Bullies may have a bad home life. It is a huge cry for attention and help. They lack the love and affection that every child needs to feel happy, and they feel if they bring others down then they are above them. Their parents may work so much that they just seek their attention. They may be really frustrated with their family so they take it out on others.
Hitting a child is not the way parents should deal with a child’s naughty behavior no matter the circumstances. I know sometimes children can be very disobedient and stubborn, but when you present corporal punishment to a child what we you are really doing is hitting a child’s subconscious self-destruct button. There are many ways to discipline a child. Punishments like time outs, taking away toys, and denying them certain privileges are better forms of discipline. Many children suffer every day due to parents who practice, or abuse corporal punishment.
Spanking is used to correct children’s behavior, but, many people think that instead of bettering the child’s behavior it makes it worse. Spanking has been a huge issue in the past decades. Many children have been physically abused and many others have never experienced any physical harm. However, several people have been fighting so that spanking becomes against the law and so that the children have more rights and security. On the other hand, there are other parents that want spanking to be legal because they believe spanking has helped them correcting the child's behavior.
Abusing a child will only make them more rebellious and they will become violent in the future (Child Abuse and Neglect Recognizing and Preventing Child Abuse). By abusing a child, a parent is only creating a monster like them or a person who is out of touch with the world because they are too scared to trust anyone. Child abuse is not something that is easy to get over and it is very hard to live with. It is not something that I would ever do to my future children because I personally know what it is
In the end, it leads me to believe that if children are spanked after misbehaving, they will continue to grow up believing that violence is ultimately the answer. It has been said that “spanking trains children ‘in violence and domination’, even when it’s moderate” (Saunders 1)... ... middle of paper ... ...dults/parents are beating the snot out of their children with means other than a swat on the bottom, there probably shouldn’t be any law enforcers involved. Even though most people are split on the issue, the fact still stands that spanking and child abuse tends to go hand-in-hand with violence in the future. When you hear of someone disciplining a child, you typically assume the child got a spanking. It’s actually really sad that we, as humans, assume that.
Spanking the Disciplinary Method Spanking is a disciplinary act that has been used by parents for years now. It does not seem like a big deal at the time, but spanking does have long term effects that can affect the child even when he or she is a adult. Spanking whether it is appropriate for parents or any guardian of a child should be allowed to spank their child or not. There is a lot of controversy because parents say kids need to be disciplined when they are behaving badly. Others say parents shouldn 't spank their child because they long-term outcome is worse and they are not teaching the child a lesson.
﻿“Can parenting or child rearing be non-punitive?” Is one of the most common questions that parents ask. If spanking is so effective, why do most people have such an uneasy feeling about it? Some how we cannot silence our inner doubts about the long term effects of physical punishment. We are a little embarrassed by the use of force and we keep saying to ourselves, “”here ought to be a better way of rearing children.” Another reason is, within ourselves, no one wants to be hit. While hitting releases anger and frustration, and might work in the short-term, what parents really want is for children to be self controlled and disciplined.
Another point made in the article is that parents either hit or yell at a child is because there are times when a child is crying and the parent cannot deal with it much longer. Some parents will justify hitting or yelling with the excuse, "that it is a productive form of discipline. It is good for my child to learn that they cannot get away with it. It will help them in the future." In all reality, parents do this because they know it will stop the unwanted behavior.
Even though many of the parents claimed that reasonable and responsible disciplines can be recognized as a good way to take care of a child. Many families choose physical punishment when children are misbehaving, but physical punishment can cause children to lose their trust in parents because children feel betrayed by the parent. Children are not mature enough to understand the reason for physical punishment. The only message that they receive from spanking is: the closest people to them are punishing them and it hurts; this will produce psychological changes after the punishment. In the article; Barker wrote, “To have the person you are most dependent on turn against you is a psychological blow you don’... ... middle of paper ... ...ly really is.
In today’s society, we all need just a little push and that may come from parents, friends, or bullies. This push is necessary in order to mentally prepare children and teenagers alike for the world which is full of mean and disrespectful people. This world has no place for those who have a weak mind or cannot muster up the strength to assert their will. When I say that people need a push, I do not necessarily mean a positive one. When people think of bullying in a modern context they think of a group of children surrounding a single child throwing insult after insult while getting physically abused.