When we first met I did not know how to trust anymore. The spirit of life had been taken from me, but somehow you helped me find it again. At the time we met, I was going through some hard times, but when others turned their backs on me, you stood by my side. You were determined to be there for me and for that I thank God every day that he sent you to me. If I would have known that when I told about my past you would be there to help me through it, then I would have told you a long time ago.
For as long as I can remember I have had a caring attitude and a sense of compassion towards people. Having had different experience and different view to the society while growing up such as having a family member that was a drug addict and was under the influence of alcohol, having a cousin that was abused by a close relation and witnessing the effect it had on their physical and mental health allowed me to get closer to them and wanting to support them in their daily life. I actively shadowed the role of the social workers that was put in charge of my family members. Watching closely with the kind of support, advice, counselling……. That were provided for them and other personal experience that I had triggered my interest in wanting to find out more and this is when I realized that a career in social work profession would be enjoyable and extremely satisfying.
One of the things I was greatly affected by was trauma stewardship. I would find myself worrying constantly if I did everything correctly, but also replaying the cases in my head. I never really thought about self-care for myself while also helping others. This experience taught me that you have to be really self-aware of your feelings and take care of yourself. Attending weekly debriefing sessions at Haven has helped me greatly.
People always tell me I am kind, considerate, sweet and loving. I know these traits are what have gotten me into the field. Some people have to work hard for their profession, others are born into it, and I was born a social worker. I have always had a sixth sense about when people are hurting and instead of getting into a person’s face and asking what is wrong or pushing someone to talk, I will sit there and just offer my presence or I will find some small task to show I love them. I have always been the caretaker in my family, watching out for people, being there whenever someone needs a proffered hand.
The job of a social worker will require this strength because we never know what we will face and we have to be prepared for what is thrown at us. We will also be the support of our clients to keep moving forward and not back on the trials of life. Having a servant’s heart through compassion and empathy I will be the pillar of support that my clients and fellow colleagues will need through the daily tasks of the job. I have also been bestowed with an open mind, I am well aware that everyone is not the same as me. College has provided me with the opportunity to grow in my own thoughts and expressions.
In my opinion, the people who died they do not just go away, they always stay in our everyday life. They influence us like no one else does. Everyone who know my grandmother and meet me always tell me that I look like her not in the face features but with the acts and the way, I think and handle situation. my grandmother herself use to tell me “ dear you are like me and you remind me with myself when I was your age, i know life is hard but never let anyone put you done, always remain strong and be by your words, never change them if you believe in them.” May her Soule rest in peace. At the end, in our lifetime, we meet many people and we talk to many others.
Helping Hands People often ask me that why I am working as a volunteer and not doing a job? I always say that volunteering gives me peace of mind. Volunteering does not give me money, but it taught me a lot in a very short period. I have always urge to help people in need and as a full-time nursing student I am not able to work right now. Though I wanted to know more about the hospital environment.
But, now I do, and I use this principle almost every day in my life. Before that accident, mother always told me that the appearance doesn’t matter, but I fully understood it only, when learned it on my own practice. So, I fully agree with Anna Quindlen, that there are things, which person should learn by his / her own. I hope that in future I will be a good parent. However, I will always remember that a really good lesson is the one that can be leaned on personal experience.
Mostly everyone’s mother is his/her top motivator and is the most common person to influence him/her. My mother has been very tough on me. At one point of my life, I was afraid to even ask her any questions that I knew would upset her or anything because I did not want to make her mad or for her to say no to me. Even though she was tough on me, she always has helped me out no matter what, and I am blessed that she has taken care of me for 17 years of my life. She did not have to and I am very thankful.
I always call my mom first before anyone else in life. My mother and I have always butted head in life as we disagree about how I should be living my life. My mother always taught me to be a free spirit and to be who I am. When I was growing up as a young boy I was taught by her that if you want to have something, go somewhere or do anything I needed to work hard for it and I could have it. This is something that has been hammered into my brain from a very young age, and it has stuck with me through my life till now.