An Extraverted Relationship

The external world can be experienced and valued in many different ways, and this means that each personality type will bring a different set of perception and behaviors into a relationship. This variability within a certain personality may complement or antagonize the relationship. Strong negative effects usually occur when one’s dominant extraverted functions are heavily expressed, while their inner awarenesses are not present. Most problems encountered in this relationship will most likely come from the weaknesses and negativity of one’s thinking. Extraverted people can be very sensitive to their own image and the way they are presented to the world; however, this sensitivity is very personal and introverted. It will only be through continued relationship that any quirks or personal weaknesses will become a problem. Once they do; however, they can remain like rocks, because neither person in the relationship has the skills to combat the problem. There is always a constant tendency to be together in an ESFJ relationship. This greatly limits any time for a person to spend alone time and achieve greater understanding of self and personal balance.
ESFJ relationships will work flawlessly as long as nothing arises from the shadowy introverted side to interfere with the easy flow of connection and interest that two extraverts share. Reinforcing the ability to repress the weaknesses of a secondary introverted side is vital to keeping the relationship undisturbed, and can negate the potential development of more weaknesses in an ESFJ person. In a relationship where both partners present very different personality traits, they become very aware of their abilities and weaknesses, because the other partner is continually evoking them. The...

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...gs or insights that would usually be repressed by an ESFJ person, needs to be expressed and understood by the partner in order for the relationship to grow and remain healthy.
The key to continuing a healthy extraverted relationship, is having the ability to recognize and understand that; although, things may appear perfectly fine on the surface, it is very possible for an underlying weakness to occur at anytime from an ESFJs secondary introverted side. ESFJ people have a strong tendency to pile good apples on top of the old, this may cause the old apples to disappear, but out of sight is not out of mind. Since this type of connection can flow so easily at times, ESFJs often forget the need to nurture and care for the relationship. Partners in ESFJ relationships must understand each other and learn to work with the less than perfect ingredients they bring to the mix.