Love don’t mean to give them what you think is best for them. Love don’t means give them pressure that you think can motivate them. Love don’t mean to have them listen to all your orders. Love don’t mean to satisfy all their desire. Love doesn’t equal to good feelings. So What is the real definition of love?
The Chinese character of Love(愛), is the combination of heart and friend. This is saying the similar things as bell hooks have said, “Love is a combination of care, commitment, knowledge, responsibility, respect, and trust.”(hooks)
Friend means respect. Parents cannot make the decision for their children thinking that they are doing what is best for their children without asking their children’s opinion. Love goes both ways. Parents cannot expect their children to listen to them when they don’t even listen to children. Teens also want their voice to be heard, and make their own life choice. Parents can give their advice to their children, but not making the decision for their children, because no one like others make the decision for them. Love needs respect, parents cannot just deny all teen’s thoughts and works. Denying the teens’ work can destroy all teens confidence and it is not a form of true love.
Friend also means care and responsibility. Parents and their children need to take each other into account and never neglect other’s feeling. Teens have the responsibility to give something back to their parents, not just receive everything and thinking their parents owed them. Overindulgence is neglected, it will only make the children become selfish and make everyone st...
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...se only the people who are depressed will ask what is the meaning of life.
“Life has no meaning. Each of us has meaning and we bring it to life. It is a waste to be asking the question when you are the answer.” (Campbell).
Overall, parents need to give positive influence to their children and help their children to find their talents and help the children to built their self-confidence.
Most people who have experienced their children died by suicide often feel regret they don’t spend enough time with their children and feel guilty for their child’s death. In this world, there is no time machine that can bring you back to the past to undo the things you have already done. Therefore, it is better for you to start to pay attention to the people surround you now, so you will not be regret at the future. Start to learn to love others and you will also receive love later.
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