At the core of every relationship is communication. In brief, communication is necessary to relay a message from one person to another, and may be accomplished verbally, non-verbally, or through a written format. Although a variety of factors are involved, effective communication occurs when the message delivered by the sender, is interpreted as intended by the receiver. The action of communicating is used to initiate, maintain, and even end a relationship. Although communication comes somewhat second nature to humans, we must still make an effort to communicate effectively. Often times when referring to the basis of communication, talking gets a great deal of attention. However, the foundation of communication begins with listening. Effective communication is a process of development, and is acquired through experience. Through conversations and interactions, an exchange of knowledge occurs, and a person can learn to improve future …show more content…
Occasionally, I found myself interrupting the conversations, as I was eager to speak and make my point. I was so determined to get my thoughts out, that I started cutting people off during the conversation. I continue to struggle with this listening barrier, and sometimes find it difficult to determine an appropriate moment to speak. The expression patience is a virtue, applies to the craft of communication. With that in mind, I recognize my lack of patience when choosing when to speak, as I am often unable to wait my turn. This typically leads to a poorly timed response, and as a result, a shift in the conversation occurs. Recently, I have noticed that there are times during a conversation, that I can display self-absorbed behavior. This critical flaw of mine has shown to have a major impact on my communication with others, especially in regards to my attentive
James Petersen’s book, Why don’t we listen better? Communicating and connecting in relationships, outlines the requirement for a continual use of good communication, through a series of actions and steps, by the practice of comprehending, dynamic listening, and actively perceiving. Listening then becomes a creative force that creates a context in which the development of a communicative relationship can foster.
But are you absolutely sure you 're listening when people speak to you? If you find yourself dominating conversations, almost as if you 're holding court like a celebrity, maybe it 's time to think about walking back your output and concentrating more on the input.
The exchange of thoughts, ideas, and concepts are all dependent on effective communication. Having effective communication enables further understanding of messages that are attempting to be conveyed. By assessing and analyzing my own interpersonal communication abilities I have been able to identify a number of areas where I am strong, as well as some areas where I could improve. This paper will detail information regarding my interpersonal communication skills, the development model, how to repair relationships, strategies for improving listening, ways to overcome communication barriers, and finally an evaluation of conflict management strategies.
I am the person who talks to the people in the grocery store line and leaves by having already given a verbal dissertation on my life or viewpoint. This is a downfall/habit I believe I learned from my family, I am the third generation of "20 Minute talks" I have an inability to stop talking or openly discussing with people. As I have learned to harness myself over the years, I see how it aids in my influencing people, because if someone hears something enough they will begin to believe in your vision or your observation. This also is my direct line to building trust, because it is not only spewing out words and explaining it is paired with listening and being attentive to what others are saying. I align everyday discussion with purposeful direct professional advices. Communication does help me with students when they are trying to explain something and lose words or cannot describe things, it helps them fill in blanks. In Physical Education it is key, I not only have to show visually the movements and actions but verbalize and communicate the sequences for students to use as guidelines for success. If my communication is not clear I had a bank of different word approaches to get through to students if it must be differentiated for them. For many years I have had administrators tell me I over-communicate, verbally, email, and memos. Which is a great thing
When you hear the word communicate many ideas come to mind. To some it brings thoughts of face to face conversations others think of internet based video conferencing. There are many ways to communicate with others in this day and age. Leaders have many tools and methods with which they can communicate with those around them. They must evaluate each situation to determine which method or methods will provide the desired result for what we are trying to communicate to their teams so they can avoid the confusion that comes when they choose the wrong communication method. (Gendron 2015) In this paper we will discuss several communication methods available to leaders and then look at what are some common challenges and barriers they face when
Am I devoting my full attention to the speaker? Am I using non-verbal’s that distract or discourage the speaker from sharing their full thoughts and feelings? Am I interrupting them to share my own feelings or advice that may not even be helpful? I am now capable of understanding when to sit in silence and allow the speaker to share everything that comes to their mind, and when it’s best to jump into the conversation with some impute and advice. I am also capable of recognizing when others are not using good listening skills with me. I used to always think that my best friend understood me so well, and that she was always there to listen to everything I had to say. But really, she tends to always shift the conversation to something that she can relate to, and it’s no longer about me and my feelings. She also tries to fix everything, instead of just simply listening to me. Sometimes you just need someone to sit there and show that they hear you and that they understand what you are
According to Glen E.E. and Pood E.A.’s assessment “Listening Self-Inventory”, I have room for improvement. I scored a 44 out of a range of 15-75. Their assessment said “if you score 60 or above, your listening skills are fairly well honed. Scores of 40 or less indicate you need to make a serious effort at improving your listening skills.” I lean more toward the latter statement. I think if I were to have taken this same assessment four years ago, I would have scored far below the 40 point mark. I was a terrible listener. I did not think some people where worth listening to after a certain point of disagreement and I would merely pretended to pay attention and care about what they were saying. Nonverbal communication, anticipating the other’s
I have a great comfort in engaging others and find it easy to communicate with people. When in a group or engaging with someone one-on-one, I do not find it uncomfortable to engage in a conversation or start one. The strengths I possess in my engagement skills are that I am an extrovert, compassionate, and communicate effectively. However, I do need to work on not always starting a conversation and allowing others to talk first. I also need to improve on my listening skills instead of always feeling that I need to make a contribution to the conversation. Even though I am able to communicate effectively, I sometimes need to remember that others deserve a chance to start an
Communication is a key tool to success in all relationships. Clear communication allows for efficiency and understanding among all parties or persons involved. All too often we blame miscommunications on others, but fail to acknowledge our own shortcomings. In order to better perfect our communication, each of us needs to conduct a self-evaluation. This evaluation should consist of formulating an opinion of ourselves individually as a communicator, determining how others view our communication, and figuring out how we can improve ourselves by setting attainable goals. By reflecting upon each of those three aspects we can strengthen skills and relationships and further discover ourselves along the way.
I was to wait for a conversation to occur, then allow myself to shout in the most outlandish manner as they spoke. If no one initiate talking then I was compelled to start talking first to get them engaged in speaking with me. To make this happen, I had two options, the first was to ask questions or the second option of randomly stating something I hear from the news. Once someone would engage with me, I then gave myself the task of abruptly interrupting them. This first trial was used on my family for the first three days. On day one, I start by asking family members about their plans for the weekend. As they reply to my question I then yelled and quickly tried to observe their reactions. Most of the reactions were of concern. They respond with questions about my wellness and ask what happen and I simply did not reply back. The second day I tried it again this time I’d asked if they. Again, I had interrupted them while responding to my question. This time fewer people were concerned, but instead confused. They would ask “Why?” or “What?” and I would not reply back. On the third day my family patience had begun to deteriorate with me. I’d continue to shout as they spoke with me or while they were speaking with others. For instance, while they were on the phone or talking with each other I’d continuously interrupted them, which had gotten old and became a
However, I am not the only person experiencing this problem since several of my friends have confessed to experience similar instances. Although I might appear to be attentive and listening to someone, the reality is that I have actually stopped listening and my mind is focusing on the present thoughts in my head. This mostly occurs when another person utters words that my mind chooses not to examine, study, or dissect. I continue maintaining eye contact thus making another person to think that I am still keenly
As a professional in today’s society, it is greatly important to be able to communicate effectively with other professionals, with clients, and with those that are encountered in daily living. In order to communicate in a proper manner, not only is talking and non-verbal communication, but a large aspect is the ability to listen. Listening is a vital task in order to build a relationship and find meaning in someone else’s words. In order to find this meaning one must follow the characteristics of active listening, face the challenges to listening, and reflect upon one’s own listening skills.
To be effective listeners, the listening process should be incorporated into our lives. We should be attentive to what people say, clarify what the speaker is trying to come across, and respond in a way the speaker can understand what we are saying. I think I was aware that I needed some improvement in certain areas of this process but I feel as everything is slowly changing. In the future, I’m going try not to interrupt people, get distracted, tune out, and try to get a bigger picture of what the person is telling me. If good listening habits are applied in our day-to-day life, we can easily communicate with anyone and everyone.
Communication is one of the most important factors in our lives. It dictates the relationships formed with the individuals in personal and professional lives. Effective communication provides a foundation for trust and respect to grow. It also helps better understand a person and the context of the conversation. Individuals often believe that their communication skills are much better than what they actually are. Communication appears effortless; however, much of what two people discuss gets misunderstood, thus leading to conflicts and distress. To communicate effectively, one must understand the emotion behind the information being said. Knowing how to communicate effectively can improve relationships one has at home, work and in social affairs. Understanding communication skills such as; listening, non-verbal communication and managing stress can help better the relationships one has with others.
The first concept I used was responsive listening, responsive listening is giving your complete undivided attention, while letting the other person get a chance to speak freely and openly, while the person listening provides only small interjections and nonverbal listening cues while sometimes paraphrasing to show that you have fully been aware. I choose this concept because I felt like sometimes I dominate the conversation with my brother and I decided to just give him complete undivided attention and a chance to talk. I was picking up my brother from school, and from the start he seemed to be...