Discussion of a Patent's Desire to Protect Their Children on the Internet in The Undercover Parent

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Today, the Internet has an important impact on our daily lives. We use it for communication, research, etc. Unfortunately sometimes the Internet can be a dangerous place and we have to be cautious when using it. We do not have as much privacy as we used to have 30 or 40 years ago. The article “The Undercover Parent”, discusses the issue of whether or not parents should put spyware on their child’s computer to monitor everything that they are doing.
Some parents believe that they should put spyware on their child’s computer to monitor them. They want to make sure their child is safe and not talking to a stranger in a chat room or being bullied online. Part of being a parent is to make sure their child is safe and protected, that is one of the reasons why some people they should monitor their child’s activities on line. Parents also want to know if their child has deep secrets that are risky. For example they like to know if their child is getting involved with the wrong crowd and are doing drugs or other illegitimate activities that can put their lives and others in danger. The article gave the example about the straight-A student who was involved with drugs and was sleeping with her drug dealer.
Parents that are not fond with spying on their child’s every move because they believe that the child deserves independence. Some parents think that you should be able to trust your child and that he or she should already know and understand the dangers of the Internet.
I think parents’ concern for the security of their children does override their right to privacy.
I would not want my parents to know everything about my daily routine and girl talk but there needs to be an open communication between parents and kids that creates tr...

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...a betrayal of trust. Spying on your child is wrong because if parents do this it shows that they do not fully trust them. It would definitely darken the relationship between parents and children. I personally think that it could make the situation worse if say a child was talking to someone they like but the parents were extremely against dating. If the child finds out that their parent was spying on them, this could actually make the situation a lot worse. I think that if parents have a child who is typically good and one does things that are considered “rebellious” very rarely, (which is typical for a teenager) the parent does not have to spy on the child. In some cases where the mistakes are repetitive it might be necessary for a parent to spy on their kids. Privacy is an important aspect of our lives and it can really have negative effects if it is violated.

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