Have you ever wonder what kind of statements- such as “I can’t do that”, or “It is too difficult to do”, or “ If I do, I’ll probably just fail anyway”-when you want to do something appear in your mind exactly are? In some cases, they sound as if they are coming from a tyrannical and cruel person with a mission to destroy self-confidence. Unfortunately, all too often, they can lead to self-sabotage and can stop you achieving your goals and dreams. “Self Sabotage is any behavior, thought, emotion or action that holds you back from getting what you want consciously. It not only prevents you from reaching your goal, but also becomes a safety mechanism that protects you against disappointment.
It may make someone over conscientious so that they may neglect their needs to avoid affecting others with the negative consequences of an action. Oversensitivity becomes a problem, as one becomes obsessed with every aspect of right and wrong in the making of a decision. Guilt can mislead or misdirect you; a person may not be able to figure out their true feelings, because of irrational beliefs lying behind guilt. The feelings might be ignored because of the fear of guilt, and one would not be able to respond to anything positive or negative. People may be so overcome by guilt that they feel worthless and label themselves as a “bad person.” Guilt can evolve into shame, depression, or anxiety.
If a human is desperate, it causes them to have bad judgment, and they act out of their normal ways of behavior. Most of the time, they are put in a case of desperation because of another human. Humans wrong each other a lot, sometimes deliberately. Other times, it is unintentional, but either way, it happens. Anxiety clouds judgment, making people act in ways that are frowned upon in society.
Denial is basically another word for rejection; anger can be a symptom of rejection after being told something “unacceptable” and making an outburst; bargaining to try to reverse what has already happened; depression can be caused by the feeling of being rejected by others. “A person might feel rejected after a significant other ends a relationship… Rejection can also result from life events not involving relationships” (GoodTherapy, Rejection). Everyday life events influence us. The social interactions, peers, morals, people tend to desire involvement. That’s why being rejected can change people, they could either become withdrawn or try to change themselves to fit in.
Consequently, only those who are confident enough to risk this rejection and in turn endure it’s painful effects can engage in a first kiss. The second harmful ramification of having a first kiss rejected is that rejection can often negatively modify or even end a relationship. As, previously stated, rejection often occurs when one individual in a relationship misinterprets the behaviour of the other, and assumes that their intense feelings are being reciprocated. When an individual realizes that these assumptions are false, they can often feel embarrassed or even ashamed. These discomforting emotions will often cause distance within the relationship and could result in a lose of the relationship all
This leads to a sense of nonchalance about plagiarizing. Unfortunately, this mentality is growing and plagiarism is becoming a very controversial topic. As Nels Griffin (Write or wrong: Thoughts on plagiarism) stated, there needs to be a distinction between intentional and blatant plagiarism, and accidental or unintentional plagiarism. After all, plagiarism by its own definition is borrowing or stealing other people’s ideas or words and not giving them credit. When you borrow without permission, that is known as stealing, which hurts the person you stole from and your personal integrity.
What is worse, we violate our own dignity in the process" (5). Human dignity goes full circle in which violations of other's dignity comes to violating one’s own dignity. When one treats others badly, the victim of it is bound to treat them back just as badly and others as well. Hicks also claims that, "Repeated violations of our dignity undermine not only our self-worth but our capacity to be in relationships with others in ways that bring out our best and their best" (20). The continued violation of one's dignity can destroy one's mental acknowledgement of self-worth and eliminate the want to promote each other's human worth.
However, the bystander effect is an undesirable phenomenon as it degrades the moral level of overall society, destroys the system of social trust, and has negative influences on various social fields. First of all, the bystander effect corrupts the moral level of the whole society. Moral levels of the society are determined by two main factors, which are moral conscience and moral consciousness. Moral conscience is an inborn faculty that assists in distinguishing right from wrong (May, 1983). This inner voice often makes a person feel guilty when he/she commits actions that go against moral values and leads the person to behave morally.
People who experience guilt on a chronic basis, according to the cognitive perspective, mistakenly suffer under the illusion that they have caused other people harm. In contrast to the psychodynamic view of guilt, the
What I have found to be most interesting about both Deontology and Utilitarianism isn’t their approach to ethics, but rather their end goal. Deontology promotes “good will” as the ultimate good; it claims that each and every person has duties to respect others. On the other hand, Utilitarianism seeks to maximize general happiness. While these may sound rather similar at first glance (both ethical theories essentially center around treating people better), a deeper look reveals different motivations entirely. Deontology focuses on respecting the autonomy and humanity of others, basically preaching equal opportunity.