Communication Dilemmas: Listening, Conflict, And Nonverbal Communication

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This paper will consist of information I have collected through an interview with Danny and Erin Lyons. Danny and Erin are my soon to be in-laws and have been a part of my life for almost three years now. Mr. and Mrs. Lyons were together for six months before getting engaged. They have currently been together for a total of ten years, nine of which they have been married. During my interview, I will be asking Mr. and Mrs. Lyons a series of questions about their marriage using three different communication concepts (Listening, Conflict, and Nonverbal Communications). The questions will better help me understand the level at which their marriage currently is and how it has gotten to this point. Some examples of these questions are, “What attracted you to …show more content…

Even a persons posture can tell you a lot about how that person thinks of him or herself. My first question was “Can the two of you tell the others mood without them saying anything?”. Both Immediately laughed and said “oh yeah.” Danny then began to describe how Erin acts when she is angry or upset. He said she will get quiet and act like nothing is wrong and just completely ignore the matter. Then Erin replied with saying Danny was the same which is why she guesses they avoid conflict so easily. My final question on nonverbal communication, I asked about their immediacy behaviors, which I explain is like flirting, being playful, expressing affection and showing love. My question was “Do you show each other affection day to day to let your spouse know you love them, and how?” Erin replied with “We’re pretty well past the flirting and being playful stage, but yes, we do show each other affection and always make sure the other knows we love them.” Danny replied with “I guess I hold her hand time to time, and tell her I love her.” Which got a pretty good laugh out of

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