For centuries, women have been labeled as the “house wife.” Many are raised knowing that becoming a mother and a wife is what is expected, however, women should not belong to the “classification of people known as wives” (Brady 441). In Judy Brady’s “I Want A Wife,” she speaks not only for herself, but for all the women who should be appreciated more and not just be a wife and a mother. The author emphasizes the jobs a woman accomplishes by stating, “I want a wife who will take care of my physical needs. I want
Traditionally, women during the 19th century were expected to submit to the patriarch of the house and obediently follow his commands and the commands of society. According to Elaine Fortin, writer of “Early Nineteenth Century Attitudes Toward Women,” society’s expectations of married women included catering to their husbands by caring for the children, performing household chores, and preparing all meals so their husbands could focus all of their attention “on the matters of the world.” To broaden this definition of a wife’s duties during the 19th century, Judy Brady, an activist for women’s rights and renowned author, said women had to satisfy their husbands sexually but refrained from soliciting sex, listened to their husband’s problems but did not complain of a “wife’s duties,” were good cooks, waited hand-and-foot on their husbands and their guests, babysat the children, and more in her essay “I Want A Wife.” As an effort to overturn the stereotypical view of women and their marginalization, two waves of feminist movements were organized in order to establish “Women’s Rights.” In today’s society, women’s rights have
Since most men have mothers to cater to their every need up until the time they move out, they have outrageous expectations of how a wife should act and what duties she should perform. Judy Brady, who is a wife and mother, wrote the essay "I Want a Wife" to explain what men want in a wife. She discusses the different skills a wife needs to possess for a man to consider her a good wife. Brady’s use of repetition, constant sarcasm, and defensive word choice throughout her essay makes it successful by relating to women’s frustrations of being a wife.
A popular essay written by Marilyn Yalom, "The Wife Today", focuses on the latest trends in the role of the wife against the background of traditional expectations. In her essay, Yalom argues that many common perceptions about today's women are inaccurate.
Judy Brady’s narrative style in “I want a wife” uses sarcasm quite effectively to portray her personal experience as a wife. She graphically details the conventional marital division of labor while subtly highlighting the inequities. However disparate these spousal duties seem to be, they form a nearly universal representation of a traditional household. Brady enumerates all the elements of a working household: the cooking, cleaning, organizing, scheduling and nurturing of family. She clearly implies that without a wife, the household would cease to function. Also, that the very label of “wife” brings with it all the duties and responsibilities listed.
“I belong to that classification of people known as wives, I am A Wife. And, not altogether incidentally, I am a mother’’. This quote stated by Judy Brady from the essay, “Why I Want a Wife”, shows that a wife and a mother are just as important as everyone else. Judy Brady feels that wives are not acknowledged enough from all the hard work they do. Judy Brady shows that wives are important and underappreciated by using rhetorical devices such as ethos, sarcasm, and exaggeration.
It is tremendously unfortunate that women are treated so ruthlessly in marriages that it leads to mental consequences. Glaspell illustrates, through the lens of Psychoanalytic Criticism in the sense that the woman becomes mentally tempered because of the way her husband treats her, a time when Hale is talking to Mrs. Peters regarding the wife’s mental health, “I wish you’d seen Minnie Foster when she wore a white dress with blue ribbons and stood up there in the choir” (152), stating the idea that before the woman gets married, she was full of life; however, when she does get married, she is treated very unfairly and soon has strange emotional effects. Gilman shows an instance when the wife is experiencing psychological effects, “the front pattern does move . . . the woman behind shakes it” (par. 189), explaining that because the wife is so fed up with the unequal way she is being treated and the fact that she has to stay in a room, she begins going insane. According to Harper and Sandberg while considering mental issues towards women in marriages, “martial process is a key player in the depression equation” (547); this explains the ideology that because some women are treated unfairly during marriage, psychological effects soon haunt the woman who is unhappy with the inequality. This is a prime example of an instance where psychological effects on women in marriages illustrate gender inequality. Moreover, emotional effects in marriages are explored, “partners who are able to find the closeness they needed in marriage were less likely to be depressed” (547). This explains the concept that because spouses are not “close,” regarding the fact that women are not treated equally, men treat women in a cruel manner and thus, cause women to be negatively harmed mentally because of how useless they feel, illustrating gender inequality.
As a woman she wants to be able to support herself and not depend on others, but she cannot because she has to do all the duties that are required as a wife and does not have time: “I would like to go back to school so that I can become economically independent, support myself, and if need be, support those dependent upon me” (229). Women were discriminated against, and their needs were not thought to be as critical as men’s and children’s. The wife is expected to take care of everyone else's needs before her own. Wives were supposed to get groceries, make meals, arrange schedules, do the shopping, and clean. Wives do not have time to do what they want and take care of their own needs because of those duties. Eventually, these duties turn into burdens to wives. Not only were wives expected to fulfill all those duties, but some were expected to have and keep another job outside the house to help provide for their families. As a man, they expected the wife to plan and arrange every fraction of the men's life: "I want a wife who will take care of the details of my social life. When I meet people at school that I like and want to entertain, I want a wife who will have
It isn’t easy being a doctor. Some of the most prestigious doctors in the world spend countless years studying and perfecting how to be of aid to people. They have to stay up late when their patients need them. They have to do everything in their power to save the day. Well, the same could be said about a wife. Wives, too, spend their time aiding each and every family member. They sacrifice all their time for their husband and kids’ needs. They do their best to keep everyone happy without expecting a simple thank you in return. Well, the same could be said about a slave. In Judy Syfers’ “Why I Want a Wife”, she displays the mistreatment and underappreciation of wives by portraying the as indentured servants through the use of anaphoras, repetition, and irony: all of which illuminate the pure mistreatment of wives by their husbands.
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Judy Brady’s brings attention to the oppression of women, by their husband, and the cultural acceptance and expectation of this mistreatment. Brady’s calculated emotional appeal, abundance of irony, and cautionary tone throughout her essay, “Why I Want a Wife,” carries her belief of women being the sole contributor to the husband’s success, and alerts her female audience of the abuse, with hope that they will ultimately defy the normalized exploitation of women.
Judy Syfers essay “I Want a Wife” is a perfect example of a feminist. Syfer gives her insight about the traditional gender roles for a woman in society. Syfer refers to the mans perspective on marriage to compose this essay, she provides specific details on what a wife should do. Throughout her paper, she emphasizes how a woman and a man should share the burden of the household. Syfer uses many rhetorical strategies to achieve her purpose on why she “wants a wife”. She uses pathos and anaphora to point her views to the audience.
In the 1970s most people had the opinion of the role of a woman is to stay at home and take care of the children and to do the everyday household chores. Only 40% of women during this time were taking part of the work force, the other 60% were staying at home tending to the “ Wifely duties”. During this time the women's rights movement began to start. This movement showed women the expectations and standards most people wanted them to be upholded to, many beleive this is why Judy Brady wrote her article called “ Why I Want a Wife” published in Ms. Magazine in 1972. Judy appeals to us as an audience by using ethos, logos, and pathos.
A. In this passage, Abilene is speaking to the reader and she is discussing her opinion on memories. When Abilene was discussing this, she was in her bedroom, thinking of her past life with Gideon. She speaking because she is recalling the happy memories she had when she was younger.
While opening her essay, Brady explains her situation as she was ironing one evening. She was reminiscing about a friend of hers who was fresh out of a divorce, who lost his child to his now ex-wife, and was looking for his next wife. Something suddenly occurred to her as a bizarre thought, she wants her own wife! She reverses the societal norm of a man and a woman, and uses that to catch her audience’s attention. Brady published her essay to a premier issue of