The book of Job is a great case study for counseling students. From this book, we can observe the good and bad practices of Job’s friends. From the study, I found several principles about grief and loss.
1) Quick to listen and mourn
The friends of Job did something very good from the beginning. When they heard the adversaries of Job, they invited each other to mourn with Job. It is the friends of the client organized a supporting group for the one who is suffering. Their intention is also very well. They want to “sympathize with him and comfort him.” Because of their good intentions, they wept with Job and used culturally appropriate rituals to express their mourning. From the response of Job, we can know that they indeed comforted Job when it was hard for him.
From those positive examples, I
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The grief and loss for Job is so big that he cannot deal with it. His friends tried to make him well with several speeches. However, it takes much longer for a person to recover and grieve over his loss. Grieving is hard work and it takes time. Job really struggled about his faith in God. When it is the proper time, God showed himself to him in the storm. He strengthened Job’s faith through the painful experience. Through time and struggling, Job really experienced God and was comforted.
I should be prepared that my shepherding may not have instant outcomes. It may take months and years to recover from losses. I have to be patient and encourage the clients to be patient to themselves and to God.
There are many lessons we can learn from the book of Job. Although in the paper, I tried to get principles from this book, it is mainly a book about God. God as the father of Job, must be grieving with Job. Job thought the storms brought disasters to him. However, God was in the storms. He wanted to help Job through his sufferings. God mourned with Job and listened to Job’s complaints. He is the ultimate counselor in the
In the story “The Beginnings of grief” Adam Haslett’s protagonist demonstrate the power that grief can have in a person 's life, and one may find comfort in pain and violent encounters with another human being while one is gathering the strength to survive.
I have little doubt that this book will be a terrific addition to the library of any counselor of any stripe, and will be recommended reading for anyone mired in the pain of grief. I ‘m certain that I will not abandon my copy, and that it will always be a first-option resource in my library.
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Jerry Sittser’s book not only brings readers into loss with all its real emotions and pain but it also highlights truths that can be applied to anyone’s life. Sittser’s faith is evident throughout the book and his struggle of finding his faith within his loss and sorrow is encouraging to many. In the end, through his loss, he finds God again and through the writing of his book is now able to offer many insights on the Christian perspectives of sorrow, loss, forgiveness and how mental illness affects families. Sittser inspires readers because they have witnessed that they can too grow and continue living life despite their loss and without forgetting their loss.
Grief can arise from loss, whether large-scale or small, and may not be easily removed once it takes hold. Because of grief’s obstinate nature, many approaches have been developed in order to handle the repressive, and often painful, effects it can have on people’s lives. One of those approaches is Elizabeth Kübler-Ross’s theory, The Five Stages of Grief. In Sierra Skye Gemma’s essay, “The Wrong Way”, she juxtaposes her own personal experiences with grief against Kübler-Ross’s hypothesis. Gemma uses her confessional, combined with empirical evidence that contradicts the Five Stages of Grief, to demonstrate that feelings of grief are unique to the individual; therefore, there is no right way to mourn.
The characters in Alice Sebold’s The Lovely Bones are faced with the difficult task of overcoming the loss of Susie, their daughter and sister. Jack, Abigail, Buckley, and Lindsey each deal with the loss differently. However, it is Susie who has the most difficulty accepting the loss of her own life. Several psychologists separate the grieving process into two main categories: intuitive and instrumental grievers. Intuitive grievers communicate their emotional distress and “experience, express, and adapt to grief on a very affective level” (Doka, par. 27). Instrumental grievers focus their attention towards an activity, whether it is into work or into a hobby, usually relating to the loss (Doka par. 28). Although each character deals with their grief differently, there is one common denominator: the reaction of one affects all.
All in all, the emotions one feels from the death of a loved one can either make or break one’s relationships. Through various characters, the author further demonstrates the possible ways a person can react to adversity, and how their decisions and character influence their relationships. The ability to maintain relationships through adverse situations reveals the internal strength and determination in the person’s character.
... By having them journal their prayers to God daily and encouraging them to read these entries frequently to refresh the memories of those prayers and seek for those that are answered allows for each client to find their way to a spiritual understanding that is not necessarily demonstrated by my impact, but that of God Himself. I am available to answer questions that pertain to the bible, but allow clients to interpret the teaching to their lives and recovery. These approaches allow clients to not rely on my experiences, but on their own encounters and knowledge. Gently guiding them to hear and see how God works in a client’s life is a rewarding and satisfying experience.
an end to Job's suffering, a painless journey to the sweet relief of heaven. This is certainly something Job himself desired of the Lord. It's not uncommon to find raw, honest, expressions of grief spilled on the pages of the Bible. Yet we celebrate David, Moses, Jeremiah, and even Job as being authentic and honest, but heap judgment on Job's wife for similar expressions.
The article "“Whoever We Are, Loss Finds us and Defines Us”, by Anna Quindlen, invokes the necessary emotions needed to understand an agree with the notions stated about death and grief. Yes, Anna Quindlen succeeded in proving her position by her use of emotion, credibility as an accomplished writer, experiences with death and grief and her writing style. Some people live with grief for the rest of their lives, such as Anna Quindlen and some of her examples, while others can overcome the fight. Effectively using all three elements in this article, Quindlen started her engine, shifted this article into gear and ultimately won the race.
Learning to deal with difficult situations is a part of growing up, throughout our lives we face many challenges and situations that we must learn to overcome and move on from. The most challenging of all is learning to deal with the death of a loved one or someone very close to you such as a best friend, especially when it is premature. The short story by Jacob and Wilhelm Grimm ‘The Shroud’ is to do with the loss of a once adored seven-year old boy and the grief and mourning which occurs as a result of such a loss by the mother. However, this story does not teach us to dwell on such a problem, but in fact embrace it, accept it and overcome it, perhaps with the help of a higher person, in this case God.
People tend to fall into routines. Sometimes that is a good thing. However it may be that if a person gets stuck in a routine they will not be able to move forward in their grief journey. It is important to continue making progress and grieving the loss. If a person seems to be stuck, encourage them to try something different. This book is full of suggestions of different things to try.
In considering Job’s companions and their purpose in the interactions in the book of Job, different implications come to the surface depending on the perspective one engages. First, what function would have Job’s companions believed they were performing? Initially, the companions Eliphaz, Bildad, and Zophar come to comfort Job in his pain and grief, as stated by the author in Job 2:11. So they did, as they sat in silence, present with him, and perhaps this was their sole original intent. Yet, once Job begins to speak and articulate his lament, asserting his innocence, the role of these three shifts to one of rebuke and correction. They claim to speak on behalf of truth and God, determining Job to be at fault and dishonest, persisting in
Going through life means experiencing great happiness but also great loss. Every loss we face may hurt and cause us grief, but we must let life take its course and endure the pain, for we cannot know true happiness without knowing true sorrow. Kahlil Gibran’s “The Prophet” discusses the hardships that come with pain and loss and gives insight about how a person can overcome that pain. Even the pain might hurt a great deal right now, the wound will only heal if we allow ourselves to feel that pain. As famous poet Lao Tsu once said, “Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”
"The Book of Job" is an epic tale of pious pessimism from the Old Testament of the Bible about a righteous, God-fearing man named Job. Job has been blessed with many children, and great material wealth. But all of that soon comes to an end as Satan and God begin their debate on whether or not Job would keep his piety in the face of adversity.