Jubil was sitting in an old wooden chair at my old town house his family was renting. He was eating hot rice and some type of vegetable medley, dressed in a bunch of layers from head to toe, but looked as if the layers did no good, every few minutes shaking from the cold chills he got. After a few bites he finally said, “I arrived December 24, 2012 on Christmas Eve around 5pm. It was super cold outside I felt as if I was a popsicle in the making, but I was very happy and excited to arrive in America. I felt like my dreams were coming true. Never in my right mind did I think I would end up here out of all places. For me, going to America was like saying I was going to be the main star of a movie.” He smirks and continues, “You know what got me the most here? Having to write and speak in English, for me, speaking was the hardest, if people talk to me, I am able to understand and talk back a bit. Although I do not have the hang of it yet and sometimes, I have to stop mid-sentence because the words just would not come out it was so frustrating. Thank goodness I already knew how to speak and write well in English thanks to the English medium school I went to back in India; otherwise, I would be completely lost.” As he told me the next few things his expression changed from confusion into disappointment. After a few moments he spoke. “A negative point I realized while staying here in America is that India has more family values than here. In my country parents rule all the time and what they say goes, you must listen to them and not give your opinion and talk back. I am sure kids from here would not like it but what can kids like us do besides just learning to deal with it. Also parents support their kids until they get their master... ... middle of paper ... ...conda!!!! Never in my life have I seen such a big snake and the planetarium another cool place I went to have the best view of Chicago you could possibly get. “In its own way this place is truly amazing, because I came here and I got to experience and see so many things I have never seen and done before. I had so many thoughts about America before coming here, things I saw on TV and heard from people, but until you truly experience it yourself, you will never really have a true understanding of what it is really like to be in America. If I had a choice of whether or not to come to America again, I would definitely come back here no doubt about it. ‘I think that he realized even through all the ups and downs he had to go through and getting transitioned here properly, that even though it took time, the trip and experience in America was completely worth it for him.’”
“Learning how to be what the Creator created you to be. Face your truth. Do that he says and three big things happen in your life. First, you learn how to be a good human being. Second you learn how to be a good person, and in the process of learning that you learn how to be a good Indian.” (130)
“I am certain that my fellow Americans expect that on my induction into the Presidency I will address them with a candor and a decision which the present situation of our people impel. This is preeminently the time to speak the truth, the whole truth, frankly and boldly.”
Satir mentioned that parental style of communication, family rules and family position are greatly influenced by their family of origin. They bring together what they learned in their own family implicitly and explicitly and formulated the context of their family now. (Rasheed, 2010) In this case, Mrs. and Mrs. Ho’s parental style and attitudes also are influenced by their family of origin.
“I'm sick of living like a pig with my nose to the earth, all the time only pinching and scraping for bread and rent. So long my Aby is with America, I want to make myself for an American. I could tear the stars out from heaven for my Aby's wish."
In India, culture, tradition, and religion have an influence in every aspect of life from the food they eat, how they greet one another, and even how they marry. To Native Indians, there isn 't much that 's more important to them than their family and their culture, as shown by Mr. Kapasi 's surprise at the standoffish attitude of the Das parents(Lahiri, 450). The Das come from America where there is much less emphasis placed on family values and togetherness. The mother, Mrs. Das blatantly ignores her children, focusing instead on painting her fingernails(Lahiri, 451). The father is more concerned with talking to their driver, Mr. Kapasi, about the tour before his wife takes over the conversation clearly taking an interest in Kapasi and his work as a translator and interpreter(Lahiri, 452). The children are rowdy and talk back to their parents while allowing their attention to wander. In India, this sort of behavior, that of the parents and the children alike, would be frowned upon desperately and the entire family may be excommunicated from the community. India parents are taught to be strict, yet attentive to their children. If a child addresses their parent, the parent is obligated to reply to them, even if it is to scold them. Also, children are taught to be respectful of their parents at all times, even after they become parents themselves. A Native-born
“I knew he was in a good place, I knew he was going to be taken care of,” she added. “I knew even though he was leaving his family in Southern california he was going to have this great big family here, in Humboldt.”
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about the people who got him here he loves his family and will never forget about them.
A terrible terrorist act was committed on American soil on September 11, 2001. Airplanes were hijacked, taken to important cities, and crashed into important buildings. This dreadful happening shocked all of America. Most are still in denial and grieving over the tragedy. It seemed that America was getting little support from other countries; unlike the support America gives many other nations when they are in trouble. One reporter from Canada, Gordon Sinclair, thought this was a terrible injustice. In a report given by Sinclair, many times America has helped out, even its enemies, were pointed out. Sinclair points out the fact that America has some of the best technology, the fact that America has helped its enemies with restitution after wars and bombings, as well as the fact that America is a watchdog that helps those who have domestic problems.
In conclusion, after achieving my goals in life, I will live a nice peaceful life, where I don’t have to do a manual labor like my father. My family is all settled here in the United States. What my father planned out for me is definitely working for me. In the future, I will achieve my goals, become a gentleman, and settle down with a significant other. I followed my parent’s traditions throughout my eleven years here in America. They have given me the honor of allowing me to find whomever I wish to marry and not follow their ritual of arranged marriage. I would prefer marrying an educated Pakistani American who is able to move along with me in this new fluid world. Also, my final conclusion of a good life would be to have my children repeat the same process that I went through. If they achieve my goals and more, then my life is complete.
Mukherjee then begins to compare and contrast her sister in a subject-by-subject organization. She states, “…she clings passionately to her Indian citizenship and hopes to go home to India when she...
In the end, the values that affected him the most are the Indian values. This is because the end result of the novel he was back to the Bengali values. He was back living with his mother and he married a Bengali woman instead of an American one that he was with before his father’s death. His father’s death is the major reason he went back to being family-oriented. If that didn’t happen then he would still be the individual person he was. He still carries some American values but now he is all about family and back to the way he used to be when he was young. He will continue his Indian culture with his wife and when he has kids. I’m sure he wont go back to full American values now that he is married to a Bengali woman. That is his partner and they do things together so he knows that Indian values are the most important thing to him from now on.
“To me the America Dream is being able to follow your own personal calling.To be able to do is incredible freedom,”
From above scenes we can predict that Indians are more attached and close to their families than Americans. They consider the family an important and number one priority in their lives and that explains why they live with their families even if they get older and what their parents mean to them. While in America people mostly move out in a very young age and get caught up in their busy lives away from their parents and they’re family and only gather when there’s an event such as weddings, Christmas and thanksgiving
The language and the set-up are very casual for a first person-narrator taking us through her life. It is very casual and formal, almost like she is telling us about her “everyday-life” so to speak. But when she isn’t telling us and getting us through her everyday life, she is usually talking about her parents, sharing thoughts about them. The thoughts and comment on her parents are a bit different. She is at some moment confronting them and their belief. They can’t grasp why she wont go back to India, and she can’t grasp why they’re so intimately focused on their religion. And that’s is the set-up for the more controversial and sensitive style of language in the