“Sealed by a kiss and a pair of eternal rings” (How) is what soime people may think of when talking about marriage, while for others the first word that pops into their head is divorce. The topic of divorce is a nasty thing, it brings bad feelings and thoughts, and can often ruin a person’s day. What most people do not think about though, are the many different ways divorce can affect everyone, not just the spouses. Of course the first people the typical person would think of is the husband and wife as the ones effected by the split, but it touches many more people than that, in a number of ways, such as mutual friends and extended family. The process alone to get divorced can take a very long time and have a huge emotional toll most don’t …show more content…
There are five major steps when it comes to getting a divorce. There is “Filing a Petition” where the couple must meat “the separation requirements”. Following is notifying the other spouse by having them “served.” Next will be the “Temporary Hearing” where they “establish temporary child or spousal support.” This is followed by the “Agreement” or the final decisions made in order to “settle all maternal issues”. Then finally a “Trail” where the final details are decided by a judge very shortly after all material is presented (Obringer). As if this process isn’t enough of a toll, there are also many other changes each spouse must go through in order to begin a new life as a single person again. A few of the adjustments include money, career changes, and emotional tolls. For some families going from a two person income to one can change their accustomed life style where “money becomes a significant problem.” This can lead to work problems where the exosystem, links between a social setting as stated in the Life-Span textbook by the Bronfenbrenner Ecological Theory, is effected and the spouse could become “less focused at work” or even loss their job, or become forced to find something with a better pay, though less enjoyable, so they will be able to provide for their families. These two things alone often cause major …show more content…
They are the ones who are force to sit back and listen to all the shouting, harsh words, and even abuse being exchanged between their parents. Not to mention what is said and done to the children who are innocent and helpless toward the situation, not being able to do a single thing without someone speaking on their behalf. A divorce effects a child so much more than is given credit for, whether the effects be good or bad, they are inevitably exposed to the effects. Being surrounded by all the heated emotions, children often tend to act out in different behavioral ways. Some become involved in drug abuse, and are exposed to “higher rates of suicide.” Performance in “reading, spelling, and math” may begin to suffer along with the gradual dropping of “Religious worship”(Rector) in many families. The child may believe he or she is the reason for the fighting and in tern the divorce not knowing what they can do to improve the situation and make everything as it was once before. This can cause them to “feel sucked into a vortex of loneliness, guilt, and fear”(divorcesource). The macrosystem, involves culture in which individuals live as stated in the Life-Span textbook by the Bronfenbrenner Ecological Theory, is the most effected in a child’s life. Which a child feeling these emotions can suffer when it comes to their education. They often cause problems in the classroom by lashing out when a teacher gets
Along with these feelings of rejection, the spouse who wanted to stay married also often feels betrayed. Their partner vowed to love and honor them forever, and to stand by them in sickness and in health, and to devote their lives to them. With divorce, all of that is taken away. Those promises of love, fidelity, and companionship are broken, by the choice of the spouse pursuing the divorce. In contrast, when d...
Divorce has stressors for both the parents and the children in the marriage. This can be seen in a study conducted by Jennifer M. Weaver and Thomas J. Schofield. For this study intact and divorced families were observed. Three main things were observed when doing the study, the income of the family before the divorce, children’s IQ as well as the mother’s predivorce sensitivity (Weaver & Schofield, 2014). The results confirmed the hypothesis that “children from divorced families had significantly more behavior problem than peers from intact families” (Weaver & Schofield, 2014, p.45). As it is seen, the stressors that come along with a divorce is a child’s behavioral problems and the economic well-being of the family. Divorce brings the stressor of economic well-being, for a single mother because if before the divorce, they were of low income, now they may struggle a bit
Divorce becomes unpleasing, but also the best option for the family. Kingsolver claims, “Disassembling a marriage in these circumstances is as much fun as amputating your own gangrenous leg. You do it if you can, to save a life-or two, or more.” (Kingsolver, 2014, p. 222). The majority of the time divorce takes place, it becomes a necessary break. Kingsolver describes divorce as amputating a gangrenous leg. The leg, if left intact, will slowly shut down the body. A family is considered a body, and each member of the family has responsibilities, such as the body. When a certain part of the body destroys the other parts, elimination rolls into effect to save the remaining family body. Not only does divorce lead to a broken bond in the spouses, it also leads to broken friendships. Rather than being shunned, divorced families should receive love. Kingsolver claims, “In the wake of my divorce, some friends (even a few close ones) chose to vanish.” (Kingsolver, 2014, p. ?). Kingsolver during, and after her divorce, lost many of what she believed were her best friends. Sadly, some friends decide to leave during a time when friends should be near; divorce, especially during the beginning, hurts. Why would anyone want to receive the outcomes of divorce, such as losing friends, and family? Divorce becomes necessary. Anyone, in his or her right mind, would only go
Divorce is and has become a major issue in our society, the reason for that has been attributed to the drastic increase in divorce rates over the years. Divorce often disrupts the flow of the family structure, increases discord, and affects how family issues are handled. Families dealing with divorce are often times in a state of complete confusion and disorder, and filled with frustration, anger, and pain. Power struggles between spouses, which often times spread to the children if there any increase as the addiction worsens. There is a growing concernment among those in different fields like Social Work, Academia, and Mental Health in the United States, other countries, who have taken an interest in how divorce is readjusting
Many Americans would be shock to learn that “in America, there is one divorce approximately every 36 seconds. That’s nearly 2,400 divorces per day, 16,800 divorces per week and 876000 divorces a year” (32 Shocking). Divorce causes many negative effects and has become too accepted in society. Children and parents are affected physically through the divorce process. There are psychological effects for the members of the family that are involved. The negative impacts on the family’s future life should be taken into consideration.
Divorce should be harder to obtain due to the effect that it has on children the main effect it has on the children is depression. “ In the short term divorce is always troublesome for children Mavis Hetherington videotaped and scrutinized the workings of 1400 divorced families since the early 1970’s. Hetherington pinpoints a crisis period of about two years in the immediate aftermath of separation when the adults, preoccupied with their own lives, typically takes their eye off parenting just when their children are reeling from loss and feeling bewildered” (Hethrington 2). This article states that the short term effect of divorce affects the kid deep because they feel that they lost one forever and in those 1400 many of the kids felt the effect of the divorce. “Wallerstein has told us that divorce abruptly ends kids’ childhood, filling it with loneliness and worry about their parents, and hurting them prematurely and recklessly into adolescence. (Wallerstein 2).” This later affects the kids life because they try to think of happy memories they had but really all they can think about is the parent that they loss due to the divorce. “Contrary to the popular perceptions, the alternative to most divorces is not life in a war zone. Though more than 50 percent of all marriages currently end in divorce, experts tell us that only about 15 percent of all unions involve high levels of conflict. In the vast number of divorces, then, there is no gross strife or violence that could warp a youngster’s childhood. The majority of marital break-ups are driven by a quest for greener grass—and in these cases the children will almost always be worse off. (Zinsmeister 2)” this proves to me that when people get a divorce they most of the time don’t ...
“A divorce is like an amputation: you survive it, but there's less of you.” In the words written above by well-known poet and novelist Margaret Atwood, I believe she makes a clear depiction of brokenness that occurs in the divorce process. I believe this quote sets the framework of what is true amongst most divorces. Divorces have become more frequent and in return to the steady rate, there has been an influx of broken homes in our current generation’s lifetime and the number will only grow from here. Divorce has a direct impact on those who are incorporated into all facets of the process and for that reason divorce roots run deep causing those involved to never the ability to escape.
In older times, women were responsible for the entire household work. But today, the scenario has completely changed. Now men and women are equally accountable for the household work. Even though the responsibilities have been shared, yet the divorce rate is increasing steadily. Today’s generation couples divorce due to several reasons. This includes fighting and anger between the couples or love for each other has changed. Other reason may be parent fall in love with someone else. Sometimes due to serious problem such as drinking, gambling, and spouse abuse. Financial issues or sharing duties can also be major reason for divorce. Each and every reasons of divorce affect the children’s life differently. In spite of all these reasons, majority of parents don’t care, what will be the affects of divorce on children’s life. How these innocent children handle and adapt to the new environment. Divorce can have both positive and negative affect on children’s life.
For a child, it is very hard loosing a parent. The child's life becomes more stressful because of economic loss and the loss of a supportive parent. Since many children do not adjust well, their behavior is affected. The change is devastating for many children and it affects their entire life. Divorce of parents causes many problems and affects children negatively.
Children will be suffered conflict with the interaction with their parents and siblings, and other aspects in their family life by cause of the divorce (Berk, 2010). Some parents who decide to get divorced that they were waiting the time on arguments and fights. Also, these parents use their children to punishment to one to each other. For this situation, children have a lot of conflicts on their emotions, and they have issues in their security. For instance, the custody’s fights are the biggest battle during the separation, and parents develop a lot of stress during this process. In the majority of the cases, mothers have the custody of their children, and they have to raise as a single mother. Also, the children tend to develop a lot of fears and about what they want to do. The divorce brings several negatives on children, and children live with a lot of stress during the divorce process. As well as, each child is different, and they
Divorce increases the risk of that child will suffer from Psychological and behavioral problems. Many troubled children are more than likely to develop problems with anger, disobedience, and rule violations. Also schools achievements can suffer dramatically. Children may come depressed, anxious, or become over
With this ring I thee wed…. For better or worse, for richer or poorer…. Traditionally, two people speak these words on their wedding day, the day that two become one, the day that two people begin a life together and share an unbreakable union. This may be so in some cases but not all. Divorce among Americans is rampant. In society today divorces are as common as marriages themselves. Couples meet, date, fall in love, marry, and have children and then one day: Wham! Something is just not right with the relationship anymore, so they opt for the easy way out, the big "D". They get a divorce, is this really the easy way? The legalities and dissolution of the union may be easy and painless, but what about the emotions that are still in tact? Although a divorce may be hard on the adults involved, what about the children? What happens to the kids of these broken marriages?
Divorce is the legal separation of a mother and father’s marriage by a court appointed judge. Divorce and an annulment are not to be confused. An annulment is a legal process where you can get your marriage voided in the first 30 days; the marriage was never legal. In most cases divorce is not a onetime life event. It is a stressful experience for the whole family, especially the child. According to Sara Stringer from newspaper article, American Thinker, the divorce rate in America is above 50%. Couples half of the time get divorce because they got married at a young age, have insecurities, and sometimes their parents may have gotten divorced in the future. There are numerous effects that come into play when a chil...
Some people are laid off from their companies; consequently the stress occurs in their family, which leads to divorce. Some families can earn money, but inadequate for covering their expenses, therefore it is easy to think about divorce. Nevertheless, the unemployment rates trend to continually increase as a result the divorce rates can also rise.
Emotions has a big part in the life of the child or divorce parent. Children seems to be insecure and afraid of what the future will bring to them . Children of divorce parent question their future due to what they had been experience. They also may think that they don’t have a real family. The children of divorce parent may afraid to build their own family because of what happen to his/her parents.He/she will ask his/her self is he/she will be a good mother or a father, he/she is not going to have divorce with his/her partner like what happen to her parents.The positive effect of divorce in both parent is they will become happy, they don’t need to hide if there’s a third party and they will free to do whatever they want to do. The negative effect is the mother or the father may use drugs and sometime she/she might do something bad to his/her children because of frustration.Divorce is not like that easy as you think, you think it’s just like buying a new clothes or something you want no it’s not. First you need to file a divorce petition. It need more time to be approved by the court. It need also a very big amount of money in able to have