Many siblings have differences, many don’t agree with each others ideals and morals, but the differences between Eugene and Aunty Ifeoma are larger than most siblings. Eugene is successful,wealthy, and a prominent figure in his society. Religion plays a large role in his life to the point where it turns into fanaticism. He does a lot of social work and gives a lot of donations, but no one can see the abuse that he inflicts on his family at home. We see throughout the novel that in the social environment Eugene acts different and at home is not the same way as he portrays himself. The role that religion plays in his life also makes a large difference in the way he treats his family. Aunty Ifeoma on the other hand is the opposite of Eugene. She is an independent educated woman. As a widow she was able to raise her children on her own and start her own career. Kambili and Jaja were saved by her emotionally and physically. The main differences between Eugene and Aunty Ifeoma are their families, their …show more content…
They are both hard-headed and she is the only one who would be able to change him. She had no fear of telling him because she knew he wouldn’t dare to do anything to her or her children. Aunty Ifeoma got up and started to shout. Her voice was unsteady. “I will put my dead husband’s grave up for sale, Eugene, before I give our father a Catholic funeral. Do you hear me? I said I will sell Ifediora’s grave first! Was our father a Catholic? I ask you, Eugene, was he a Catholic? Uchu gba gi!” Aunty Ifeoma snapped her fingers at Papa; she was throwing a curse at him. Tears rolled down her cheeks. (189) Eugene and Ifeoma are different but have the same character. They use their authoritative mindset in different ways. Ifeoma uses it help her family get on the right track while Eugene uses it as a way to get what he wants from his
Just because people within a family are blood related and living together, it does not mean they are identical in their beliefs and actions. In some cases the generations of people in the family have the same way looking at things and understand the same sets of rules and believe in same kind of moral behavior. Unlike that, in the novel, “The Chrysalids”, the protagonist, David Strorm and his father, Joseph, the antagonist have very different characters and conflicting points of view.
The comparison between siblings has become a universal problem over the past several decades, as implied in Peg Kehret’s elementary monologue, I’m NOT My Brother; I’m Me. Through Jonathan, Kehret expresses the valuable message to never judge people based on the characteristics of their siblings. As the oldest child in my family, I support Kehret’s message and additionally believe that every individual is different and hence, should not be judged or compared with their siblings, family members or friends.
Growing up it is normal for siblings to have the same kinds of values instilled in them by their parents. Sometimes due to circumstances and things beyond the control of the parents’ the siblings will turn out much differently from one another. Although Dee and Maggie are sisters their view on family values and what family means is quite different. In Alice Walker’s “Everyday Use” we learn about the differences between Dee and Maggie and what it is that family means to each one as seen through the eyes of their mother or “Mama”. The sisters have differing views on family possessions and what they should be used for, how they view and feel about the house they live in or grew up in and about the family’s heritage.
Gillespie describes the story in her more dramatic moments, the comparison of the two sisters, the arrival of Dee to the house, the values of Maggie and Dee where one is more materialistic than the other. Maggie explainsthe culture of the story through the two sisters “Maggie is interpreted as the character representing the traditions of rural African-American communities and the aspects of African-American life associated with the South. On the other hand, Dee can be read as a symbol of the complexities of assimilation.”, one sister keeps the tradition of the family and the other is not mean person but choses a different path.Gillespie concludes saying this” By the end of the story, the reader comes to understand and to sympathize with the perspectives of Maggie and her mother and to question the imposition of external values and judgments on communities that may have different but no less valid and valuable cultural understandings.”, she interprets that neither the decision of Maggie or Dee are bad, both decisions are right according to them, their values and judgment are equal valid for both of
From the time a child is born, in usual circumstances, that child is loved unconditionally. A person grows up with their family, and is able to express who they really are. Because of this, ties within the family are usually quite strong. Take for example the relationship between Idgie and Buddy: Idgie (Imogene), a dare-devilish tomboy, and her older brother Buddy are quite close until Buddy's untimely death. Idgie takes his passing with difficulty: "You never saw anybody hurt so much. I thought she would die right along with him" (Flagg, p.37).
Each person in the family starts to develop a job or rule that that play in the family that others can’t really fill. For example Jeannette and Brain’s relationship with each other are almost stronger than anyone in the family. The role that Brain plays is the one that is extremely quiet unless with his family and even though he is a younger sibling he sees it as his goal to protect Jeannette, even if it evolves fighting older bigger girls but if it’s for his family he will do it. Lori is always lost in a book but he is like the mother of the family even though their real mother is around. Their father is bright man that the kids get to see from time to time but then there alcoholic father appears and that’s when problems arise. When it comes to functioning at younger ages they were almost completely dependent on their parents like all kids are, as they started to reach teenage they started to rely less on their parents and more on each other. They started to get their own jobs, when they needed resources they would rather depend on each other or themselves. The communication was free for the kids if they had a question or a problem they would voice their concerns but the only time they didn’t was when they saw that their father was drinking or was drunk. They left the
Ambuya and Aunt Chipo from Girl Named Disaster by Nancy Farmer are two very different people who don’t have many things in common besides being related and religion . Ambuya is a very loving and caring person, she loves all until you give her a reason not to. Aunt Chipo is just very mean and cares only of her perfect daughter and her self, and wants Nhamo out of the picture. Ambuya is a modern and traditional person but Aunt chipo is all traditional. The relationship between them has love, hate, and is sometimes tense Ambuya shows favoritism to Nhamo and that just adds to Chipo jealousy and anger toward Nhamo.
In The Sibling Effect, Jeffrey Kluger discusses the psychological effects of brothers and sisters on human behaviour and the significance of relationships between siblings. In children, typically their behaviour is affected by their parents and the natural habitat of the environment around them. A person’s childhood experiences affect their character development as they grow to adulthood. The children who do not get as much attention from their parents as their other siblings often grow up having anger issues with their brother/sister . The novels I Know This Much Is True, by Wally Lamb, and My Sister’s Keeper, by Jodi Picoult, both feature parental figures who mistreat their children, as both parents in each book favour one child over the other. I Know This Much Is True is about twin brothers, Dominick and Thomas. Dominick is the eldest while Thomas, the younger, has paranoid schizophrenia. Dominick is torn between being independent and taking care of his brother. His anger towards his brother results from his feeling that he was not as loved by his mother as Thomas. The second novel is about two identical sisters, Kate and Anna. Kate is older and Anna is younger. However, Kate has acute leukemia and Anna has been scientifically modified to keep her sister alive. Anna has always taken care of her sister, but it reaches the point where Anna needs to donate a kidney to Kate. In both novels, the parents tend to ignore one child and seem willing to even abandon the child’s needs, yet, in order to take care of their favourites. As they feel sympathy and sadness towards the deceased child. An important difference between the novels is that the protagonist, Anna, in My Sister’s Keeper ironically dies in a car accident after finally win...
The grandmother receives what Catholics call a “moment of grace.” Grace fills the grandmother with a supernatural love and understanding that helps her to see The Misfit as a fellow suffering human being whom she is obligated to love. At that very moment she receives divine grace that transforms both her and The Misfit. Jesus has commanded us all to love others as we love ourselves, including our enemies. It is in this view that the grandmother realizes that she, as a human being is inclined toward evil, pettiness, and selfishness. She could never have come to such selfless love without God’s grace. It is at the end that she tells The Misfit, “You’re one of my own children!” She then realizes that The Misfit is one of her children, in the sense that we are all God’s children, and that if she practiced what she preached, maybe this situation would have ended
Junior’s grandmother was important to everyone in the village. When Junior’s Grandmother died it impacts a lot of people. “ We were stunned because almost two thousand indians came that day to say goodbye.” (Alexie 159). Because of this Junior realizes that his grandmother wasn’t just important to him, she was important to two thousand more people. This is also good for Junior because he had just changed schools and was being called a disgrace and a traitor but people leave him alone because of this. It also makes Junior realize that his grandmother was an amazing person and he should be proud of that. Junior’s Grandmother was important to people from out outside of the village. At the funeral more than just indians come. “ Yep, about two thousand indians (and a few white folk) sat and stood on the football field as we said goodbye to the greatest Spokane indian in history” Also, “My grandmother knew billionaire Ted” (Both 161) Because of this, Junior feels even better about his grandmother and
Okonkwo rejects his children because of his insecurity of the clan’s opinion. He values strength and masculinity. Not only does Okonkwo not see these qualities in his son, Nwoye, but also recognizes how he is weak and feminine. Okonkwo is so ashamed of his own child that he “will not have a son who cannot hold up his head in the gathering of the clan. I would sooner strangle him with my own hands” (33). Okonkwo’s uncertainty of clan’s opinion causes him to make drastic statements, such as threatening to murder his own child, in order to prove himself worthy of the society. Okonkwo would rather not have a son than have one who would tarnish his reputation. As a result, he repudiates his own son. When Okonkwo is explaining to Obeirka about his disappointments with his children, he reveals his grief about Ezinma’s gender when he states his “children do not resemble me […] If Ezinma had been a boy I would have been happier. She has the right spirit” (66). Although Ezinma has all of the masculine characteristics Nwoye lacks, she is a girl. Okonkwo cannot accept his daughter because women are inferior to men in the Ibo culture. Thus, Ezinma’s masculine traits are worthless. The complications of Ezinma’s gender that e...
Their father’s teachings do not seem to apply in their house. Jaja and Kambili admit to feeling out of place, for they have been raised in an extremely strict household and now feel liberated. Kambili then comes home to her upset father, Eugene, who awaits her in the bathtub. Kambili is filled with fear as she sees the kettle they use to boil water. Eugene pours the boiling hot water on Kambili’s feet. Eugene explains, “That is what you do to yourself when you walk into sin. You burn your feet.” (194). Catholics believe that sin will lead to hell. Without reconciliation, it is believed one is in great danger (“Roman Catholicism”) . The power religion has in Eugene’s life is tremendous as he has no sympathy in harming his children for the sake of his religious
Each had the realization that they shouldn’t treat elders this way as soon as it affected them. The young lord only decided to treat elders well after one helped him keep his rule on the village, paying no attention to pleas for mercy beforehand. The son and wife were only able to have sympathy for the grandfather after they were faced with the idea of themselves being in that same situation. This shows that both characters are unable to feel sympathy unless a situation affects or if they are threatened with being put in that
Okonkwo resents his father because of his weakness and apparent failure; therefore, he worked diligently to ensure that he would become everything his father was not. Ironically, his first born son, Nwoye, developed much like Unoka, despite Okonkwo’s rash efforts to steer his son to model himself. Fear of being perceived as being weak and different drives Okonkwo’s rejection and anger towards his son when he becomes a Christian. Achebe states that after Okonkwo heard of Nwoye’s association with the christians he attacked him: “Nwoye turned round to walk into the inner, compound when his father, suddenly overcome with fury, sprang to his feet and gripped him by the neck,”(Achebe,151). Without his accumulated fear of weakness and judgement Okonkwo may have not acted as rashly to Nwoye’s new found faith. However, due to Nwoye’s resemblance of Unoka, his father, Okonkwo’s rationality is clouded by fear and resentment. As a father, Okonkwo can not accept, nor understand how he beget such a “degenerate and effeminate” son. Through this use of irony, Achebe once again emphasizes Okonkwo’s gripping fear and how it drives him to anger and otherwise unjustifiable
They were not people she would ring if needed help. Who would she ring if she needed help? Her brothers? They would lend her cash if she was short of money, give her a bed for a couple of nights if her building collapsed in an earthquake or was guttered by a fire. She could count on them; they were the sort of brothers, sisters said, they’ll do anything for me. But they didn’t know her. Conversations at family dinners were possible only if they focused on the football, or travel. Intimacy was dependant on collusion - always against their mother – they complained about her outrageous demands, laughed about her latest acquisition.