The Recovering Dysfunctionals Art Linkletter, a once famous television personality, coined the phrase "Kids say the darndest things!" I have found this also to be true of friends. We all have friends, from mere acquaintances to intimate relationships, with social friends being somewhere in the middle of the span. We meet them at work, church, and, sometimes, at meetings of various types of recovery groups.To protect the innocent (and the not so innocent), I'll refrain from naming the recovery group I attended as well as any individuals involved; let's just call these individuals recovering dysfunctionals. I had the pleasant misfortune of making friends with three very different types of people whom I'll call the dominators, the dependers, and the equalizers. Thedominators are those "know-it-all" types that have to be the center of attention in nearly every situation. They seem to have knowledge covering every subject known to mankind, but especially that of recovering dysfunctionals. They proudly display their knowledge in each and every meeting by speaking with self-appointed authority about the topic under discussion. Being courteous, they wait to be the last person to share in a meeting (or until the internal pressure is about to cause spontaneous combustion) before gracing the group with their vast wisdom. They then go through a series of "one-upmanship" comments about previous speakers to prove how much more knowledge they have than their peers. In or out of the meetings they are always ready to tell others the right way (their way) to manage their lives. One friend, I'll call her Lynda, constantly seeks to tell others how she has found the answers. She'll pry her way into a conversation, probing a person to reveal a personal dilemma, all in the name of helping a fellow human being. Then Lynda will fill the next 15 minutes with a non-stop harangue of what to do to fix the problem. Another example of this type is Fred. He always tells others how "he thought that he knew he knew." Of course, that was before he really knew anything, but now he knows. Dominators also seek to be the center of attention. They accomplish this feat by quite literally dominating conversations. One way they do this is by speaking as frequently and as long as present company will permit. Frequently, they speak and act outside the "norm." That is, the normal speech volume for them is usually twice as loud as most people. They will also act with an over-exuberant amount of compassion for their point, as they speak down from their Olympian heights. The next group, the dependers, are on the other end of the spectrum. They are always seeking help but seem to share a similar need with the dominators-to be at the center of attention. Their grand purpose in life appears to be draining the life out of others. Easily recognizable, they speak with a chronic neediness and will beg for help from nearly anyone. Seldom will they try to seek answers for their problems in any manner other than to act on what others tell them to do. Being considerate of others is not usually part of their character. If they need to call at 3 a.m. to cry out their blues to a sleepy sponsor, that is perfectly acceptable to dependers. Or if they need to spill their guts for two hours over coffee, well that's all right too. Dependers have a dire need for attention, but they display it with a whine that any three-year-old wouldn't be caught using. They operate on the opposite extreme from dominators, usually as emotional wrecks. They are easy to spot because of their tear-soaked faces and tissues. Speech for them is usually interrupted by gasps for breath between their broken sentences. What causes further amazement is their repeated tales of woe. These can be told ten different times in a day and never lose an ounce of intensity. Ninety percent of these tales are about broken relationships. If these dependers are lucky, someone from the next group of friends will be there for them. Somewhere in the middle between the dominators and the dependers are the equalizers, those who are knowledgeable yet open-minded, and helpful rather than self-seeking. First are the "knowledgeable yet open-minded." These equalizers have a firm grasp of the entire program for recovering dysfunctionals. They have gained this knowledge through diligent study of the program's text. In addition, they have practical knowledge from working through all the various stages of recovery.Although knowledgeable, they maintain a significant degree of humility. They don't pretend to offer advice they are not qualified to give, such as a psychologist or marriage counselor might give. They also know there is always more to learn, never claiming to have reached any saintly status. Second, unlike the other two groups, equalizers tend to be more helpful than self-seeking.They accomplish this by being attentive listeners. They will read between the lines to see what a person may not be saying. Visually they will watch to see if another person's body language matches his verbal message. Finally, they have a sincere desire to help others. Their point is never more important than the person they are helping; what motivates equalizers is the satisfaction they gain from giving freely of themselves. In conclusion, recovering dysfunctionals share a common behavioral problem in their pasts. However, the first, the dominators, are loud, pompous, know-it-all types. The second, the dependers, are the over-dependent whiners who live off other people's advice. Finally, the equalizers are the stable and compassionate glue that holds the whole group together. Although these types can be found in recovery groups, they can also be found among friends in general. We all probably have friends like these somewhere; wouldn't life be boring without them?
The author notes that the King at an early age relied mostly on his mentors for knowledge and advice, notably two of which were councils of elders. The King’s entire life and on matters of decisionmaking was under the influence of these elders and from members of the court. The effects of overreliance on the need to make a decisive decision is witnessed when the moment to plan the escape, the King ponders and waste a lot of time in thinking and going over the idea of evading. The King took much time that Marie and Fersen had already begun planning for the escape long before the king had already given the consent for such an idea. Marie’s plan was underway and was schedule on May but the King’s nature of indecisiveness led to his postponing of the due date. Timothy Tackett notes down that the King does not just postpone the escape once but six times. These acts of postponing the escape finally end as he decides on the twentieth of June as the eloping day. The author yet again argues that if the family had left earlier on agreed dates their chances of a safe gateway would be higher and less risky. The King’s decision on postponing and prolonging the escape paved way for a chance that led to the conspiracy to be
Hideous, Grotesque, putrid, typical statements made to others. Most of the time people get their rude manners from their friends. The many things you say to people should be said by your knowledge and yours alone. Discrimination and judgement towards a recipient is a terrible thing to do just from a “friends perspective” on the subject. Judging people in general is obscure don’t get me wrong, but if you do perhaps judge someone, judge them by your own moral standards.
In Laura Purdy’s account of Genetics and Reproductive Risks: Can Having Children Be Immoral?, Purdy’s claim is that conception of a child is immoral when there is reasonable concern of a genetic disorder and if prenatal screening is not done to see how likely it is for your child to obtain that disease, then it is wrong. Purdy thinks it is immoral to reproduce when we are at high risk of transmitting a disease or defect and she says it is wrong to reproduce without knowing the consequences of our genome. The birth of a child at risk of a serious defect could be prevented by abortion or preventing conception of a child. And conception is only allowable once a person has undergone a prenatal screening and if a selective abortion would be done, and for those who are against abortion must be extremely careful not to conceive.
Predispositioning is the initial step when addressing a person in crisis (James,&Gilliard,2013). The ability to be empathetic and supportive during the counseling session is key in the initial interaction (Laureate,2010). Dr. Kristin spoke of the ...
Many people seek therapy for a variety of reasons. Comer (2014) states “that people who seek therapy compared to those who don’t experience greater improvement than seventy five percent of people who don’t get treatment” (pg. 91). This statistic shows there a clear correlation between therapy and problem resolution. What’s the difference between a professional helping relationship that is established in therapy and a having a friend who you have social relationship with hear your problem, aren’t they essentially the same thing? I’ll discuss how a professional helping relationship differs in structure and content from a social friendship and its value in problem resolution.
...ate with their therapists. “A systematic relationship between the therapists' personal reactions to the patient and the quality of their communication, diagnostic impressions, and treatment plans” (Horvath & Greenberg, ). While positive attitudes from the therapists are more likely to result in a successful treatment, negative attitudes will not develop the necessary cooperation from the clients side to successfully reach the goal of the therapy.
others in the same situation for support. Thus, they develop an exaggerated sense of belonging
Treatment under this model is one of problem solving and utilizing an individual’s strengths to overcome his or her issues. The goal is to foster empowerment and self-sufficiency in order for the client to return to his or her environment (Woodside & McClam, 2014).
Dr. Hart argues that social support systems shape how a person deals with their addiction. He brings in the story
person reach the inner side of themselves to help solve any problems that might be arising. Furthermore, when it comes to being a counselor,
However, later on in the treatment process, when a therapist begins to use more confrontational interventions, the client may come to realize that this “good” therapist is not there only to make them feel good. The therapist may also refuse to give advice on demand or reciprocate self-disclosures leaving the client feeling less and less in control. This could result in generalized negative transference. As the pendulum swings in the opposite direction, the client will theoretically then experience the therapist as the prototype of the early “bad”
Using a client-centered framework, a psychotherapist can conceptualize a client’s symptoms in a variety of different ways based on the symptoms that they present. For clients like Mary, the psychotherapist would first conceptualize her symptoms, and then treat these symptoms overtime in therapy sessions. As clients continue to attend these sessions, there is usually some type of improvement that is seen overtime. This improvement may also lead to a change in their attitude and behavior. Within these sessions as well, the therapist looks at factors outside of therapy that may indicate that the client has improved. If the client indeed shows improvement based off of these factors, there are final results that can be clearly witnessed. Mary is truly an amazing client to focus on in order to visualize how this process works from the eyes of a psychotherapist.
Meanwhile, Thisbe, recovered from her fright, came back to the meeting place by the stream. There she saw Pyramus’ body lying in a crumpled heap on the ground. Racked with uncontrollable agony, she took his sword and threw her body onto it.
One thing I have learned is that no road to recovery is wrong, and because I found recovery in the rooms does not mean that is going to be everyone’s path. I encourage every one of my clients to find that path themselves, I am armed with resources to help them but I would never push my views onto them.
To begin I will tell the history of Lego. Master carpenter Ole Kirk Kristiansen opens the doors of his business in 1932, in the village of Billund, Denmark. He made stepladders, ironing boards, stools and wooden toys. His son, Godtfred Kirk Christiansen, started to work in the business at the age of 12. In 1934, Ole Kirk Kristiansen Company and his products now adopt the name LEGO, formed from the Danish words "LEg GOdt" ("play well"). After some time, they realized that in Latin the word "LEg GOdt" means, "I put together". At this time, the company also has 6-7 employees. In 1935, the business creates its first LEGO wooden duck and markets “Kirk´s Sand game” first construction toy. In 1936, Godtfred Kirk Christiansen takes Ole Kirk 's motto