While I would like to think that I am a very accepting person I know that I have judgements in the back of my head that color how I view the world and other people. I think this is definitely a skill that I need to work on more. In my experience, unconditional positive regard is very rare, and I can say that I only know a few people who are actually good at it. One person in my life who has developed their skill of unconditional positive regard is my stepdad. No matter what I tell him or how I act towards him, he is always the same.
He found the love and friendship that others yearn for, so those were not the driving force that caused him so much stress in his life. One would have to say there were no signs of Gump being stagnant. Even though some would consider Gump as developmentally slow
In Brave New World, there is no such thing as desire as Mustapha Mond, the controller, explains, “People are happy; they get what they want, and they never want what they can 't get...And if anything should go wrong, there 's soma” (Huxley 220). The government doesn’t understand that desire creates an appreciation for happiness, and when it is finally attained, it is a very strong emotion. When anything is handed to someone, as joy is in Brave New World, the value is drastically decreased. But, when there is anticipation or work is put in, the value will be justifiable. If Americans continue to rely on products for happiness, there will be no
This does not mean you have to be the perfect friend, but you have to at least try. We all try to be kind and joyful though we do fail often. If you have people who understand this, then that's great. If they don't, then too bad. It was their loss anyways, and people didn't repeat that saying for nothing.
I complemented people, encouraged them and just be a all around nice guy. The thing about being nice, some people don’t like it. As I became a more kind person I lost many friends. Most of them were not accepting to my new lifestyle. As always I would tell them I hope you become a more generous person, but usually it's a no, which is depressing.
While others don’t really have specific criteria or an organized plan, they just believe that happiness comes with living each day as if it was the last, with no worries about the rest. Personally, I find it in trying to be the best version of myself, in staying true to my principles, and in the same time in being able to make my own decisions; which reminds me of what George Loewenstein said “Just because we figure out that X makes people happy and they're choosing Y, we don't want to impose X on them.” Charles Bukowski once said in one of his letters “Find what you love, and let it kill you.” I strongly disagree with that. As a matter of fact, the greatest pleasure in life is being able to recognize what we really love and get to know how to live with it. Passions and dreams are what identifies our existence. If we were able to find them and concentrate on fulfilling them, we would realize that they are the only things that are worth living for.
It didn't matter that he is kinda fat, or not very good looking, or that he has no sense of humor, or that most of my friends don't like him. All that mattered was I knew that deep down he is a good person with a good heart, not to mention smart, honest, and responsible, all qualities I admire in a man. Not to mention the fact that I totally believe that friendships make a good foundation for a relationship, and that my ex-boyfriend was and is still one of my closest friends. So my feelings for this guy grew stronger while getting to know him better over the past year. Although none of my friends thought he was good enough for me (even the ones who are also friends with him), I would defend him, even when he was rude or acted like a jerk, because I knew he really was a good person at heart.
I always try to see the best in people and to never judge anyone by just their actions, but also by the reasons for their actions. In high school, it is rare to find someone of these qualities. I had many friends not just because I was kind, but because I was a great friend. To define yourself, you would have to know who you are as an individual and as a human being. During my high school years, I like most students would ask themselves ‘what kind of person am I?
In general, I am a very giving person, so even if my family or friends gave me something in return, I would not take it. I guess you can say that I have a lot of pride, but I give to people than to take from people. In addition, each random act of kindness that I accomplished, I changed everyone’s mood, which made their day better. I don’t think I did was life-changing, but I must progress in my kind-heartedness. One of my favorite quotes about kindness is from Liam Neeson, which he says, “I’m a big believer in acts of kindness, no matter how small”.
“Whenever you feel like criticizing anyone just remember that all the people in this world haven’t had the advantages that you’ve had.” Nick is a pretty tolerant person and tries not to judge people. Because of this he doesn’t say anything to Tom about his promiscuity or to Gatsby about his infatuation with Daisy. It’s also the reason he sees Jordan. She’s obviously dishonest but he overlooks it as a way of being tolerant. This is another reason why everyone likes him, he doesn’t say anything about their bad deeds.