The process of grief consists of several facets namely: emotional, physical, cognitive and behavioral (Barbato & Irwin, 1992; Worden, 1991; Worden, 2009). Emotional factors Emotionally a person is sad and feels lonely without the loved one. This absence is felt in the anger the bereaved hold against the caring team in case of death due to illness, ironically it can cause relief to close ones as they have witnessed and suffered all way with the patient. Sudden death comes as a numbing shock to the person and very often there are a lot of anger again natural forces or god. In cases of sudden death there is a deep feeling of guilt as there are many unfinished business which could have been resolved, things left unsaid.
For many, there is a profoundly incomprehensible facet to the death of a loved one. Grief can provoke deep shock, derange all sense of meaning, unravel vital self-concepts and shatter close held ideals about existence (Berzoff, 2006, p. 125). Sentiments regarding the unfathomable aspect of bereavement are a prominent feature in many grief memoirs. When faced with the death of a loved one, the grieving mind of the bereaved inherently rejects the harsh reality, the utter intangibility of loss, and vast nothingness of the void left behind. During the period of grief, it can be exceedingly difficult to process the finality of life lost.
Blessed are those who mourn: for they shall be comforted. ~ Matthew 5:4 The death of a loved one is an experience that many people experience at some point in their life. The realization of death will cause a person to become an emotional rollercoaster. The emotion of grief can be a confusing state of being that makes a person feel lost and discombobulated. According to Merriam-Webster dictionary the term grief is used interchangeably with bereavement which is the state of losing a loved one and grief is the emotional response to the loss of someone that the bereaved has a personal bond to.
Robert Frost's "Home Burial" is a masterfully written example of such works, conceived from his and his wife's anguish at the loss of their first-born son as well as from the estrangement between his sister-in-law and her husband due to the death of their child. In Donald J. Greiner's commentary on Frost's works, "The Indespensible Robert Frost," it is revealed that "Mrs. Frost could not ease her grief following Elliot's death, and Frost later reported that she knew then that the world was evil. Amy in "Home Burial" makes the same observation". "Home Burial" illustrates the cause of the failing marriage as a breakdown of communication, both verbally and physically, between two people who adopt totally different views in the midst of crisis.
When the feelings becoming debilitating and chronic, they may be symptoms of complicated grief, sometimes referred to as traumatic. Symptoms of complicated grief include extreme focus on the loss, intense longing for the deceased, problems accepting the death, detachment, preoccupation with your sorrow, bitterness about your loss, inability to enjoy life, depression, trouble carrying out normal routines, withdrawing from social activities, feeling that life holds no meaning or purpose, irritability or agitation, and lack of trust in others. Although there is no known direct cause of complicated grief, risk factors have been found in several studies. Individuals who are grieving the loss of a loved one to a traumatic death (unexpected, violent, or untimely) may be at a higher risk for complicated grief (Mayo Clinic Staff, 2014). Persons who are grieving the loss of a close loved one may be at a higher risk for complicated grief than those in a general bereavement population (Kersting, Brahler, Glaesmer, & Wagner, 2010).
Grief is defined in the online Merriam-Webster’s dictionary as a deep sadness caused especially by someone’s death, a cause of deep sadness, or a trouble or annoyance. Grief is most commonly associated with death; however grief can be a loss of anything that is significant to oneself, such as losing a job or housing arrangement. Grief is a common and natural emotional response that a person experiences after the loss or dead of a loved one. It is a process that cannot be overlooked, bypassed, hurried, or rushed. It changes people forever but it must be done to be able to cope and manage life with the loss of something that was significant.
The other book we read is called The Death Of Ivan Ilych by Lev Nikolayevich Tolstoy which describes Ivan Ilych life while learning that he is chronically ill and is getting worse. The two interesting books have two very different views on grief. C.S. Lewis book shows the process of grief coming from a loved one that has passed, while Lev Nikolayevich Tolstoy book speaks about grief that comes with a loss when the person that is affected is yourself. Although they do not share the same take/or view on grief, what can be implied is that they are both experiencing the 5 stages of grief.
It also traditionally recognized in its abbreviated form DABDA (Santrock, 2007) The first stage is Denial. After the love one death, bereaved was suffering from loss. They could not accept the facts in conscious level or unconscious level, no matter what to do or how to do. This kind’s action we would say that defense mechanism was emerged. Most bereaved person would be fixed on this stage during their painful events.
Explication of Emily Dickinson's "I Felt a Funeral in My Brain" Works Cited Not Included In the poem "I Felt a Funeral in My Brain" Emily Dickinson exposes a person's intense anguish and suffering as they sink into a state of extreme madness. The poem is a carefully constructed analysis of the speaker's own mental experience. Dickinson uses the image of a funeral-service to symbolize the death of the speaker's sanity. The poem is terrifying for the reader as it depicts a realization of the collapse of one's mental stability, which is horrifying for most. The reader experiences the horror of the speaker's descending madness as the speaker's mind disintegrates and loses its grasp on reality.
Consequently, the demand is elevated as a threat. The loss of a loved one no matter how expected is accompanied by stress.” For the purpose of this paper the stressor is death. Grief According to the Merriam Webster Dictionary “grief is a deep and poignant distress caused by or as if by bereavement.” “Grief (bereavement) is the emotional and physical response to the death of a loved one” Ringold, S. (2005). Grief. JAMA, 293(21), 2686.