When I moved from New York to Texas I left behind the most important thing: love. I had been dating Franky for a year when I up and moved south. It was a really sad parting for us both, but we decided to continue our relationship as long-distance to see how it would work out. However, I knew deep down that it would not last very long. Long-distance relationships are hard, and the chances of them failing are great. Needless to say, the odds were not in our favor and our relationship ended four months afterwards. The causes that led to Franky and I’s failed long-distance relationship were numerous. One of the reasons why our relationship failed is the most common: lack of communication. The first couple of months we would talk every night before going to bed, either on the phone or using the face-to-face chatting on Skype. It was sort of romantic. We would schedule dates where we would watch the same movie together, or go for long walks while talking on the phone, or even make dinner, dress up, and eat together while face chatting on Skype. Later on life just started getting in the way...
Becoming the person I am today and overcoming all the roadblocks and detours life has thrown at me, was not easy. An epiphany that has helped change me into a more independant woman, transpired in the office of a dealership. At that moment is when it dawned on me that I’d officially entered adulthood. My significant other, however, sees my move from New York to Connecticut as my most significant and life changing experience. Both of our perspectives were definitely important milestones in my life, but one seemed to tip the scale more than the other .
Then to make a long story short we fell in love, love formed on the most powerful shared trauma. We both decided we couldn't stand to live here anymore. She agreed to give up her elaborate lifestyle for something more simpler and is taking up motherhood very nicely, I could use a little work on the other hand. We both live in maryland now. Our new house is a bit bigger that the one I had at East Egg, yet still smaller than the other houses around it, but it's ours. I'm writing again, as you can see by reading this. Were taking care of Daisy and Tom’s little girl. She's not a fool, she’ll never be a fool. I love my new life, it fits me, but i'll never forget my life in new york, i mean how could anyone forget that. I'll never forget. Daisy comes to me often asking me questions I dont have the answer to
Physically communicating and connecting with a person will never compare to texting or any social media. There comes a time where as human beings we need someone physically here with us whether we need advice, support, or just someone to express our feelings to. In Ashton Kutcher’s article “Has Texting Killed Romance?” Kutcher discusses how romance has changed because of technology updates and how it has hindered relationships.
I met him at the Hawthorne high-school’s orientation. October 3, 2012, was the official date and months of being with him, for the first time ever he made me feel something I’ve never felt before. He was the first guy I ever came to love. I can go on about this, but I’m not going into detail about what happened those years. Let’s just wrap up that story to the simple truth, he left me. I had invested all my time and attention towards him, that I began to care less about school. I was never expecting it, or maybe I was. It hurt. Looking at him hurt. I remember coming home and crying my heart out. I was devastated. It was something I’ve never wanted to experience. I sobbed and sobbed that night, and gripped onto my pillow and shouted into them, hiding the cries. I felt empty when I awoke the next day. My eyes were swollen, and I felt an empty void. I felt dead. We didn’t speak to each other after that. Months passed, and I was keeping myself occupied with work and friends, I finally was learning how to move on, on my own. I finally came to find my happiness through realization. They say somethings happen for a reason. It’s either a
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...nship and the time our relationship was great was when we had good communication. And because of our good relationship I know that she wants to marry me and I want to marry her and we know it will happen one of these days. We will get married and start a family but with out great communication we probably wouldn’t know or be with each other today.
A week goes by and we did not communicate, face-to-face or by text. I thought long and hard about what I wanted to do in this relationship. I talked to my friends and they said I should give him another chance and see if things change, so I did. We dated for about another two months and I decided this is not what I wanted. I felt no attraction to him anymore and I felt miserable when I was around
A girlfriend of mine once defended me to her father by saying, calmly, “Not every one who wanders is lost.” The dad kicked me out of the house anyway. But the damage had been done. Not everyone who wanders is lost. Of course I had to see her again. That was during the summer after my second year in college, and when I decided to leave school the following winter, I had but one destination in mind. Except that I was heading to Kansas City, where I figured jobs were easier to come by, instead of Wichita, 200 miles to the south, where she was living and asking me to go.
The term “homesickness” refers to the functional impairment or the distress, which is precipitated by an anticipated or actual separation from what one is familiar with. Occasionally, homesickness can be severe, and hence, it is viewed in the context of the adjustment disorders by the American Psychiatric Association mode of classification. Specifically, homesickness is characterized by depressed mood and anxiety. One can easily distinguish homesickness from related anxiety disorders due to the unique presentation of recurring thoughts focused on home, namely loved ones, house, homeland, pets, home cooking, and a wish to return home. Homesickness can affect negatively one’s cognition, behavior, emotions, and physical condition to an extent of warranting clinical attention (Thurber and Walton 3). The purpose of writing this paper is to discuss the topic of homesickness as it has had adverse effects on me while at school.
First I want to talk about sacrafices people tend to make for love. Acoording to an article from the Greater Good, it’s not rare for a serious relationships to require moving away from were one lives to help there partner presue a career. But moving away a is a major sacrifice; it usaly means leaving friends, family and a job. Doing this means leaving an entire life behind for one person. Although in some cases it’s understandable that one would be happy to do this for someone they deeply cared for, it should be remembered that not that many of these relashonships do not work out.
...e,” because he didn’t want my senior year to revolve around someone I can barely see. His detachment reached the point of no response, and he ceased communication all together, saying “It was needed for us to move on until college.” To this day I still love him, and I know he still loves me. He wants the best for me, and although it is painful because I cannot hear his voice, it’s truly what I need. “I will be there at the airport the day you arrive at your future college, I love you forever and always.” These were the last words that I heard from him, harsh, yet caring. To this day I still love him, and try to move on, but no one seems to even come close to this amazing person. “Love at first sight” I once believed as a fools quote, but today I see it as the most amazing thing in the world, something that is achieved by pure chance and luck, only experienced by few.
It’s hard for relationships that are composed by persons that are active on social media because when they are so active they are unable to talk with their partner they always solve their problem by social media like Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat and Instagram. Anything they saw on social media that they don’t like they start arguing about it but they always get a fight thru their cellphone by text messages they never do it face to face. According to the article “My Phone Killed My Relationship” by Stolz Kim, he wrote, “every time she saw something she found suspicious, she would text me demanding answers” (179). This is an example of people that are so active on social media instead of having a conversation face to face they prefer to go through the social media to solve their
Without moving to Florida, I wouldn’t have this one distinctive friendship. I believe that everything happens for a reason, and evidentially in this specific case. Through this one friendship, I developed my love for the Lord. I became closer to God than ever before. I became immensely tolerant, unconditionally loveable and utterly forgiving. I forgave my dad for putting me through all of these imbricating situations. I learned that my narcissistic ways were impulsive and I needed to be selfless. I became closer to my dad, and he is the closest person to me
Throughout the years endless amount of research has been done regarding communication in a romantic long distance relationship. Many scholars state that a long distance relationship consists of a couple who lives separated from one another (Neustadeter & Greenberg 2011). However, numerous other scholars define this type of relationship as a limitation in the daily togetherness of two individuals who would like to be together more than they can be, as well as, them only being able to communicate through technology (Billedo, Kerkhof, Finkenauer 2015; Brody 2013). There are new definitions that are slightly different being created every single day depending on the situation, location, time frame, and scholar presenting the information.