Listening is a vital element of communication and it is very much different from hearing sense of human. A meaningful communication requires both a good listener and a speaker. However, the effect of a listening style may vary depending on the occasions and situations a listener is in. Sometimes, speaker exhibit ineffective style such as defensiveness, ambushing, pseudo-listening, stage hogging and selective listening in their communication tracks.
I am a good listener because I pay my whole attention to the speaker commentswho comes to me so they can be heard. People like to know they have been heard and I can do that job very well but hearing and truly listening are two different things. In my opinion, listening engage you to hear what the speaker says and asses you to response with your opinion so that they know their voices have been heard.
Listening is a skill that shouldn’t be taken underrated. My good listening habits came from my parents. I have adapted this listening sense after them. To further classify my listening habits I found myself to be a supportive listener. I care what the speaker has to say positive or negative, I will give them my full support without being bias at the time. I think that someone come to you knowing that you would back them up 100% in any given situations. I do that to make them comfortable opening up in front of me and I found that is effective in gaining their confidence to hear them without any inhibitions in their thought process.
I think that communication without attentiveness or promptness is like a buffet without food. It is one of the basic and compulsoryelements that a good listener can have in their personality.It is for a good listener in the conversation to make...
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What feedback do you receive from others in terms of your listening style, habits and effectiveness? Be specific.
Mostly, the feedback I get from my fellows who know me well would say that I am a good listener. Because I give people time, attention, and encouragement so they can get their message across effectively. I adjust my communication style if I feel that I am losing the other person's attention in my conversation. I openly demonstrate that I appreciate getting feedback from other people so if I need to amend my listening behavior to be more effective among my fellows than I do so. I assert to have an effective communication with my speakerto be understood; to gain acceptance for each other and/or for our ideas; and to produce action or change in our behavioral thoughts.
James C. Petersen (2007), author of Why Don’t We Listen Better, offers practical advice on how to communicate effectively and connect with others. In order to help his readers, communicate effectively, Petersen (2007) divides his book into five divisions. Each division builds on the content in the preceding portions. Every segment provides a great amount of information, which will aid people in how they choose to communicate.
Listening and responding to others has a major role to play in good communication and as such, satisfy their own purposes in life. People communicate with each other for getting information across, for learning and evaluating purposes, for listening and observation purposes or for mere enjoyment or recreation. However, it is a well known fact, that no two people listen, communicate or respond in the same way, and we know that it is true because research in the field has proved that it is so. According to
“There are a few who know how to listen and I have not met anyone who can do so like you,” (105). This was Siddhartha complimenting Vasudeva on his listening skills. I think of myself as a fairly good listener because my definition of a good listener is someone who can listen to what someone is saying and comprehend what they are saying and not always giving feedback, but rather showing them that you listened and know what they are saying. When I was in my Freshman year, I had a friend who was having some trouble, trouble being mental. She talked to me in physical science, that being our only class together, and i would just listen to her talk about her issues. I knew when she wanted me to say something back, but really I think she just wanted someone to talk to. Siddhartha and I both are either good listeners or aspire to be good
A vital aspect of interpersonal communication is the style in which one listens. While every individual possesses their own preferred method of listening in communication, it can be enlightening to analyze our own strengths and weaknesses so as to maximize effectual communication. Within the confines of four main listening style categories, I have chosen those which best describe my own personal listening style.
I have found that whole heartedly listening is a very important step to communicating. Listening to give a verbal response is not what communication is about. Listening is important to understand someone and their situation in order to help them and respond well. Listening is a part of being open-minded. I hope to continue to learn to communicate with others in a way that I can listen to them properly and be open-minded to their ideas that are different than mine. Occasionally others have ideas that I would never have thought of and being open to other ideas and trying the ideas of those around me can help lead to a better experience.
Whenever someone hears the word “listening”, they likely think of hearing what other people are saying. However; listening is far more than just hearing what someone is saying. There is a difference between listening and hearing. Hearing is the physiological occurrence when soundwaves hit a human’s eardrum. On the other hand, listening is more complex because the process contains being mindful, receiving the message, selecting and organizing the message, interpreting the message, responding and remembering the message. Mindfulness is giving someone your undivided attention when they are speaking. This is definitely something that I need to improve on, especially when I am talking on the phone. My dad is a truck driver so we mainly communicate through the phone and sometimes
Communication in all relationship can be successful when our listener get the message that we want to convey and it is not so much about what we want to say. Listening is a unique process because it involves psychological and voluntary process that goes beyond simply reacting to sounds. It includes understanding, analyzing, evaluating, and responding. As a human, we will use different listening styles, depending on our preferences and purposes. Listening styles refer to the different ways people listen and analyze the content of a conversation. Usually, these styles either have to do with the way listeners choose to receive the message or with how they analyze the message. Listening is very important because we listen in order to establish and communicate power. There are few types of listening that can be used in order to communicate effectively.
When the speaker has the full attention, the listener can concentrate on hearing what the speaker has to say. The speaker has to feel appreciated that you are taking your time to fully understand their point of view. I believe that appreciation and affirmation go hand in hand. The speaker has to feel grateful for taking the time to listen before mutual understanding or affirming occurs. Good listening occurs when there are no distractions and interruptions. An ideal setting where I have been in a good conversational environment includes a quiet space where there is not a lot of sound and I can talk with the person one on one. A poor setting I have encountered is when I am trying to speak to someone who was preoccupied in a television show. Although the two people engaged in a conversation can be in an ideal conversational setting, it can still lead to an argument when people react emotional to what is being
As The Gift of Listening describes, “Opening one’s heart and listening at a deep level does not come easily and is rarely achieved simply by life experience” (Browning & Waite, 2010, p. 151) There are different aspects to being a good listener that are often difficult to achieve and lead to poor listening. One significant challenge to listening is the attention needed in order to actively listen to another person. Proper listening does not occur due to a passive process but instead it takes deliberate action and thought towards what a person in saying. Like previously stated, actively listening is achieved by sitting in a comfortable and open way and maintaining good eye contact. When a person does not exhibit these techniques good listening often does not occur. The challenge of utilizing different techniques in order to listen to others in a better way often gets blocked by barriers that make active listening unable to occur. In our society today one major barrier to listening is technology. In a casual setting, proper listening often doesn’t occur due to someone being tied to their cell phone. The millennial generation is often guilty of passively listening to others due to the mobile technology that is being used today. Many conversations occur without eye contact or full focus on what the other has to say and instead is spent staring at a
In terms of my listening strengths, I do a good job at making and maintaining eye contact with people. Specifically, this helps me stay focused and listen to what the person speaking is saying. I do not become distracted with external factors and pay attention to the person and the conversation. I think that eye contact is important because it gives a non-verbal message that you are listening and are hearing what is being said. This listening skill occurs daily; whether it be in a meeting where I am introduced or talking to a client, in class listening to my professor, or at home with my family.
I have a probing communication style. When I am face to face with people I often forget material I wanted to mention if it is not written down. My listening skills are good. When I am talking, if I am permitted to lead the conversation my listening skills suffer. However, if the other person does most of the talking I listen fairly well.
In all aspects in life effective listening plays an important role in our lives, both professionally and personally. As many of know from experience listening is never easy in fact it can be difficult to understand what is being said by the speaker. Because of laps in attention we tend to misunderstand some of the messages that are being relayed to us or disregard them altogether. Effective listening is important for receiving the correct feedback from those you’re speaking with and requires a focus that should be central to what is being said or what topic is being discussed.
To be effective listeners, the listening process should be incorporated into our lives. We should be attentive to what people say, clarify what the speaker is trying to come across, and respond in a way the speaker can understand what we are saying. I think I was aware that I needed some improvement in certain areas of this process but I feel as everything is slowly changing. In the future, I’m going try not to interrupt people, get distracted, tune out, and try to get a bigger picture of what the person is telling me. If good listening habits are applied in our day-to-day life, we can easily communicate with anyone and everyone.
One of the main aspects in communicating is listening. An effective listener is one who, not only comprehends how the speaker feels but, also understands what they are stating. Building a strong connection between the speaker and the listener is one of the first steps to become a good listener. By building this connection speakers should first be in an environment with open minded listeners, it makes them feel more comfortable to state their opinions, feelings and ideas. Listeners should avoid being judgmental. The individual does not have to agree with the ideas, values or opinions of the speaker; however, to fully understand them, one must put aside their criticism. Speakers will believe that they can trust the listeners with their information when they know that they will not be judged. Miscommunication happens frequently, listene...
1)Active Listening: Giving full attention to what other people are saying, taking time to understand the points been made, asking questions as appropriate, and not interrupting at inappropriate times.