“Give me a bowl of special noodle. Where were you at? I’m waiting you for a long time. Hurry up!” The man shouted at the waitress in the very crowded restaurant and didn’t even give her a look. She didn’t reply but went back to the kitchen. That was a case that I witnessed in the restaurant next to my house. Therefore, when I read the article “Can I Get You Some Manners with That?” written by Christie Scotty, I can understand why Scotty feels kind of angry when the way others treat her depend on her jobs. I agree with her in part, but I believe not all people treat other that way.
In the article, Christie Scotty believes that people treat others based on occupations. “I long ago realized my profession is a gauge that people use to see how smart or talented I am”, she writes. In order to prove her thought, Scotty tells us some examples about her situation. Being a reporter, the readers treated her very cordially. However, when she left that job and took a job waiting tables, plenty of customers judged her as though she were a peon. She mentions “Many of my customers did not get the difference between server and servant.” Therefore, the author believes that people only behave courteousness if money is involved or their relationship centered on “gimme”.
Scotty makes some good points here. I too have seen some people act very impolite. As a cashier in a beauty supply salon for almost a year, I have met three kinds of rude customers. The first kinds of buyers are the people who just care about their benefits and are never concerned about others’ thinking. A woman came to my beauty store to ask for something free because she spent over three hundred dollars. But I explained that we were whole sale, and all the prices here were already cheaper than other stores. However, she still kept asking for some stuffs free of charge. Seeing I was busy with another customer, she replied, “You’re so cheap.” Then she left. Other kinds of customers are quick-tempered people. For example, once I answered the phone, a guy was yelling at me without saying any greeting. “Where’s my stuff? Why didn’t you send it to me? I really need it for today” he questioned me with a “heavy” tongue. After asking him to recheck his order patiently, he found out that he forgot to order it.
Although we all strive to obtain the best in life, we quickly learn that there is much more to life than just filling an empty void with luxuries. This is the prime theme in the narrative poem titled "Pathedy of Manners" by Ellen Kay. Kay uses strong imagery to describe this woman's superb lifestyle and the change of winds that occur as time passes. The woman in this story appears to be everyone's envy, however we quickly learn that perception is not always reality. Material things simply cannot fulfill and empty void of one's life.
“Kids eat free on Sunday right?!” “Can I substitute this juice for a Bloody Mary?” “Can I taste that first?” “Oh!? I’m sorry we haven’t even looked at the menu yet. We’ll just be a bit . . . (45 minutes later) . . . ok, were ready.” “Yeah, were ready. Let me have . . . uh . . . oh where was it? Here! Wait no. Where did it go? I can’t find it. You know it has the thing with the thing on it . . .” “Can we get some more of your FREE bread!” These quotes, among a plethora of others, are common occurrences with the serving field. Sometimes even the smallest actions can show one’s personality in a big way. With hundreds of people dining out every single day it becomes easier to allocate them into many different classifications based on their personal tipping fashion; classes such as the ‘Percent Tippers’, the ‘Performance Review Tippers’, the ‘I’m a Server Too Tippers’, the ‘Non-Monetary Tippers’, the ‘Special Occasion Tippers’, and the much desired ‘Whale Tippers’.
There are several types of challenging customers and these range from a timid customer to a very aggressive and abusive customer. The timid customer will show signs of being embarrassed, speaks slowly and will wait for others to ask questions. The suspicious customer will try to take over the conversation and will have doubts on what you are trying to sell them. This type of customer can quickly become aggressive. The very rude or aggressive customer is the most challenging, especially if they are complaining about something. They are offensive, body language and red faced shows aggression.
In the story “Be Cool to the Pizza Dude” by Sarah Adams talks about the importance of treating others equally no matter what the person is like or looks like. This also includes being kind and cool to the pizza dude. Adams also talks about how being cool to the pizza dude is a practice of equality, she believes that her measurement as a human being, her worth and her pride she takes in her job or someone else's comes with respect for others.
... and that everyone matters. Our children's future and success will be enhanced by the use of appropriate behavior. Let us create an environment in our homes, schools, and churches where manners are taught and valued so that every child feels safe and becomes all they were created to be. A quote by William Arthur Ward makes people wonder whether they have been polite and good-mannered during the day: "God gave you a gift of 86, 400 seconds today. Have you used one to say thank you?"
Apparently many American have been infected with the rudeness virus. Some might get it from the stressful and hectic life style they live or maybe the adult was just raised in an environment where manners didn’t matter.
In the first article Jobs Taken for Granted which was written by Mohamed Hag Ali, He uses two personal stories to convey his belief. In the first story he explains how hard it is to find a job, and how people struggle to find it using his own personal experience and he then added “it’s not that easy to find a job and people should start appreciating their jobs and stop taking them for granted.” (Hag Ali, 2013, Para. 3). In his second story he explains how customers treat the staff members of small jobs showing their ill manners. Hag Ali stated that, “[Some cu...
...e persuasive and understandable. The most important lesson I learned in this article was to appreciate those people who provide services to us. They are work at poor conditions and are forced to work as a nonstop machine to fight for their daily living. According to work perspective, for majority of the time we do not stand out for others despite their innocence, “So why didn’t I intervene”? (275). we would just remain silent in order to keep our jobs. In this essay, Ehrenreich recounts how she felt guilty for not standing up for George when he was accused of stealing goods. This feeling of inability is common in low-income people, not well-educated workers limits their opportunities to find better jobs.
People are consumed with their own reality that they didn’t even acknowledge me sitting at a table watching them. Each person seemed to have their own stories different from everyone else’s. For the most part, the employees seemed to have similar interests in wanted to produce the best customer service. The customers had the same goal of wanting to try a new popular restaurant they might have been unfamiliar with. Overall, the general consensus was that a majority of people wanted to get on with their day with as little human interaction as
People go on and on about how they wish that others would be nicer or more helpful, yet they themselves are rude, inconsiderate, and could care less about other peoples
As I experience college life, I realize my morals are different from others. When crossing the street, I always wait for the cars to pass and if I do cross I make sure they see me. This is also a safety precaution that I was taught because drivers are frequently distracted and do not see pedestrians walking. On University of Northern Iowa’s campus, drivers are used to waiting for pedestrians; instead, I find myself waiting for the cars to go when really they are waving me to cross. Other students mindlessly walk across the street not even thinking about the cars. Another moral of mine is the golden rule; treat others how you would like to be treated. However, other kids did not grow up in a town that taught this. So, I let others in the door first, open the door for others, or let them cut in line. While everyone else takes advantage of what I am doing for them and do not receive a “thank you” back I brush it off because I know better. For my culture system to survive and thrive well we need to treat others well. This is part of the functionalist perspective that Emile Durkheim describes with the Arunta tribe. He understood the role that religion had on
As a child growing up, I was taught to be well mannered at home and everywhere I go. I was taught to say please and thank you, yes ma’am, and to hold the door open for individuals. In todays society, more and more people are forgetting their manners and are becoming offensively impolite. Whenever I go to a store to shop or even just to go out in public to burn some time, I never forget to take my manners with me. As I'm out and about, I've noticed the rudeness of individuals and some take
Apart from the Japanese honorifics or politeness, I would like to observe other results of MT from English to Japanese in order to measure their effectiveness.
When entering a restaurant, I usually expect to leave full, satisfied, and wanting to come back again. I believe that many people expect the same thing. The way people react to service can be very different from person to person. Depending on the way the customers are feeling, or the way that the server is feeling can be a big factor for the way service comes across. Service is an important part of everyone’s lives because majority of the jobs that people preform are service related. Poor service is an unfortunate part of life that everyone comes across. The way that I react to the poor service I receive is important and can change in the blink of an eye. Whether I react in an outspoken way, by getting loud and voicing my opinion. Or if I react in a quiet or apologetic way, it can affect my server, and the people around me, and myself.
The purpose of the Cultural Etiquette Quiz was to help us determine how culturally knowledgeable we are. I discovered I know nothing about cultural etiquette. I could only answer one question correctly, question number 12, and I'm pretty sure everyone else knew the answer to this question too.