for 26% of all suicides worldwide" (WHO). This astonishing fact causes people to raise eyebrows towards the long term effects that Chinese parenting causes. It gives children low self-esteem and depression that domino effect out of control as they grow
Parenting in today’s society is extremely competitive. Raising children has become the new sport interest to the parents, and the success that the kids achieve in life is the gold medal. You see the articles in magazines, the websites online, and the ads on TV that promote the newest and greatest parenting methods used by mothers and father everywhere. The differences we see in parenting can differ from family to family, but the biggest contrast is between the different ethnicities of the world. How a Western mother raises her child may be completely different than that of a Chinese mother. These differences are the ones that are observed by author Amy Chua, as well as mothers who have read her works of literature.
“Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” is an excerpt from Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother by Amy Chua, a Yale Law professor. In this excerpt the author explains why Chinese children tend to be more successful in life and expresses her dislike towards Western parenting. The first idea Chua explains is a list of activities her daughters are allowed to do and not do in order to focus solely on academic progress. Second, the author demonstrates the contrast in mindset between Chinese mothers and Western mothers by explaining how Chinese mothers feel differently than Western mothers in regards to academic success and learning. Furthermore, she describes how Chinese mothers can demand things from their children. Finally, they can also say
The two notable parenting styles discussed in Amy Chua’s article, “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” are the Western style parenting and the Chinese Tiger Mom style parenting. Chua explains the methods, the advantages and the disadvantages of both styles. She believes that Tiger Mom parenting is superior to Western parenting. In her article, Chua proves that raising children with the firm belief that failure is unacceptable will prepare them for the future.
In today’s society, the fixed model for ordinary Chinese student is working hard on their study since very young to be admitted by better primary school, middle school and high school and then, they would get high marks in Gaokao, which is a kind of exam like ACT, to enter some best universities to get a well-paid job in the future. As the fierce competition in China, parents ask their children to put 100% energy in study and they usually think working part-time would decrease school success because of less study time. Gwen (2012) notes most of Chinese parents are more strict in study than American parents. They push their children to study, practice more and get achievement and give children enough financial support. Furthermore, many Chinese students think doing extra part-time job would make them feel more stressful because most of them are forced to go institutions to have extra classes at the weekend. As a result, many Chinese people do not have positive attitudes toward students working