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Goman, C. K. (2013, August 4). Forbes Welcome. Retrieved from http://www.forbes.com/sites/carolkinseygoman/2013/08/06/where-the-truth-lies-across-cultures/2/#2715e4857a0b1e98403e4ac6 In his article the author, Goman talks about how a lie is received based on an individuals culture. She interviews a CEO by the name of Stuart Friedman who deals with communication between the U.S. and other countries in business dealings. Friedman talks about his experiences candidly of business dealings in Canada, Brazil, South Korea, Japan, and Finland. Culture has a big influence on how people lie, why people lie and how lying is perceived. In the Asian culture lying is not necessarily a bad thing to them, they rather find
There is no one reason to why people lie but the authors categorize the 2 main reason’s for lies, people either tell lies to benefit themselves or to benefit the other. Where you are from does affect how you value lying. In America, we tend to have a high standard for those that prove trustworthy so we think at least. We are more straightforward whether the honesty may hurt the other person’s emotion or strain a relationship. We are more concern with the benefit of telling the truth for ourselves as an individual more than how it will affect us as a “group”. In our culture we challenge what we don’t agree with and “keep it real” with peers, thinking soley about how honest of a person we are by being direct and truthful. What if people don’t really want to know the truth as much as we think but want to hear something satisfying to the ears and safe to their emotions. Well, in Eastern Asia they have adopted this style of lying. They prefer to save face and not hurt the other person’s feelings. In this culture they tend to be more concern with the feeling of other as oppose to their own. Overall it is important to consider other cultural identity when determining how and why one lies and how you can expect from one of these cultures in communication.
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It tells us how often we lie or tend to lie under different situations and scenarios by taking real world examples. Kornet explained and analyze the result of various studies by Bella DePaulo, a psychologist at the University of Virginia and her colleagues. As lying and deception becomes an integral part of every individual, it is important to know its impact and its results on our life. We are lying about one or the other thing at almost every moment of our life. It can be at workplace, in a relationship, or even friendship. Kornet concludes this article by saying, “The ubiquity of lying is clearly a problem, but would we want to will away all of our lies? Let’s be honest.” I completely agrees with the author as we have to take a step against lying and deception and to be honest in our lives. Kornet’s article provides really good studies and after analyzing those studies one can think of his/her lying habit and how often he lies in a day. I myself tried and thinking about how many times in a day I lie, and found that I lie a number of times in a day. This article is really interesting and I encourage everyone to read this article. After reading this article, you will come to know the actual truth about lying and its
Not all strangers are dishonest, nor are all cultures reluctant to do business with “outsiders” (Macy & Skvoretz, 1998)
In society, some people are looked at as liars or “bullshitters,” as stated in the article, “Is Lying Bad for Us?” Honesty is not always the best policy, and in certain situations, liars are best not to tell the truth when protecting the innocent, or protecting oneself. Because of this, lying should be looked at as a standard in society and something that people recognize in every day life.
Richard Gunderman asks the question, "Isn 't there something inherently wrong with lying, and “in his article” Is Lying Bad for Us?" Similarly, Stephanie Ericsson states, "Sure I lie, but it doesn 't hurt anything. Or does it?" in her essay, "The Ways We Lie.” Both Gunderman and Ericsson hold strong opinions in regards to lying and they appeal to their audience by incorporating personal experiences as well as references to answer the questions that so many long to confirm.
The society that we live in today is built around lies. Banks lying to customers in order to feed the capitalist mindset, politicians lying to citizens in order to gain power, and charities taking donations with open arms however are stingy when giving back to the cause. The common reason why these organizations lie is to hide what they truly are. People also deceive others in order to hide who they truly are. From a young age, lying becomes engraved into one’s mind, we are taught to walk, talk, and lie.
As John Ruskin once said, “The essence of lying is in deception, not in words.” This essence is debated in “The Ways We Lie”, written by Stephanie Ericsson, and “Doubts about Doublespeak”, written by William Lutz. In “The Ways We Lie”, Ericsson talks about the different ways people lie on a day to day basis. By comparison, in “Doubts about Doublespeak”, Lutz discusses the different forms of doublespeak that many individuals frequently use. Lutz considers doublespeak as a language that distorts the meaning of words in order to deceive another person, and only “pretends to communicate” (83). Although both authors agree that lying is about the use of deceptive language, Ericsson describes this use of language as occasionally being necessary,
Stephanie Ericsson’s The Ways We Lie, analyzes and reflects on how lying has simply become the norm in our society. We all lie, there is not one person in the world that does not lie. Most people lie because they are afraid of telling the truth, however what they do not know is telling a lie can lead them in the wrong direction because many things can happen when lying to a person. The person can find out when everything unravels that person will not have trust in you and you would be known as a liar. To every action there is a consequence, so why not deal with just one consequence when telling the
In “The Ways We Lie”, Ericsson describes the different types of lies: white lie, facades, ignoring
Lying is an issue that has been debated on for a long time. Some people believe that lying is sometimes ok in certain circumstances. Some people believe lying is always acceptable. In contrast, some believe lying is always bad. Keeping all other’s opinions in mind, I believe that lying is a deficient way of solving problems and is a bad thing. I claim that only certain situations allow the usage of lies and that otherwise, lying is bad. Dishonesty is bad because it makes it harder to serve justice, harms the liar individually, and messes up records. Furthermore, it should only be said to protect someone from grave danger.
Often people think that telling lies will persuade the other party to comply with our preferred outcome, but that does not always work. Lies bring more consequences than benefits. The problem with lies is that they are lies; they are fabrications of the mind and does not hold any factual value, thus people tend to forget them, and leaving them more exposed to being caught. Lying in negotiations can come in various forms, but often comes in the form of fraudulent statements. A given statement may be defined as fraudulent when the speaker makes a knowing misrepresentation of a fact on which the victim accepts as true, and causes damage (Lim, 2011, pp. 171-178). If the liar is caught, the liar may be faced with possible criminal charges for falsification, or making false statements. The reputation of the liar would be significantly damaged and relationships would be twisted. Often, if one is caught lying, the trustworthiness of the liar would be severely diminished. The relationships between the liar and the other negotiating party would be damaged. In this case, lying would be considered as a breach in the relationship between the negotiating parties, as it is the cause that the relationship has gone sour. When a sense of mistrust develops, future negotiations would be very difficult, and or near impossible. This is very true in certain Asian countries like China. The Chinese put great emphasis than Americans and Europeans on respect and friendships (Lim, 2011, pp. 240-245), aspects of relationships in negotiations. Thus, if there was a breach in the relationship caused by lying, which leaves an impression of disrespect and unfriendliness, a favorable outcome from the negotiation would most likely be denied. Therefore, for any negot...
We lie all the time, lying is not something new to our culture. We lie to our parents, we lie to our friends, we even lie to our significant other, but why do we do it? There is not one set reason on why we lie but they can vary from an insignificant reason to something more nefarious. A good operational definition of a lie is “A lie is a false statement to a person or group made by another person or group who knows it is not the whole truth, intentionally.” (Freitas-Magalhães) We have been raised to know that lying is usually a bad thing, and it’s better to tell the truth, not to mention the circumstances get exponentially worse if you are caught lying. No one wants to be labeled as a liar, or untrustworthy. This may sound unorthodox but I personally think lying is perfectly fine; depending on the situation. If you have a prima-facie duty to be dishonest it’s perfectly acceptable. Ross says a prima facie duty or obligation is an actual duty. “One’s actual duty is what one ought to do all things considered.” (Carson) I’m not the only one who finds this too be true. Ross would also agree with me, He says “Lying is permissible or obligatory when the duty not to lie conflicts with a more important or equal important prima facie duty.” (Carson) As I was doing research on this topic I did read one extremely compelling argument on why we ought not to lie. Aristotle basically said a person who makes a defense for lying could never be trusted. (King.)
Honesty is a characteristic that everyone should possess. However, being honest is a difficult task for many people. Living honestly means allowing a person’s true self to be exposed to others. Honesty is considered owning up to one’s wrongdoings and not lying, cheating, or stealing. Being honest is a trait that many people believe is obsolete. Even though every person interprets honesty differently, it all stems back to telling the truth. Being honest allows a person to earn respect from their peers. Honesty is allowing oneself to be completely exposed by being truthful.
Can you remember the last time someone lied to you? Or how about the last time you lied to someone else? Did you ever stop and ask yourself why? There are so many different reasons that a person might lie. Maybe a lie about something to keep oneself out of trouble, or even a lie to impress other people. But either way there are always going to be serious consequences or effects of lying.
Liars have rumors spread around about how they lie all the time. Nobody wants to talk to them because they won't know if they are lying to them or not. They aren't trusted as much as people who don't lie. Liars never get very far in life and always have a reputation of lying. It's much better to tell the truth and have friends who trust them, rather than lying and having rumors spread around making no one like them.
Telling the truth teaches one person self- respect for themselves and others as well. Telling the truth also sets a good example for others to do the same thing and make a “chain reaction”. People can make a “chain reaction” by passing on what they have done from one person to another, and before you know it, everyone is changing greatly, and the world is progressing tremendously. Lies are told all around the world, and they are told every day. One lie can often lead to another lie and cause you to be caught up in one big lie that will be hard to get out of if people do not tell the truth. If a person thinks that is okay to lie, they better think again, the truth always comes out no matter how hard a person tries to keep it in, or how much someone thinks that they can get away with lying. No person can keep in or hold a grudge with what they have done. After all, telling the truth is the right thing to do, and everyone should do it. Telling the truth is always much easier than the trouble of a