Strict Parenting vs. Submissive Different cultures and social groups all have different ways to raise children. Some parents have a restrictive way while other parents may come off as lenient to their children. Although both ways of parenting may seem correct to those parents, the effects of how the children grow up may or may not be good. When raising a child it is always important to maintain a balance between strict parenting and submissive parenting to ensure a better development of mental, behavioral and academic qualities in a child.
.First and foremost ,strict parenting in many ways is considered as a form of parenting that comes off as too harsh. Many at times people believe that this type of parenting does not give room for a
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Unlike strict parenting, it gives room for children to express themselves accordingly without any fear. Children under this sort of authority gain confidence in themselves. They carry a mentality that it's okay to fail sometimes and that nobody's perfect but when a person “falls” they must pick themselves up again. Another positive effect of permissive parenting is that parents accept or embrace individuality. They are supportive of their child's decisions and choices in life which allows the child to learn for him or herself. However this type of parenting is not always best for a child. For example, Children who are not under a strong guidance from their guardian tend to follow peer pressure and bad influence. Because their parents don't really keep an eye , children look for that needed guidance from their friends. Sadly some kids as a result get pulled into drinking, smoking, drug addiction and being sexually active at a very young age. Consequently, a child's life now becomes destroyed all because the parents lack the necessary supervision. Additionally, children who are under this specific household don't usually get pushed by their parents to do good. That is why many of those children grow up to be unproductive or in other terms slackers. They just don't know how to do things for
However, in this type of parenting style, authoritative parents are more responsive to their child, more willing to listen to questions and more forgiving rather than punishing when their child fail to meet expectations. These parents are more supportive, rather than punitive, also, they focus on making their child confident and socially responsible.(Baumrind, 1966). In authoritarian parenting style, children are expected to follow the strict rules and regulation established by the parents. The parents are too demanding and directive but not really responsive towards their children. They are also status-orientated and children are expected to obey their rules without any explanations (Baumrind, 1991). Then, there is the permissive parenting style in which the parents rarely discipline their child because they have low expectations of maturity and self-regulation. Permissive parent is more responsive, non-traditional and lenient towards their child. They are nurturing and very open with their child (Baumrind, 1991). Lastly, neglectful parenting style is those parents who have both low demandingness and responsiveness towards their children. These parents are generally detached from their child’s life and in some cases; they may even reject or neglect their child’s needs (Maccoby & Martin,
In permissive parenting, the guardians are more of the child’s friends and not a disciplinary figure. Permissive parenting embraces avoiding confrontation and being lenient as the key to success. Imagine a trip to the grocery store. You are walking down the cereal isle and you approach a child screaming because he wants his favorite marshmallow filled cereal, rather than a healthier choice. Fulfilling the child’s want in order to appease the child, rather than being assertive and making a healthier choice is a perfect example. A second contrast of permissive parenting is expectations of education. We saw that in authoritarian parenting an A plus grade is expected. The dissimilarity between parenting techniques would be that a B minus would bring praise in permissive household. This is similar to how I was raised. As a child, my siblings and I were expected to achieve good grades but that did not translate into an A plus on every exam. Our academic achievements were to be considered excellent and praiseworthy even if we brought home a B on a test. In hindsight, if we were to earn a C in a class we could expect some sort of restriction and forced remedial training in that area. Permissive parenting is a style of parenting that yields lower expectations and lenient rules for children. This parenting technique embracing fun and friendship between guardian and the child is believed to foster a positive environment for the child to succeed in
This type of parenting is very warm and accepting, but lacks structure and control. These parents do not have many rules and let their kids get away with anything. There are two extremes as to why parents act this way. One way is that parents are seen to try to be more of a friend to their kids than a parent because they are out of touch with their child’s generation. Another excuse for permissive parenting is when parents claim they do not have time to exert control over their children because of external factors such as work. Kids that come from these backgrounds can be seen as impulsive, dependent, disobedient and rebellious. These children from permissive households seem to do poorer in school and have trouble with social skills as well. An example of permissive parenting is seen in the movie “Mean Girls” When the mom tries to be friends with all of her daughter’s friends. The mom in the movie is more concerned with being a part of the gossip than actually trying to parent her child properly. The mom gets her daughter everything she wants and has no rules or regulations. These lead to her daughter’s awful and mean behavior in the movie because her mother never taught that the world did not revolve around her and acting out was not acceptable in society. In my experience, I have known some families that act similarly to the mom in mean girls. I went to a
This style of parenting is best described as the child having more control over the parent. There are a lot of parents today that seem to have no control of their child actions and even words. This in which can make the parents question what are they doing wrong when it comes to raising their child. This type of parent have very low demands and are highly responsive, maybe even too responsive to the child’s needs. Although these parents are very loving of their children they do not have many rules that their child should abide by (Cherry, K. 2017, para.1). Not setting ground rules gives the child the freedom to do whatever they want and know that they will not receive a harsh, if any punishment at all. Also, parents who are permissive tend to want to be their child’s best friend. The child in this parent in child relationship tends to have more control than the parent. If there are not any rules in place to be followed the child will eventually resort to negative behaviors, and may even be insure because of the low discipline from their parents (Cherry, K. 2017, para. 9). Permissive parents should give the child rules to follow and discipline them if broken, to ensure that their child follow the right path throughout
The type of approach to discipline a child that the parents use have a dramatic impact on their relationship between them and the child’s development to adulthood. Research have found that there are four major types of parenting styles depending on what parents think the child needs from them. These are authoritarian, authoritative, permissive and uninvolved. The purpose is to explain the difference between them and the effect on their child development.
Overpowering sternness leads may lead to a rebellious child, while passive parenting may lead children to inept for the challenges of adulthood. Parenting requires more than teaching children submissiveness, or building of self-importance. Children learn best from a role model who is admirable. Parenting is a great opportunity to set the course of one’s entire life in the right direction.
An example can be if Timmy decides he wants to go to a party on Friday. His parents tell him he has to be back by 9:00 pm. He gets angry and decides to come back home at 11:00 pm. When he gets home his parents punish him by beating him with a stick. They do not explain to him why they are hitting him or they do not take the time to ask why he has arrived home late. As a result to this form of discipline the children usually react quickly and do not make an attempt to negotiate with their parents in fear that they will receive more discipline. The outcome of this type of parenting style is that the child usually becomes unfriendly, anxious, distrusted, and withdrawn. Most of them also have a low self-esteem. A positive outcome is that the child becomes academically successful beca...
Each parent is different; they all have different ways in parenting and disciplining their children. One’s own parenting style is usually derived from the way one was raised or the society one lives in. Parenting styles include authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive, and it is very important to know which style one falls in because it can have an effect on how one’s child grows up to be and develops. Authoritative parenting would be the better parenting style because it is in the middle of the parenting styles; it is not at the extreme ends of the spectrum. It can be very beneficial to parents to understand that how one raises their children can give them a foundation for good development for years to come.
Well first off to discuss the advantages and disadvantages of the parenting styles between the Harsh-Hearts and the Easy-Goings, their styles of child rearing must be categorized first. Child-rearing are combinations of parenting behaviors that occur over a wide range of situations. There are four different categories of combinations in child-rearing: authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and uninvolved. After studying these two different cases, it can be declared that Mr. and Mrs. Harsh- Heart use an authoritarian child-rearing approach while the Easy- Goings use the authoritative child-rearing style. Authoritarian child-rearing is “low in acceptance and involvement, however high in coercive control, and low in autonomy granting.” (Laura 216)Authoritarian parents have a lot of punishment and usually resort in spanking for discipline. The parents are the boss, there are rules, its tyrannical, there’s structure, and the parents are directive. Meanwhile on the other hand, authoritative is the complete opposite and it is said to be the most successful approach. Authoritative child-rearing “involves high acceptance and involvement, ad...
This style is a wonderful approach to raising a child. The authoritative parent is a reasonable parent who establishes rules that are to be followed but will discuss the effects a child's choices and his or her consequences. Authoritative parents are also able to adjust their expectations for each individual child according to their child's personality and temperament. As a mom of three children, I can relate to this type of child rearing. I would like to say that this is my style because I do expect a lot out of my children and I make very clear their expectations, but I also love them more than anything, am sensitive to each of their particular needs and have a wonderful one-on-one relationship with each of them. I, agree wholeheartedly, that each child needs to have different expectations placed on them based on their particular personality and temperament. My youngest son is extremely sensitive. If I just look at him with an upset look on my face, he knows he is in trouble and starts to cry. My older daughter, on the other hand, is stubborn and bossy, and of course knows everything! It takes an entirely different approach to "get through to her" then it does my youngest son. Another interesting aspect of the authoritative parenting style is that authoritative parents gradually allow their children more and more responsibility, allowing their child to "grow up." This, I believe, is an extremely part
The style of parenting with which children are raised can profoundly affect their social development, as well as their abilities to deal with life situations as adults. Parents who follow the permissive style of parenting have very few rules, no consistent limits, and more often than not give in to their children.. In a permissive family, the children are in charge.
This parenting style is high on warmth and child-to-parent communication. They are very low on discipline, structure, parent-to-child communication, and low on expectation. At times children will act out just to get the necessary attention that they are deprived from at home. Permissive parents take orders and instructions from their children, are passive, endow children with power. There is minimal discipline, and they do not feel responsible for how their children turn out. Ironically, these children turn out to be the unhappiest of all. They are more likely to exhibit psychological problems like anxiety and depression. These children sadly are more likely to commit violence, and engage in antisocial behavior. Research links permissive parents with delinquency, substance abuse, and sexual
This paper will explore the strict parenting whether it has positive effects or negative effects on children. Before I begin my discussion, I want to ask you a question. How do you define an authoritarian parent? In response to this question, you can think about someone who has a complete control over his or her children. According to Kendra Cherry, the author of “What Is Authoritarian Parenting?”, she explains that, “Authoritarian Parenting is a style characterized by high demands and low responsiveness.” In this sentence, authoritarian parenting, also known as helicopter parenting, is parents who force their children to follow their needs without any explanations, so their children must be under their regulations even though children do not
This parenting style is very undemanding but also very responsive. Permissive parents tend to shower their children with love and affection and involve themselves in their lives. However, they tend to have few to no rules and limitations and therefore have no expectations for their children. They exert a lax pattern of parenting in which they make relatively few demands, permit their children to freely express their feelings and impulses, do not closely monitor their children’s activities, and rarely exert firm control over their behavior (Shaffer & Kipp, 2013). This type of parenting style is not the most beneficial but also not the most negative. The fact that permissive parents make an effort to be involved is a good sign however, the lack of structure is not entirely the best parenting technique. They seem to focus more on being their child’s friend then being their child’s parent. Because of this, they raise children with less favorable developmental outcomes. Not only are they impulsive and aggressive who come off as rude but they also tend to be spoiled and self centered with very little
As parents one only want the best for their children. Therefore, one sometimes tend to come off as strict parents. Parents that only want the best for their children try to teach them respect and mold them into bright, intelligent individuals. Nowadays, the way you appear and carry yourself if very important. Parents who do not let their child participate in some events only does this because one is looking out for their children. Parents are sometimes strict because, one does not want their child to stray away, one does not want their child to make the same mistakes as one did when one was younger, and to teach discipline.